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First off, as far as black or latino girls vs blonde girls goes, blonde girls will not be as easy. In my opinion it is because more men are attracted to them, and they can therefore choose the one there most attractive one. This doesn't mean the most white one, it means the most attractive one. The one with the best game/lifestyle/physique/whatever.

It doesn't have shit to do with your ethnicity. It has to do with the fact that you are being bested by alpha males. Your mindset that white women don't want your race is a completely beta thought process. When you go into a set with a brunette, you will act more alpha because you don't think as highly of her as you would a blonde. The more alpha thought process would be, "I don't care what physical attribute she has, if i see it, and i want it, then i'm gonna go fuck it."

The way you think is so fucking lame its ridiculous. As a side note, even if what you said was true (which it isn't), the way you are going about fixing the situation is just dead fucking wrong. If you actually do believe the blondes need to be game differently, it means your giving them extra attention. If you want your game to improve, it doesn't matter how hard it might be for you, swallow the idea that all hot women are equal. Yes the scale of HB1-10 still exists, but it is not race based.

Also, I absolutely hate each and every single one of your posts. They are all the same thing, and every time we try to help you, you just show us how much you don't want to listen. Open your mind and try and swallow these things instead of continuing down the path of ignorance.

I hope you realize that this is a very old thread and someone bumped it. Also, that is what I was getting at but I realized that my ego keeps getting in my way. A part of me wants these women and wants to believe that a pretty blonde is just like a pretty Latina but in reality when I step out into the field I know that it is not true. That is where the conflict is coming in. I keep pedestalizing these women because I am not having success with them on the regular like I would a Latina or Black or Brown girl.

That in itself is the cycle, it just keeps repeating itself in my head. So yes, I tend to feel inferior to these women because I have rarely had success with them.

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There are TINY TINY TINY differences due to hair color. So tiny that they matter only in certain situations, and even in those situations, they shouldn't matter.

It's the same phenomenon that happens to races- when you're put into a certain stereotype, it affects your behavior. Adding to this, when you're the only person with a certain feature, it also affects your behavior. With a degree in psychology, I can list a shit ton of studies and examples. The setting you're meeting them at, however, and other social pressures, should easily overshadow this. We see hair everyday, and we see blondes everyday on television. That's why it doesn't matter.

If you're at a bar, and you approach a blonde, redhead, and two brunettes in a set, their immediate perception is to look at you as a man who is picking them up. They immediately put you and themselves into these social roles. NOW STOP HERE. At this point, you're just a man, and they are just women. Their hippocampi immediately trigger all associations that have to do with the bar scene, approaching, etc. This is why bitch shields and anti-slut defense happens. Then, they look at you and judge your appearance (confidence goes into this). NOW HERE, they might look at you, see you're Indian, and say fuck it- not interested. They can do this for a white guy, black guy, Asian guy, a Native American- whatever. If they immediately close off, it's something about their initial judgment. It's most likely they just aren't feeling you or have their own personal reasons. This is when you open your mouth to either catch their attention and flip their opinion or to strengthen their belief that you should keep walking. T

Either way, they DON'T consciously think, "I'm a blonde, so every guy should work harder to get with me." They don't even think this subconsciously. Just because YOU haven't seen a blonde girl with a nonwhite guy doesn't mean that it doesn't happen. I have seen Asians and Mexicans with good looking blondes.

Only argument you can make is the fact that a blonde girl represents an extreme for whites (since blonde hair is typical for white people usually), which would contrast with any nonwhite races, therefore raising the social awareness that they both have of the fact that there is a difference in the race. BUT this is only a difference in the race, not hair color. Consequently, your argument would be the fact that blonde girls have a higher awareness of their race. To which, I would tell you you're over exaggerating. Although it might be true, I can argue that this effect does not affect any way that they are interacting with you compared to other white girls. Just trust me, there are many more social pressures and situational effects that are occurring at that time.


I can definitely tell you though, that the reason you haven't had as much luck with blonde girls is because you think this is all true: that blonde girls don't like Indian guys. This does affect your confidence and social anxiety, which in turn affects your game with blonde girls. It's a never ending loop that only YOU can break.

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Seen em with good looking Asians and Mexicans huh? Awesome, I know an Indian guy personally that nailed one, see him in the mirror every day.

Why thanks, I read your post and I do agree with some of it. See, down here the social pressure is SOMEWHAT based on race, you can't avoid it, people talk about it all the damn time.

One time I was going out with this cute brunette, 8/10, looked a lot like Sienna Miller in the first GI Joe Film with Channing Tatum. We receive so many looks and people would tell me all the nonsense about dating White girls. Like people brought it up ALL THE TIME. So many people (mainly other minorities) would tell the crowd about how I am dating a White girl and if we are really going out.

Like people do not get to see how things really work down south. All throughout my high school years down here, Blondes who looked good were RESERVED for White men, I mean literally RESERVED. When I did get out to college and such, I had some bad luck with them and bad luck approaching them. It wasn't until a few days back when I finally got my first lay from a blonde.

I have started to see SOME signs of success with them, I have slowly met some that are nice to me and good women, I have met some that are nice overall, and slowly I am starting to notice how foolish I was to think the way I did in the past. Slowly but not surely. Even though MOST of my rejections have come from these women and I have been treated the worst by them, I am starting to see better and better results with them and I don't even know why.

I still pedestalize them though, because every guy says they are the most desirable. A lot has to do with the fact that I have never seen or heard of (online or in real life) a Beautiful Blonde settling down or dating or going out with an Indian guy, like ever! Almost makes me feel like a pioneer in a way.

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Some days I am going to be better and just look back at how dumb I was for believing what I believed.

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I just come on here these days to give advice and read interesting threads. Gone are the days when I came to seek advice and validation.