| We have all had issues with inner game, at some point in our lives. Height, race, religion, social class, you name it. As I mentioned before that most people want you to fail, I will mention again that your best friend is yourself first and foremost. Others will try to help but until you believe in yourself, their advice will fall on deaf ears. That is what has happened recently in my time here.
I am sure you all remember my threads about foreign women and how I worried about women in Europe not caring about getting with men of my appearance. The main lesson I learn is that as humans we will convince our minds of anything out there that is negative if that is what we have set out to do.
"It is racism in those countries, they have been brainwashed, they are racists". I told all that stuff to myself. Maybe (based on what I have read) it is true to an extent. But why should I care? We get so attached to one person and one idea that it influences our beliefs of the masses. One French girls rejects a man for being Brown (this legitimately happened to me, no lie), that means all of France is suddenly a racist hideout?
Due to my traumatic experiences with women from Europe, I am still unsure what goes on there. Yet I realized that we take so much for granted. Here I am in the US with beautiful women surrounding me of all colors, and I have a shot with them. Yet I make myself miserable over the crap that goes on in places I have not even step foot on for a while now.
I came to the one realization about inner game that will probably benefit all of you, "I AM GOOD ENOUGH". As students of the game we go after these women who have been handed a lot their whole lives because of their looks while men like us had to struggle to get to where we are. We have a story to tell and a personality which developed from our struggles. Men like us have worked for our status and our pleasure so why in the world should we get disappointed and down in the dumps because some girl decides to reject us for such a silly reason? Let every girl in France reject me for looking how I do, there are tons of other countries with equally if not more attractive women anyways. I have no reason as a man to get so attached and obsessed with just one kind of women anyways.
After meditating on this advice, I felt so awakened and enlightened, better than I had ever felt before. I felt just like how I felt in 2012 when I had 10 lays.
For the past few weeks or so I had been whining on this forum about things such as my race holding me back and I actually regressed from who I really was. Here I am at the age of 20, with one more year left of college, and was as miserable as one can be for a kid my age. I decided it was time to do something with my life and yesterday night I finally managed to get some social action going. Met up with friends at a party thrown off campus. One thing led to another (there was a lot of alcohol involved) and I ended up breaking my dry spell (it was with this cute auburn haired White girl).
I had a busy day today and I decided to finally come to a conclusion. Nothing is going to happen in my life without action. Nothing is going to change until I finally do everything in my power to change it. I am young and these years of my life will never ever come back. Before I know it I will be working a dead end job and not having enough time to even live anything close to a social life for a while. Maybe I decide to settle down if I do meet that woman I like enough.
Whatever piece of advice I needed to write on here and needed to hear, I heard it. At this point I have no value to offer to this forum and no amount of advice on here will help me until I finally take action in my life.
It will be a while if I come back (and this time I mean every single word I say). I have shut down my account on another forum I used to post on for a while as well. I am not joking about leaving, this time, I am serious and mean it when I say I will be away from here for a while if not forever.
As a long time member here who grew from being a hopeless virgin to scoring 10 lays in 2012, I want to say thanks all for everything. I am going to make something of myself and if I do come back (if I remember to) I will share my experiences. My blog is in my sig so you can read about my experiences on there.
Thanks to all.
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I just come on here these days to give advice and read interesting threads. Gone are the days when I came to seek advice and validation.
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