| A post about subcommunication and surface level communication - basically the essentials of how to game a girl. Without this you will never get laid, ever. With this you will get laid all the time if you go out enough. Here it is.
Attention
The fact that you are giving a girl attention shows you are interested in her. Period. She knows you are interested. And she HAS to know you are interested in order for her to reciprocate that interest. A lot of times guys ask "How do I get her interested? What do I say? What do I have to do?" Here's the answer: you don't have to do anything apart from stand there and look at her. She will definitely know.
If a guy stands next to her and stares at her, what is her impression? "Creepy..." Why is he creepy? Because she knows he's interested but he's not talking to her. How does she know he's interested? Because he's looking at her. He's giving her attention.
What does this mean then? This means that all you have to do to let a girl know you like her is walk up to her and look at her, it all happens in the eyes. You can talk about the weather and she'll know, because of your eye-conact. Be congruent in what you say and she'll be interested too. She is interested in you from the start, there is a magnetic pull between you two that's invisible. That Man to Woman sexual tension and chemistry. It's there naturally. Therefore you don't have to say or do anything to create interest. It's already there. You can be lazy about creating attraction, because all you do is look at her and she is interested.
Now, why do we have to speak, then? Why do we have to engage with her? Because she needs to be comfortable around you. She needs to feel that "togetherness" before she has sex with you. What she wants is a guy she can feel "together" with, and this is done by simply spending time with her.
Now on the surface level of communication is where it can get really fun. You can go crazy here and do all sorts of shit. However, before we get into what you can do on the surface level (almost everything), we must first set the ground rule of what has to be present beneath your surface.
Beneath your surface
Beneath your surface, in the subcommunication, you have to be clear in your intent. You have toe pull her with your intent, show her that you like her and that you want her. How do you do this? It's a feeling, but you can control it with your eye-contact. For humans, the eyes are the primary source of information - where you look is probably where you have your attention. So use your eyes to give her attention, and use your entire vibe to show her your intent. It's within you, and it's strong, let it loose. Picturing fucking her is one way of getting into that state where you are transparent with what you want: her. She will feel it, and she might feel pressured by it at times, but that's good. She has to (however taking the pressure off here is covered in the surface level interaction). So this intent has to be strong, do not hide it. This intent beneath the surface is what will make your interactions Man to Woman interactions. You want her and you're unapologetic about it. You will not back down. You will stick with it. You are congruent with it. Your are not hiding your intent. It is powerful, so powerful that girls might run away because you are such a man, in which case you can just get them back. It's scary, but do it. You will have to do this to every woman you meet. EVERY WOMAN. Have that slight creepy vibe within you and show it unapologetically. It's not creepy if you say something - which we're moving onto now.
Surface level communication
The surface level communication is where cool shit happens and you can say anything and everything. Now, the primary goal of surface level communication is to GRAB HER ATTENTION AND HOLD IT. That is it. You want her attention solely on YOU. ALL THE TIME, PREFERABLY. Game is just an attention game. Keep her attention on the guy that wants to fuck her for long enough, and move to isolation, and she'll get fucked by him. You need to keep her attention on you so that she can feel comfortable around you and she can accept the togetherness between the two of you. This is where her eyes will usually turn to anime eyes, and she will start to emotionally invest. How do you keep her attention? This is where the fun starts.
You're distracting her logical mind from all other things for long enough so that she can feel the subcommunication happening between the two of you and realize how attracted she already is to you. Note how I said that she realizes how attracted she already is to you, not so that she becomes attracted. Remember, she is already sexually interested, she is already attracted, because you are a man and you are unapologetically showing her your intent. You know that she is attracted and therefore you have nothing to hide.
Grabbing and keeping her attention or distracting her from all other things for long enough is what we call "game". This is why people's games are so different. Some like to be playful and nice, some like to be playful and assholes (all in good spirit and fun), some like to talk about the weather and play with the vibe, others like to talk complete bullshit. It DOES NOT MATTER WHAT YOU TALK ABOUT, JUST THAT YOU TALK. AND WHEN YOU TALK, TALK CONGRUENTLY. COMMAND that she listen to you with your voice. Every word coming out of your mouth at this point should be said commandingly, unapologetically, as if it's all part of the plan anyway. You can find comfort in the fact that the magic is happening beneath the surface, so what you say has no effect on her attraction whatsoever. Remember, keep your aim of fucking her in mind, that will bring out your desire within you, which will keep you on track. You have to love women to do this.
How to grab and keep her attention
Grabbing her attention requires you to be COMMANDING. In Pickup, since it is a leading performance of sorts, you have to command her attention towards you. Just like in the art of magic, magicians command your attention to distract you whilst performing their sleight of hand. So on the open command her attention with your eye-contact and your voice. After that you are KEEPING her attention.
What type of surface level communication? Any. Any communication that is EMOTIONAL, because girls respond emotionally. Now you don't need this to pull a girl, however emotional stimulation will engage her more.
Surface level communication can have any or none of the following: teasing, push pull, roleplaying, negging, cocky funny, sexual misinterpretation, shock and awe. Basically all the techniques you know and love can be used here. You don't have to use any of them, because the subcommunication is already enough to pull her. However the surface level communication helps in grabbing and keeping her attention on you and distracting her logical mind, keeping her around you for long enough to notice her attraction towards you. After you reach the hook point where she wants you, you can really do anything you want. You can move her around, play with her, tell her you hate her, tell her you like her, tell her you'll go away together, tell her you hate her because she makes you want to kiss her...at this point you've created this "togetherness" feeling, and she may not even know anything about you! She might know your name but not know where you're from, what you do, what your plans are, and still feel like she's known you for the longest time. This is also the "It's On Moment" that 60 Years of Challenge talks about. You create that by showing your desire transparently and distracting her logical mind. You are pulling on the subcommunication constantly (you might call it chemistry), whilst push and pulling on the logical mind so she forgets about everything else and focuses solely on you. Togetherness is created in ISOLATION. When you and the girl are alone (in your own little space and world where your attention is only on her and her attention is only on you), you will naturally build a bond that she won't have with anyone else.
Surface level communication can trigger surface emotions as well, which might engage her more, buying you more time to spend alone time with her, keeping her attention. You can call her fat, then say you're kidding, and she'll respond with a strong emotion. At the same time you might call her beautiful...for a white girl...and she'll respond with a strong emotion as well. It's all a game of keeping her attention on you. Because you are pulling beneath the surface she doesn't understand why you're saying these things on the surface - she would think that if you like her, you'd tell her. No, you don't have to. If you want to then go ahead. But your aim should be to distract her logical mind so she can spend more time with you.
This is what surface level communication is about, and this is why it won't matter what you say. What matter is: that you show your desire unaplogetically and transparently (look at her intensely with your eyes), and keep her attention for long enough to create that chemistry and comfort between the two of you (so buy yourself time by saying anything and everything that hits her emotionally!), and that's pretty much it. On the surface you truly have free reign to say and do ANYTHING.
Remember, you show her your desire through your eye-contact. This is why eye-contact is praised so highly in the community, because it is the "pathway to your soul"...blablabla. It shows her that you like her. You're paying her attention. Like Dale Carnegie says, if you want people to like you, you have to like them. This shows her that you like her, that you're interested in her. And you understand the process here.
If a girl is bitchy in the beginning, know that it's not disinterest. She is defensive, she is not COMFORTABLE with you yet. All you have to do is distract her logical mind, soothe her logical mind, keep talking and spending time with her in order for her to realize that she likes you, that she's sexually attracted to you. You can do this by emotionally challenging her or finding a topic she's interested in. Her conscious mind has to be reeled in to the attention. After that try to spend as much time in isolation with her to create that "togetherness" feeling, in which case you can play around on the surface. You can do whatever the fuck you want on the surface. This is also why when you PULL at the end of the night or whenever you do, you have to constantly be distracting, because her logical mind will say no, but her subcommunication, her emotions will say yes. It's all about distraction. Like magic, like sleight of hand. Just TALK. Let everything else happen through your eyes.
BUT THE DESIRE BENEATH THE SURFACE HAS TO BE FREE FLOWING. It is scary, like I said, yes, but do it, JUST DO IT. Every time. Show girls your desire through your eyes. Show girls your desire through your eyes. Show girls desire through your eyes. Then on the surface do anything to keep her attention and to keep her logical mind distracted. This is how to game a girl. Well done, you are now ready to get laid.
Last edited by Tr@veler on Mon Jan 20, 2014 6:12 pm, edited 1 time in total.
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