| About a month ago I met this fantastic girl, great tits, I did really well to pull her and in no time at all I managed to get her back to my house. What followed was a week of incredible on-demand sex, I don't know how long it will be until I match that. After a while it became uncomfortable because neither of us wanted a relationship, we've just started college and commitment and love and all that crap is for the future. We had a chat and decided that no, we weren't going to have a relationship, we were going to be friends. I was a bit pissed off that the sex was over but I got over it soon enough.
All well and good right? well... no, about 2 weeks after that we had sex again and since then the whole friend thing has become really strained. It has just become really uncomfortable, I'm not exactly sure why but here is my reasoning: It was her decision to have sex on the second week. I was just tipping along, minding my own business and spending time with her when suddenly SHE wanted to come home with me. I was studying in college when she turned up, all done up with make-up, hair and a tight skirt. What the hell could I do?
But the thing is we still don't want a relationship, and I stress WE. She must just be annoyed with herself that she slipped up. It must be "The slut reflex" because she has just become really defensive and is jumping at every imagined "advance" I make. If I stop after a lecture to talk with her then I MUST be trying to chat her up. If I touch her then I MUST be making a move. If I hug her when I say goodbye then I MUST be in love with her.
This is a crock of shit because that's just the way I act around people. I talk to ALL girls in a kind of flirty way, I don't know how else to talk to a girl. I touch people because I'm a friendly person and I always hug a friend when I say goodbye, even male friends. So trying to be friends with her is difficult because I can't act in my usual inter-friend manner. She also hardly talks anymore and relies on me to keep the conversation, that's a complete reversal to the way it was before.
I know what your advice would be here, just forget about it and move on. But I don't want to do that. I had a similar situation with a girl about 2 months ago and I decided to just ignore her, that made her and all her friends hate me. Incidentally they were also all MY friends that I had just made in college. By avoiding an awkward situation with a girl I also smoked my entire college social circle I had spent a month building. Now all of my friends are also this girl's friends and I don't want to lose them all. I don't want to face nuclear fallout every time I'm finished fucking a girl. I may as well break that cycle now.
So in essence I kind of need to keep this girl on side. But that seems like a struggle. She was a virgin when I met her and things were pretty intense when were were mid fling, does that completely prevent us having what you would consider a normal friendship?
Sorry for the length of this post and thanks for reading.
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