kk i am completely new to this whole PUA thing, read the game thought i'd give it a try, got Mystery's videos, i physched myself up, i used tapping to reduce any anxiety, and i thought that i was prepared, cheat sheet and 10p coin. I had my wing, who had sum knowledge of the game but didn't believe in its abilty.

We arrived at the scene, checked it out, it was a small club nd basicaly all dancin with the music extremly loud. i spent a couple of seconds before going after my first target, she was with a friend, i went up to her with a cheeky smile giving her the 'come over here' finger thing, obviously she came over, after a couple of seconds her friend came over and started off with her, so i thought this was a case of an overprotective girl-friend, but i was so wrong she basically disacknowledged my existence, i tried makin a few jokes, stood my ground, it was jus stupid.

Then my wing, just walks in, no game stratergy gets a girl and after 6 mins closes, gettin her numba. I jus couldn't understand it, and in honesty he's not that kinda player guy. So i wanted to prove this game thing worked, i go up2 sum girls who were dancing and ask them y they were dancin together, and whether it was cos they enjoyed each others company or whether they had scared all of the boyz off, they ignored me, i swear they heard me but they jus ignored me then as i walked off they sed, oh we're dancing together, i thought this was an invitation back in, but they just turned off nd left. So it was 2 failures to 1 success.

I tried again, this time i got an answer, 'we're lesbians', man my confidence got shot to pieces, i couldn't look anothr girl in the eye, i've alwais had at least one success but this this was jus stupid.

Then my wing, once again no game skills pulls other a HB serious about 11 nd jus pulls her there and then.

Please Sum1 Explain this to me i jus give up thanx

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Silver- I'm against being woman hater, but i'm all for the game

Your expectations were too high.

First of all, this was your first night out, so naturally you were going to be nervous. Your body language and vocal tone probably reflected that; without proper vocal tone and body language, the best routines in the world will fail every time. Do a couple newbie missions, open a bunch of sets with no expectations other than staying around as long as possible, and then start getting serious.

Second, you were in a club with loud music. Personally, I don't like dance floor game; I need to talk, room to interact, and the ability for a room to observe me. Try working a bar where you can actually talk to a person without shouting.

Third, having a wingman can be a detriment if you don't know proper wingman game. Refer to Mystery's posts in the Mystery Forum on proper wingman game.

Practice, practice, practice. The best thing that can happen to you is getting blown out on your first few sets; gets you used to it.

~Grayson

Hi Silver,

First of all, thanks for posting your field report. I'm going up to SF this weekend for Halloween and I'm definitely going to do some sarging, so I'll post up a field report too.

Hey, brother... hang in there. I remember my first true experience sarging on girls I've never met before, I was traumatized for 2 days straight. Dang some of those chicks were bi-otches. I asked this question to this one girl (opinion opener) and this girl flat out said "I don't wanna be any part of this!!! My wing was a female friend which was great because she helped to pre-validate as a guy who can get chicks. Anyways, did you know what helped me a lot, Silver... I kept a copy of my first field report (which I didn't share with anyone), and I wrote how shitty and embarrassed I felt and then tried to rationalize it. It helped because the truth is that I honestly believe what all of us PUA's are doing is the natural and right thing to do. It's those foolios who sit at home and pray that "somehow things are gonna happen" who end up jacked and single at age 50. Another thing I did is that I realized that a lot of girls get their entire self esteem and validation from shooting down guys. Especially the hot ones who have no job and no education. Their only power is the ability to be "untouchable" to guys. I bet you 90% of the chicks who shoot down guys left and right have only 1/10 of the game you have. How do I know? A lot of girls ask me to get them a job in my company. And dang it, their networking, socializing, and selling skills are retarded.

The point I'm trying to make is that you did good, my PUA brother. Even though you got shot down a few times, I heard even the best like Mystery and Style take some hard hits. Keep at it, and I'm sure that one day, you'll find a quality girl who will be worth all your efforts.

Respectfully,

M

you messed up your first set;
you were suppose to approach the obstacle;
instead you approached the target and even did the come over here finger thing; which conveyed too much intrest
and you did get a case of the over-protective gf

and just walking up to chicks and asking them why they are dancing together just conveys too much intrest

youre suppose to build attraction first;
sounds like you just tried to jump into the comfort phase just like all the other afc's out there

and i think you need to work on your inner game; your wing probably got the chicks you were running game on because he out-alpha'd you
be alpha

hope this helps
DjSuperStaR