Long winded, but advice, thoughts, feedback appreciated
Ok, so got out of a LTR about 5 months ago, Im very busy with work and running my own business, I don't really have time for long winded games, I'v barely been out and had no time to actively game, which helps the alpha persona. Yet, I have been meeting a high amount of women, but because I don't need to just bang, and Im "looking" more for a relationship kind of girl, ( saying this I'm in no rush), Iv been dismissing all women Iv met because they don't match up in terms of GF material.
So, fast forward to 2 weeks ago,I know the basics of game, but try to keep it more natural, so I meet a girl, she's good looking sold 8 (I live in the real world where there are no actual 10's, only in movies)
Great GF material, get on fantastic, always laughing, similar interests, good career, has her own place, good car ( not that the materialistic things matter, just shows she is driven and knows where she is going). Goes out more occasionally, not a party girl every week.
Anyway, she seems to like to take things slow, for date 3 I invite her over to mine, she isn't too keen as we don't know each other that well, I actually like this, shows character and not just a slag. We do something else and have a fantastic night ( still no bang, just kissing, if I try to escalate she does non verbal to show she isn't ready) No problem for me.
Next, date 4, friday night just gone, we arrange to watch movies at hers, snuggle up on the sofa, LOTS of kino, kissing, on and off for 2 movies, every time I try to escalate I get non verbal knock backs, nothing major and its never awkward, but then she starts running her hands up my top, rubbing my leg, I gesture to go upstairs, "after this movie"…anyway, it finishes she grabs my hand and we go up, she sits on her bed, I crash out, rolling over sideways dragging her with me tickling her, she's laughing her head off, deep kissing, tops off, jeans off, bra's off…she grabs my cock….wispers "do you have a condom?"
I dont…uh oh…this is where it goes down hill, I try to reinitiate but nothing, we end up snuggling, Im disappointed, but again, it shows more GF material so its not a total loss. Morning comes, we both have things to do so get up, go to give her a kiss on the check (I had bad morning breathe) she turns it into a kiss on the lips, so thats good.
That was friday night/saturday morning. Im busy socially all day and evening saturday, and again sunday during the day. Sunday, around 6pm after a couple of drinks I accidentally text her "hey", was about to compose a message for her, accidentally hit send, panicked a little, and then sent her a bit of a lame secondary follow up message, "hows it going knobbly knees?x" only saving grace is knobbly knees was a nickname I had been giving her and she thought it was funny..still bait AFC though, Im aware
So its now tuesday morning and Iv heard nothing. Im still super busy with my business and have important dates and deadlines, but this girl is the first girl Iv seriously liked since my ex, and come to think about it, the last few years.
Typically I text and see multiple girls at once, and it means Im busy, don't get too into one girl, and they end up liking me more for it, but with my schedule, and new dismissing of any girl who doesn't match up because I don't have time to settle for anything below what I want, she's the only one I'v been seeing. Normally I would say something might have come up, she said she had monday and tuesday off work and was going to see her parents, sure, real life comes up, but no text for a few days, unlike her, we are very on off with texts, either loads back and forth over a couple of hours, or 1/2 each way a day.
Normally when I see other people post on here about specific girls I think, "if your posting about it, its too late"
Im unsure IF I have gone wrong, then what I'v done wrong, she was super keen, then when I had no condom she hasn't spoken to me, I appreciate this looks unprepared and like Im an AFC in that regard, however, without blowing my own trumpet, Im larger than normal, condoms are a real struggle to get on, if I can get one on, it squeezes my dick so hard all the blood is forced back out, and I struggle to keep it up. Most girls realise this, or if I/they have a condom i say "your welcome to try and get it on" some girls look at it, and realise its like trying to wrap a tesco's plastic bag around a transit van, the physics just don't add up…And won't even attempt it. Others will give it a brief go, realise it won't happen, throw the condom away, and we get down to business anyway, because its simply ruled out…. Thoughts, feedback, suggestions really appreciated dudes.
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