Hello everyone,
I want to share with you some parts of my life and dilemma and maybe a question.
3 years back when my GF left me and I joined the Israel Army I started to read "THE GAME".
From that book I learn key topics and started to learn them, starting from inner gamer to learning approach correctly then build conversation, qualification, rapport, seduction, body language, NLP and so on.
I have to highlight, everything I learned was used at the same time I was learning, practicing and teaching to fully memorize everything.
My motivation was not just woman but I am seriously thinking that knowing all of this stuff is related to a big success in life.
Year and something after learning most of the stuff I got my EX back goals for some of us right?
After getting the knowledge I had to analyze my old relationship so called first love and to understand where it went wrong and after we got back our relationship has improved dramatically, the parents who haven't accept me last time when we spend 2 years together accepted me and also trusted me after few days with my new set of skills.
BUT after 3 months we broke again.

My big conclusion,
After learning all of the topics it became hard for me to feel anything usually for just a woman.
rarely I get attracted and want a very specific woman that I always get.
The most disturbing thing now is a relationship when you read body language and you can see what your girl is doing with her body and it is very disturbing to understand that she might look for others attention .
And finally LOVE?
What does it really mean anymore?
Yes i know she loves me for few months and she shows it in every way but sooner or later sides lose interest even if they stay together there is no more ignition but if to believe the fairy tales that a real big never ending love exists and if so how does it last because I know from experience even if both sides love each other its not enough.

Something is missing for me to complete the big picture.
I don't want to be with a woman that loves me and I love her and in the future stay together just because its late for both like in many stories out there.

By the way after thinking a while why most of us want to return to their EX GF I came to understand that it simply because its we feel lonely even if we have other woman and we miss that one relationship that we didn't feel lonely and felt loved so we try to remember the feeling that we miss and memories of the EX pop up hope you understand what i mean.

Experts and people with experience I am looking forwards reading your replays and hope you understand what I mean In general.
Also I am terribly sorry for my English.
Just this once cause a real man does not apologize or does he?

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I don't quite understand what your dilemma is. Is it about understanding what love is? Or do you want to know how to make a relationship last year after year?
If you have read The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene, you will know there are girls who behave in certain ways that lights the spark in you. It is subtle things they do throgh their body language and how they talk, a.k.a. subcommunication. Subtle hand gestures, glances etc. These women are right for you.

Being in love

...is a chemical process in your brain. Like a drug. It will last at most one or two years before it fades. There is nothing to do about it. Then there comes a choice, do you want to invest and live with this person?

Love

To me, love is not one thing. It is not a single feeling. It is a mixture of things like trust, friendship, being happy together etc.

Make a relationship last

You need to be unpredictable and surprise your girlfriend from time to time. You can surprise her from day to day with small things, make food for her, take a romantic bath with her... It is up to your imagination. On a weekly or monthly basis you can take her out to a restaurant. Occasionally you have to come up with more dramatic surprises - take her on a trip, propose to her, buy her something expensive...

This require effort and makes life interesting for her. But remember, she needs to do the same to you. A relationship is about give and take.