| Hi, I have been with my girlfriend for almost a year, and we have been having sex for just over 1 month. She was a virgin before which is why it took so long to have sex with her. I have also only just recently given her first clitoral orgasm which can now do confidently, and have done a few more times since her first. I guess being a virgin made her more nervous, which meant she could not have an orgasm, because pretty much after the first few times we had sex, I got her to climax through her clit. I've watched white tiger tantra and have tried to adopt some techniques. I cannot make her squirt though. The time she was closest to squirting was when I gave her a full body massage, but she still didn't. I've only the massage once. She says she prefers when I fuck her rather than fingering her, in fact, she isn't much of a fan of me fingering her. I personally find that quite strange because usually girls come quicker through fingering. Am I doing something wrong. She also moans more and feels loads better when I stimulate her clit rather than anything internal, but she does enjoy sex quite a lot, but no orgasm through sex, she likes it, but I want her to love it more than anything. I don't want to do a good job, but a great one. So try and think of it, as order of most pleasure, it's 1. clit, 2. sex, 3. fingering. I use lube.
When I finger her she said the usual, "it feels like I have to pee", but she also says she cannot let go because something tightens, and it's like a reflex action, and that there is pressure down there. I've even talked about it with her, telling her about the PC muscle and how to try to control it. She said she feels she is closer after this, but ever since then it hasn't improved. Anything I don't know that can help her squirt? Is it simply time? She never had a clitoral orgasm until recently. Is it me, her or both? Is it mental or physical? She does seem very very turned on in bed. I tease the fuck out of her until she begs me. Kind of why I am so confused about this. It seems that I've heard everything, adopted everything that works... but I'm falling at the last hurdle! Also, our relationship is going great.
Thanks!
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