Met a really cool HB7.5 a few weeks ago. Day after we met she came over, went out with me and my friends to friends house, after which she stayed over. She then stayed over at my place every night for a week or i stayed at her place....we stayed together every night. I was very clear to her i just broke up with someone recently so i wasnt ready to be serious too fast. I said i could be serious, but not too fast.

She had just broken up with a BF because of pot smoking, drugs, etc....(She is a good girl). She runs into her X the first night we spent apart, and now they are aparently back together! Of course they will break up again since he is not going to all of a sudden change all the things he does that she doenst like.

When she told me this, i was like "i thought u were a strong person, i guess i was wrong about you". This got a good responce from her "i know, im just really confused...". I made plans with her the next day which she canceld and said "it wouldnt be right to hang out with you now since im with xxxxxxx".

How do i handle this guys? Im thinking freeze out?

Kinoesclator

"FREEZEOUT!" Go for the freezeout baby!

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The first week you spent every night of the week together?

Way, WAY to much.

She is probably lost for awhile (if not forever). Freezing out is only good when she wants your attention. You became AFC and put yourself on a silver platter for her. Regardless of you telling her you did not want a relationship, you acted like you did.

In a week or two, text her and ask her if she is still married.
Next time she is pissed off at him (boyfriend), she may contact you to hang out.

Something else also,
You know why they broke up? It makes me think that she has been telling you quite a few stories. Did you become that shoulder that she could cry on?

Stop doing that if you did...!!!

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Definatly did not become the shoulder she would cry on. No stories from her really. It was a very fun time with her. All i know is her X BF was a major pot smoker and would never hang out with her....avoiding her all the time. Those are the reasons she left him. Like i said she didnt complain or use me to cry on so thats all i know.

Funny thing was, i lost her to the X BF when i told her i didnt want to be serious with anyone right now and told her that "im going out with my friends tonight". That was the first night in the week we spent apart and thats the night she ran into her X and got going with him again.

Im definatly doing a freezeout, but how do i handle it when i get the inivatable call "We broke up, he is such an ass...i cant beleave i went back out with him".???

Kinoesclator

Man, didnt take long....she called me already with a very oveous canned excuse. Then later she txt me somthing to the effect of apoligising for calling and saying that if it bothers me she wont call anymore.

Seems like im back in the drivers seat here...

BTW she is a TOTAL sweet girl, totally sweet...i would never want to do anything to hurt her.

Kinoesclator

I am not nearly as knowledgeable as some other people here...but I think a good move might be texting her back saying "Don't send me a message til you figure yourself out." Or something like that. I figure being dismissive and putting a requirement there would build you up and at the same time let her know what you want...while not making her think that she should never contact you again even if she does decide she wants to be wtih you.

I wouldn't let her know that any of this shit bothers you. It shouldn't. You should just laugh, tell her have fun because that's exactly what you plan to do. I wouldn't criticize her on the choices she makes, but neither would I be a fuckin welcome mat either for when she decides to return. If anything, I'd fuck her again, but nothing more than that. The point she left for another dude is the moment she would have lost any intention I had of getting serious with her.

1) were you having sex during that time you stayed over?

2) why in the hell did you stay over every night?

3) she's with another dude, fuck calling her unless she leaves a message first. even then, if it's to "talk" about her problems then say you don't have time.

She understands that she is in a shitty situation and the only reason she is with this guy again is because she is in need of attention, or is just waiting for mr right to come along --> YOU (well, she just doesn't know it yet). My suggestion is stay away. But, if you insist on gaming her then just say this: "Back with your boyfriend, wow thats great... He must be the type of man who knows how to touch the woman you are deep inside... Im sure he's not just someone you're keeping around until you find someone better (subtly point to yourself)".

Look bro-sif, if she is as good as you say she is, not into drugs.. then she is probably an emotional girl, just an intuition. Don't be all over her. Like all these other guys said, freeze-out.. but not for too too long. Let her know you are still there, not interested but still around. Do you understand what im saying?

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Yep man, thats exactly how ive been handling it!

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"Life is short, when its done u cant start over"

Ok, you didn't answer the question of whether you fucked her during that week or not.

Also, yes, keep up with the freeze out, but here's what I would do. I would NOT call her or text her unless SHE initiates. Then I would listen for a minute to see if it's important. If not, tell her you got to go. If she wants to get together with you, tell her she has to earn that now. At that point, you're back in the driver's seat.

The girl obviously doesn't respect you. I'd break contact, permanently.

The girl might be sweet but she's obviously a bit of a headcase. There's plenty of better girls out there.

You're way above her and all the drama. GFTOW!

Here's my take on the whole thing, initially you got into a comfortable place with the lil mama in question, but on both sides a hint of clingy behavior reared its head. Secondly, I concur that spending way to much time with her, you didn't give her the reward of missing you. In fact read about the behavior her boyfriend/ not boyfriend exhibited he constantly stayed away from her, and in the first time of meeting up as exes she gave up the sweet nectar.

Thirdly, I want to pull you back from the threshold of one-itis, she is not very unique my friend, unless she's a voodoo queen or something of the sort. In other terms, find other girls and you decide if they are worth your time. Finally, I don't think you should even put yourself on her radar and be in a position to answer any lines of communication from her unless she's talking about having some kind of sex with you, or she's going to spend some amount of money on you. She honestly, left you in the cold and went back to her old habits, so why should you reward her?

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