The night started just as any other night for me, a single whiskey and water at the sports club with the boys generally putting our selves into a good mood.

Off we go into the bright lights of Greenside Johannesburg.

Upon entering i see a sexy brunette, 9 in my eyes and make my approach, somewhere along these lines here friend takes over a 8blondie. I grab her hand twirl her around and we dance, as we get closer and closer i can feel the sexual tension and go in for the kiss, she turns her cheek and i just laugh it off. (im thinking this doesnt seem right) she then heads off to the bathroom and i go to the bar. after about 5min i walk in the direction of the bathroom and see her coming towards me, i grab her hands and pull in, this time she complies strongly. (i find out later she is very secretive about what her friends know about her) i take her number and leave as i have work the next day.

after about 4days i send her a message saying we should meet up for hugs. (i use the hugs thing as an idea that this is noyt just a social meet up, its vague and maybe i should use something stronger but seems to work for me)

She comes over on the sunday and we go out for drinks for a friends birthday and the sports club again. (maybe this isnt the ideal place but i couldnt not go) i keep the kino going and slowly but surely she starts to respond, i had a feeling she was either very shy or just not used to someone with a strong sexual frame.

we get back to my place and i offer a massage, off comes the shirt and the sexual escalation starts.

once i was done i flip her over and start making out with her, things heat up well as our hands explore each others bodies, then out of the blue she rolls over like she wants to sleep. so i try again and the same thing again. I freeze out now, tv goes on and i start watching Californacation. she comes back and kissis my neck so i respond again and once again she rolls off, is she freezing me out haha? either way im tired and annoyed and ask her to leave.
The only thing i can think of here is that i didnt esculate the sexual nature fast enough, i did feel a bit of stress at one point and possibly let the making out go on to long.

Fast forward a week to the following Sunday i message her telling her to come over for some more hugs and hot chocolate. and she says she will b there later. I had been playing sport all day and was tired and not in the mood to waist my own time. i had a goal and the right mindset of rapid escalation.

As soon as she arrives i give her a kiss, she sits on my bed and starts a whole (apparently planned out monolog about how she doesnt have sex for 4months and only if she is dating someone, bla bla bla) she goes on for 15min atleast. (this is where the body language comes in) (i have for about 3years now been reading books about body language and made a point to watch her closely) while she was telling me all this noncence i would say yes and i understand and so forth but then i asked her about her last sexual experience and what she thought sex would be like with me, i watched her eyes, even in the lightly lit room her pupils took over< dilated extreamly, she got a red flush on her neck and her breathing became deeper a slower, she was caressing her neck. at this point i knew it was on.

10min later we were having the most amazing passionate sex ive had for awhile, her shy personality did not reflect the same in bed.

she left two days later thanking me for the fun, before all of this i had told her i didnt want a relationship so she understood this.

in the matter of learning, i asked her what had happened or changed her mind. she said that on her way to my house she kept telling her self that she wouldnt have sex with me but once i had got her thinking about it, she couldnt resist anymore.

something i did notice though is that she was prepared for sex, everything was shaved and clean and she had a condom in her bag.

as they keep saying the girl needs to think it was your fault and that you seduced her and "it just happened"

I really believe body language if you learn to read it is so powerfull you can see right through what people are saying.

Simba

Well done man.