Kino... Keno... Keeno... however you spell it, to a PUA it's all one in the same thing. However, have you stopped and thought what the term really means? Or do you know, what it's short for? With reference to "the Game" in the glossary, the term Kino, comes from the noun Kinesthesia (credit Jeffries). However, this got me thinking... what does it really mean, however the book defines it as:
to touch or to be touched, with suggestive intent or the purpose of arousal, such as hair stroking, hand holding, or hip grabbing; precedes actual sexual contact
Now, take the base word "kinesthesia" put that into google, and tell me what results you get?
The sense that detects bodily position, weight, or movement of the muscles, tendons, and joints.
Now I got confused. The book's interpretation of kino, is based around touch... yet, the base word for kino defines it to be a sense. I decided to dig deeper into this whole thing about kino, so I googled... what is the study of kinesthesia? Answer Kinesics... Kinesics as defined by (the oh so wonderful) Wikipedia:
Kinesics is the interpretation of body language such as facial expressions and gestures — or, more formally, non-verbal behaviour related to movement, either of any part of the body or the body as a whole.
Non-verbal behaviour, is the key term to focus upon here. Kino relates to the messages that we send out to our targets, both intentionally and unintentionally, on the basis of our body movements aka, body language. Yet from what i've searched on the net, nothing about kino relates to touch. Heavy focus is drawn towards pattern of movements that you undergo when, communicating to someone. Have you ever wondered how someone knows your angry, despite you not saying a word to them? Kinesthetics is exactly why. Now let's apply this to an opener. When you first see your target, what emotions are running through your mind? Nervousness, anxiety, sexual frustration, to say the least will probably cross your mind simultaneously. Transition this to when you initiate the approach, chances are you're conveying all of these emotions with your body; your face, posture, eye movements... EVERYTHING. So, what do you do? You look up the answers, under inner game... the generic response is BE CONFIDENT... you now get the response on HOW to solve this problem, but from what I have read, no-one has really attempted to rationalize this notion into, WHY you should do this. Consider Kino as a two part tool, where body language and touch is concerned.
What about the study of touch, isn't that what kino is all about? If we're going by the book, yes, however if we go by the scientific term, no. So the study of touch, what is it? It's called haptics (Wikipedia):
Haptics is the study of touching behavior. Touch is an extremely important sense for humans; as well as providing information about surfaces and textures it is a component of nonverbal communication in interpersonal relationships, and vital in conveying physical intimacy.
PHYSICAL INTIMACY! This is what we all want... it's the end result, that is the game and for some its the only thing that counts. Ahh grasshopper, don't be so naive plenty more in life that is important. So we touch base one of the fundamental tools of the arts of seduction, Haptics. It is advised to you kino or haptics, is used as tool to escalate your sarge.
Courtship has five phases which include the attention phase, recognition phase, conversation phase, touching phase, and the love-making phase. Haptics takes place more during the last two phases. (wikipedia)
Now applying this to the PUA world... (i think i may have this wrong but it's the way i've broken down my sarge)
attention phase = your opener & Negs
recognition phase = lowering the bitch sheild & fluffing time
Conversation phase = DHV'ing & move to isolate
Touching phase = Kino escalation
Love-making phase = no explaination required
Haptics, is just one piece of the puzzle that's required whilst sarging, and of course so is kinesthetics... but they are inter-related. You see, some will question when and where they can escalate kino or that they fear kino... i know that this has happened to me in the past, however as I learnt to realize, we can communicate to each other with more than just words. I found that my sarges became just that little more effective, because not only can I communicate verbally, now I convey messages with my body. THIS IS GOING TO BE THE FUNDAMENTAL DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A NUMBER CLOSE AND A F-CLOSE. Remember this! But having said that, when you're concious that you want to escalate, but your mind is also planting the seed of doubt, and a river all these negative emotions goes through your head... GUESS WHAT... when you do decided to escalate, whilst in the negative frame of mind, your body is going to communicate that to your target without you realizing it. Do you now see the importance of eliminating these thoughts?
Now my intentions were not to blind you with science, but to give you perhaps a lil bit of scientific rationalle behind kino or haptics. By giving you a better understanding, perhaps your fear of kino decrease considerably, and thus improving your game. I'm inspired by meth's post about edu-ma-cation lol, and that knowledge is power. I hope this empowers you.
Good Nite....
ps: Maybe we need to change the term kino and rename it?
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