I've been dating this girl for 3 months now. She perused me initially, but then I really started licking her. Well, long story short, last night we had a late night date (about 11pm). She was supposed to call me and let me know when she was off work, and then meet me around 11. Well, she never called (this girl has always done what she said she would). I waited and called her at about 11:30, and there was no answer. I called many times until she answered, and she said she couldn't talk and hung up. Then I called a few more times, and she answered. She told me she had a very bad night and didn't want to talk to me (I know I was a chump, but I had been drinking, and it was like I lost my self control).

OK, this set me off. I was hearing her talk to me like I was supposed to be at her beck 'N' call (wait 'til she was good and ready). That's when I went off about how she wouldn't reply to my text messages, wouldn't answer my phone calls, and also stood me up ( I was yelling at this point just so I could talk over her). By the end, I told her to go to hell and never talk to me again and hung up.

Today I've tried calling her about 3 times, but no answer. I've texted her twice. I can't be contacting her anymore because there is no use. Her not answering says enough. I really like this girl, and I want her to continue seeing me. What the heck do I do?

well you told her to go to hell and never talk to you again, so shes not talking to you again...you need to learn self control because that was weak what you did

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You're absolutely right-that was weak. I have no self-confidence or self-respect. I don't know what it is, and I how to get it. My wife recently left me, and now I've lost her. I really think I'm having a nervous break-down.

Consider this your rebound crash and burn... you don't want to go and settle down right away now do you? This is why people say not to drink while you are trying to run game... you lost control... never mind if she had a legitimate reason why she could not talk to you at that moment, specially if she was always punctual before. Best advise I can give you is if your nerves are a wreck stop drinking and calm the fuck down. Try to find some balance within yourself and take care of yourself.

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OK, so she called me back, but she's really mad. She said she still liked me, but she wouldn't make plans with me again. She said she would still talk to me, but would not make anymore plans because she didn't want to let me down. We had plans 2night, but she won't see me. She said she couldn't right now because of my reaction last night, and that I should go do whatever would make me happy. She also said that her "not make plans" policy would probably change in the near future. I don't know how to handle this or what to do about it. Sounds like there is still a chance, but I don't understand how you have a relationship without any planning (i.e. Hey you want to go out Friday night?). I know I'm in a testing period now, and whatever way I act will either work in my favor or work against me. So, what should I do at this point?

Don't contact her for a week or so. If she is in the relationship enough, she will begin to miss you and contact you. If not, she wasn't worth it. You went too far by repeatedly calling her the night she didn't want to talk, alcohol is no excuse.

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ROFL.

God damn man. What do you expect? You said it yourself. She never did that before and once she told you she didn't want to talk she had a bad day, you should have fucking left it alone. You know the good thing about being a huge fucking douchebag at times? You learn from your boneheaded mistakes and realize to NEVER EVER do that shit again. Congrats on a life lesson, but don't feel too bad, we all make them. (even me) Move on to the next girl or wait till she's calm down and apologize for being a douchebag. Don't bring up being drunk or alcohol. It's NO excuse and she doesn't want to hear that bullshit.

ok, I won't contact her for a week, but what do I say or do if she contacts me before hand? I'd like to play my cards right.

Continue on your PUA research, go out and talk to some females, continue on with life and if she contacts you then good.. if not then you are moving on anyhow. Don't pine for this chick to call you back, you are acting very AFC right now, have to get rid of that attitude.

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not drinking will help your self control.

Dude, is this the same girl you work with?

Hey man, we ALL make mistakes. If people didn't make mistakes with women, the alpha males wouldn't stand out. It's a huge learning curve and I don't think anyone ever "masters" women and their illogical thought patterns.

Calling her once was all you should have done when she stood you up the other night. Calling and texting more than once is a MAJOR turn off for a woman. It subcommunicates that you need her more than she needs you. Women are attracted to men who want them less than they want them. They want a man with HIGHER value. Calling multiple times subcommunicates lower value.

My advice is not to call her or text her for 3 or 4 days and she'll probably break down and call you first. If you don't hear from her, forget about her and move on. In the meantime, you need to get out and sarge and get some more phone numbers. Sitting around, doing nothing but thinking of her only increases the likelihood that you'll break down and call her first...another needy mistake that will turn her off of you even more.

Another thing to consider: According to the information on sexgodmethod, she could be getting bored with your sex. You've been seeing this woman for a few months and now she seems to be getting bored. If you fuck her real good, according to the sexgodmethod, she'll never act this way. She'll actually get addicted to your sex and you can get away with murder and still keep her around. Not sure if those guys really know what they're talking about, but I have no reason to doubt what they say. Giving your girl good sex is CRITICAL, according to those guys and it's the number one reason why women leave their men. In fact, I've been on an all-female forum where they talk about relationships and shit like that...I was amazed to learn that a LOT of those women dumped their men because they couldn't fuck them the way they wanted to be fucked. I mean, I'm 38 years old and I'm amazed to be learning this. You'd think after 38 years of living on this planet I'd know this shit but I still learn new things about women every day.

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The better the sex is, the MORE she will crave MORE from you. If you blow her mind, bring her to the point of being out of breathe, legs shaking, with her just laying there basking in the afterglow, you can bet within 30 minutes, she's gonna be rubbing on you wanting more already.

Usually it doesn't even take 30 minutes.

But man, I know the girl you're talking about. She WILL be back in contact with you.