This is something I spent a lot of time figuring out. I was inspired by DDangelo's stuff, Mystery's stuff and others. It are my thoughts on whole evolution system, that put us in position where we are now.

It all started several millions years ago. We were apes, thus still animals actually. And we had to peacock our asses out in order to get our genes passed on by our offsprings.

*Because that is all the point in sex. Men and women want is as much as possible. To make sure our genes, our species won't die out. Only the problem is in how we look at it. We guys want sex as much as possible - we don't have to care about our kids (although we do, 'cause we are forced by civilization). So our problem is only to find as much as vaginas as possible.

Women, on the other hand, have the problem much harder. They have to find a male, who will have good genes, and be on good voice among others, so his kid (with 1/2 of her genes) will survive and eventually breed. He also has to be strong, to defend her and her child. (There is a drastic method in lion's world - the new alpha-male in herd, who killed the previous one, kills all the female-lion's babies, to symbolize his strength, and to get her off the previous male lion. And she does absolutely nothing to stop it - because the new one is more capable, therefore he will have better offsprings.). Actually any good trait is useful - more chances that her genes will get on.
And confidence? Well, the confident man must have something to be confident about. And acting "I had many women"? It is simply a lot easier to woman when some women have tested this man before and they found him good. It is actually a social proof.

Anyways, back in good ol' stone age, when you got cut out of herd, you died. But that is not the origin of fear of rejection (approach). Men were kidnapping women back then more than marring those from herd. So the AA couldn't get "encoded in genes" there. Actually, it never did. You may be naturally shy, but you don't get AA from your dad or mum - otherwise, these people would die out pretty soon. And we would all be naturals. Ahh, that would be life!

AA problem is pretty big. There is this "is she taken" part, only it is more like excuse not to approach. More likely, today's society put it in us. When you approach a woman, and burn out, you feel like there is something wrong with you. But there usually isn't.. ('cause all people are selfish in nature). AA comes down from our subconscience. It wants to protect us from possible harm. Only when you get used to it, it stops. OR when you do not rely on it so much - the "so what" attitude.

My advice against AA is this - don't think about it. That is what the 3s rule is about - you don't get time to talk yourself off. Only the things that have your attention can affect you - when you don't think about it, it is almost as you forgot it.

So, my hands hurt, so only

Carpe Diem.
*comments are welcome.

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