Hi all,

It's been a while now since my last 'issue'. So things are going good
Anyways, a new little problem occured to me:

I can't enjoy kissing anymore like I used to.

Don't get me wrong. This is no bragging post, "hey look at me I've kissed over 1000 girls it's getting boring now"
No

I'm looking for some advice to make kissing exciting again. I've read stuff about pulling her hair down, and holding her firmly with my other arm. I use this often, and it feels sensual to both me and the girl. However, it USED to feel sensual. For the last few weeks/months the kiss feels more like an achievement to me. I kiss close for validation reasons (how is my attraction with this girl?) and for pleasing reasons. I feel like I have to kiss her, in order to make her have a good time and let her know she is being desired. Not because I, myself, genuinly desire to kiss her.

I don't know what's causing this lack of enjoyment in kissing... Tips/comments/advice are welcome!

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start kissing girls because you want to kiss them.

As in, kiss them because you feel something emotionally towards them.




This is the problem with guys who do this 'pick up' shit, you start seeing it as 'i do this, this happens, i do that, that happens, i must use my tactics and skills to get such and such. At first, it's all fine, cos its new, you're excited about your skills. But then, its no fun, because the game is old now. This is why doing 'pick up' isn't really such a great thing. It's good if you want to have a reason to feel important like 'rahhh check my leet pickupzor guru skills i am master', but its cold and empty.



You ever thought about dropping the whole 'PUA' thing, and just talk to girls because you find them interesting or they appeal to you, rather than 'oh she's technicallty hot, lemme practise my super seduction skills, wahey victory'.



I put it very exagerated so you get my point, not suggesting you are fully that way.


Love
~Finesse

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I think you may not at all have the 'problem' that Finesse is outlining.

Here are some ideas that may help you enjoy kissing more.

You might find it useful to look into all the different techniques and types of kisses. For example, do you know the vacuum kiss? The pain kiss? I don't know if this is colloquial but a girl once taught me what she called the eyelash kiss too. There are many more types.

To be honest, I'm a bit like you sometimes in that I find it boring. Well, I love going in for it, but once doing it it's not that great. I find that nower days when I'm kissing a girl I tend to just open my mouth and watch her do loadsa shit in my mouth LOL. I only realised this recently because it occurred to me that I stopped tilting my head because i couldn't be fucked lol.

I haven't been sarging that much recently but the last big night I had out three weeks ago I met some dude I really liked so I was picking up girls with him, then my target started like sucking on my neck or some shit whilst I was just having a normal conversation with him. The sucking on my neck got me surprisingly horny and that made me want to kiss her. So I do think the girl has a role to play in getting you horny, and you can set up challenges that not only get you horny, but also help in the pick up process. The simplest of course, is "I don't think you're very good at kissing."

The other thing I do with girls is like stupid fun mouth games like having tongue wars. Or, have you ever tried going from a kiss to blowing in her mouth as if trying to blow a balloon up? Have it done to you, fucking freaky sensation.

Being kissed by a good kisser always feel good. And I have to admit, I'm a bit of a pussyole, I tend not to kiss but to be kissed!!! (Too lazy, maybe too drunk)