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| Sexcellent | PostPosted: Tue Aug 12, 2008 6:04 pm | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Zealot |  | Joined: Fri Jul 11, 2008 9:41 am Posts: 380 AOL: Sexcellent Location: Long Island | | I want to get some imput on how you think game should be calibrated for Foreign HB's.
There is one foreign HB i'm gaming right now, and she happens to have decent English although there is a bit of a language barrier at times. i speak her native language very well but sometimes i wonder which language i should use with her. using her native language may build comfort but come off as needy on my part. I find us both using a mix most of the time.
I think frame control is important here because you have to make sure that what you say is communicated properly. if she doesn't understand English well, but you are controlling the frame right, it definitely seems to help.
I bet the Euro PUA's in the UK and such will probably have most experience with these types of HB's.
What are your thoughts?
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| Ezo | PostPosted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 10:47 am | |
| Offline | | Moderator |  | Joined: Sun Nov 11, 2007 2:04 pm Posts: 4238 | | Start off using english, then explain in her language if she does not understand. This is a type of indirect neg and a DHV.
Different cultures are differently calibrated, go easy on the negs until you know how she works. As long as you use english mixed with her language you have a our-world conspiracy going. You have to speak clear and also slower than usual. She will claim that you are easier to understand than others.
You can then run some BS about that 90% of all communication is non-verbal and that you have some connection on some plane.
Use non-verbal communication as much as possible! Some things are universal, like smiles, laughs, eyecontact. This also creates a link between you two. Take interest in her culture, learn as much as you can from her, she will like it and it will help your calibration!
I got some experience in this
Ezo
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| mozyFresh | PostPosted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 3:24 pm | |
| Offline | | PUA Forum Leader |  | Joined: Tue Dec 11, 2007 10:26 pm Posts: 903 Location: bizarro world | | Yeh go with the english.
This will alough you to be yourself more and flirt better. foreign girls can be so much fun great to flirt with in a way i just cant seem to with the english girls. A polish girl once asked me 'what the word horny means', i had so much fun with that one (and took it as an IOI)
Go back to her native language when need be & to help build a connection with her. Also if you're the one teaching her english thats a good reason for her to invest.
Just out of curiousity what language is it? _________________ To effectively communicate, we must realise that we are all different in the way we percieve the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.
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