So my oneitis is gone, it only took three days. Now i'm happy, finally, jeez those few days hurt more than anything i've ever felt. and thank god for meditation, spiritual counseling, eft, and taiji for catalyzing the whole process. but anyway, she is depressed. and I don't think it's about us breaking up. She's my friend I want to help her. Also, I want to leave the ability for us to get together at a later time if it would end up being the best option out of unlimited options. How would me holding my hand out for her, affect the possibility of us being together later in life? Would it seem like I'm trying to get closer to her?

Given the way you've been acting on here, maybe. You've been sulking around for a week or so.

You can't really expect her to wait around for you to decide there's no better option. Just invite her to be friends and if the situation arises in the future then address it at that stage. Being a shoulder for her to cry on will make the transition to friends more difficult.

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Dude, if your one-itis is cured than why are you still banking on the idea that you two will get back togethor one day?

Give her and yourself some space to get over this whole mess. I guarentee feelings for her will comeback if you stay her friend.

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right on.

Her and I are metaphysical believers. You all might call BS but we both believed we were twin flames, for all astrology, chinese elements, our connections between our problems, and are strengths and weaknesses all balanced completely and were interconnected. Twin flames were once one soul split into two before incarnation. TFs are designed to multiply bliss and growth in the world. They are always attracted to eachother through the whole death and rebirth cycle until transcendence. I'm not banking on the idea of us getting back together. I just don't want to have to wait till our next incarnation to live more fulfilled with each other than any two people can. Break ups like this are common with twin flames within metaphysical communities, TFs many times meet eachother too soon, and will dissolve eachother's karma through bad experiences with eachother. So yes, following my beliefs of the universe, i would be an idiot to act in a way that would shut down a beautiful way to love and transcend.

sorry if you don't believe any of this is possible.
of course i'll stay her friend.
and there are other girls too for the time being, maybe one of them is my TF, at least soul mate. I've been contemplating celibacy for ascension, or the taoist method of gathering energy from as many women as possible. but I will eventually take the bodhisattva vow and not transcend until all else on earth has.

Why do you think that? You haven't given anybody anything to back that argument up in all your "how do I get her back" posts.

If you were somehow spiritually connected, wouldn't there be less of this drama?

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like I said, many twin flames go through a lot of drama because they meet before they are spiritually ready to surrender to that holistic union. This doesn't matter, what does matter is that I am happy without her. and don't want to be with her. now is my time to grow. I just can't help to feel bad that she's depressed and lost her job, and something shitty happened to her that I don't know about, and that she probably doesn't feel good about what she did to me and that her mom recently died and her dog ran away. I hate seeing a friend go through a time like this, and our past relationship just makes me more self-conscious and conscious of everything I do regarding her. When i just want to be there for her.