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Or you could just come out straight with them from the begining.
U may need to let your current ones go.
But while your sarging them, like after a k-close when your far more comfortable around each other you can bring up the subject of not looking for any kind of relationship (from the girl book too) and if they dont like that, well fuck them there are plenty of other women out there.
For those who don't know, this is called a
Statement of Intent (SOI). The wording is key, as I'm sure you can imagine. Saying "I only want to fuck, we I'm not looking for a relationship with you" is going to be recieved badly. Saying things DURING THE PICKUP like "I'm a 'live in the moment' kind of person", and "I need to make a connection on many levels with someone before I know whether I want to date them -- emotional, physical, intellectual." will help her understand where you're coming from without irritating her.
The general idea is, you tell her who you are and what you're about EARLY ON. If she still is interested and still making advances on you, she forefits the right to be clingy. Don't try to convey this right before you have sex, it has to be completely congruant with who you are EARLY ON.
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This comes from not properly cyphering out whom your fucking. Too many of my friends are having the same complications. I tell them, be sure you understand their temperament prior to f close. Some women are just clingy and needy, these women I stay away from. Even if they're HB9's I know they'll need too much of my energy and time, which I cannot give out. I stay with the strong women whom are quite self sufficient.
Eh -- this is true and it isn't. People have certain tendances, but if you do a good job of making them feel comfortable, and conveying your intentions early, you can get through it without anything becoming messy.
Make sure you create some distance with the clingy/needy types. Don't be available for them every night, don't spend 5 hours on the phone with them every week, and stay in control. If she comes to you with relationship issues and you're not in a relationship with her, don't be afraid to tell her that it's not appropriate.