he guyz, well, met this girl she was with my cousin on and off for a year... afterwards i tried to get with her... she agreed, came to mine, we kissed (gay yes but thats all shes young and dnt wanna rush into owt)... we left it sayin we wud just b friends, then we kissed again on a later date, shwoing she likes me... she does alot of dance, and is suddenly attracted to this drummer who she sees when she goes to dance, and advice pls? Peace out and thx

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Long have I stood in the shadows, Now i take my place in the sun...

I would go date other girls. Or at least try too, as it seems you are in the beginning stage of oneitis. If she wants to be with another guy let her. You can do better, you don't need to put up with that so go out and find another girl and don't focus your attention on this one. If she wants you, then let her make the next move. If not go out and play the game with other girls. Trust me... there are alot more out there.

Well, here is what she did;

By telling "lets be friends" she provided herself with some kind of peace, she told to herself that she will not be cheating on you while going for other guys, because you are only a friend. But, you atractted her so you made out. She was on a good way to falling 4U, but then this drummer came up. And suddenly you were only a friend, and you can't resist 'cause you were theoretically LJBF'ed already.

So, my advice; never let woman to LJBF you. This makes her lose great part of her responsibility to you. You can sarge her afterwards, but this wil be a lot tougher job -> you will have to attract her ALL the time, be better than EVERY OTHER GUY SHE MEETS - and that is much tougher job than just letting her morals work for you.

If a woman tries to LJBF you, just tell her right over that you do not want to be her friend, you want to be more. I know, it is hard but dont be shy, just do it.

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You don't know the future, you can't change the past. The only thing that matters is THE CURRENT MOMENT.

Hi L.L.,

In this scenario, I clearly think the worse thing for you to do is keep pursuing. The best thing is to date other girls and let her know that you have other options.

Jealousy to a PUA is like the darkside to a Jedi. You shouldn't use it, but if used correctly, you can land a hot chick like Natalie Portman.


Respectfully,

M

Great post M, I had the same problem once w/this girl i was hanging out with! Her ex was a guy in the band and old feeling came up again! So insted of getting mad i went for another and was hooking up a few feet in front of her! Her ex was a ltr and it was hard to crack there connection so i just played it cool and moved on! We still see each other out at clubs and her ex always gives me dirty looks:)

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live fast, die pretty!!!!

Not close with family? Have you asked your cousin if he was cool with this. You should let him know honestly cause if he is cool with it you can automatically get her weaknesses from your family. Other than that I don't mess with my family no matter what, blood before any bitch first.