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I don't know man. I hate this outcome independence bullshit, or at least how the term is used. We should obviously care about the outcome, otherwise wtf is the point of going out or doing anything in life? How outcome independence is used in the community is really just "don't fear failure". A more logical interpretation of outcome independence would be: "Just because you've failed, doesn't mean what you did was wrong" (i.e. pick-up is probabilistic in nature, and what matters is the decision making and actions you took over the long term, not whether or not they worked in that particular instance (kind of like poker) TO be outcome independent, as in, not to care about outcomes, is fucking retarded in my opinion.
I think you are both right and wrong at the same time. I think "outcome independence" is a term meant to describe the winning attitude. On RSD they talk about "attitude of abundance", which is the same thing. It is almost the same attitude as you would have towards women if you had a girlfriend - that you don't give a shit whether a girl likes you or not.
Women likes men who know what they want. So if a girl doesn't meet your expectations, tell her, and go find someone else. Have a critical attitude and be "the buyer" - looking for a woman who will meet your expectations. Women also love men with self control. Make your attraction and hunger for her obvious, but keep holding back until she let you have her. Women find that very attractive.