Hi Guys,
I'm writing an essay for a PUA friend of mine and he wanted my insight on a few things. It has to be 10-12 pages, he needs it in 4 weeks and he asked me early this week if I could make that.
I got so excited I'm already up to page 8 in 4 days.
So here's a piece I did on ''fear'' relating to Pickup*
Hope its in any way relevant to you
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Fear
I am glad there is no law for meeting new people or socializing, because that would make seduction extremely difficult. Women have the option to say yes or no, they can give you a polite ‘’No thanks, I am not interested’’ or a harsh ‘’Fuck off.’’ However, she has no authority over you nor are there any rules against going up to a woman (a stranger) and giving her a compliment.
What we fear is how we are going to feel afterwards. Failure and disappointment or a great sense of let down is most feared, being embarrassed in front of some stranger or your friends. I can tell you now that as a man you have never failed when you have worked up the mental strength to go and talk to a woman you are attracted to. Why are men so afraid of women? Nobody has ever been killed by just going up to a woman and saying ‘’Hi, you look cute.’’ That’s all it takes to show just a fraction of the guts you have as a man.
There are still too many men that try and ruin it for the rest of us. Men with uncontrollable impulses or men that would shout and call a woman a whore, because she didn’t even look at him when he walked up to her in a drunk and aggressive state. How do you think she is going to feel when the next man approaches her? She’ll be a little nervous when the next guy walks up to her; she’ll think that you will do the same. And guess how much you stand out when you give her a genuine compliment.
When you feel a sudden rush going through your body when you see that beautiful woman strolling through the streets or standing at the bar in the nightclub, that’s when you can make a good approach. She will feel this rush and when you can convert this feeling into an attractive state, she will feel the attraction. That rush converted into attraction in combination with the composition of seductive social skills will increase your chances to a successful seduction. Simply because she feels it comes from a genuine place. So it isn’t actually the fear that you feel, it is the impulse to approach!
Your body is responding to her physical beauty, and the only person who can reject you, is you.
When you do not act upon this genuine impulse, you are actually trying to tell yourself that you’re not worthy of her? Don’t be ridiculous! Of course you are.
Because allot of men don’t know what this rush/impulse means, they decide to call it fear because that’s the closest feeling of emotion that comes to it. Fear is something different from the rush you get when you see a beautiful woman. Stand on the edge of a building and look down or have a tarantula crawl from your hand slowly to your shoulders, if you are related to neither imagine a scenario that comes close. Have you ever been close to someone firing off a gun in an aggressive state? Now that is fear. Match that feeling with the feeling you get when you are working up the nerve to approach a very beautiful woman. At least to me, the feelings do not match.
When you feel the feeling rise before you make an approach, once more that’s not fear, that’s courage building up! You are becoming braver and braver to follow your impulses and instincts with the intention to seduce. It would surprise you how many women appreciate you having the balls of steel to be able to walk up to a woman and be honest, genuine and show the willingness to emote.
Do not fear women, love women. Because men who love women are loved by women.
I have to give credit to
Vince Kelvin, for with some parts he inspired me.
And that last quote is by non other than
Zan Perrion.
CHAT
When I've finished the whole thing I'll put it up here.