Okay this was kind of an odd situation but I feel like it's worth sharing.
I met this girl on OKcupid and for those of you who know me you know I hate online, it's a wast of time, you get flakes and fatties but this girl was a learning experience with the who that. we stuck me in text game for (no joke) 5 months before we met up talked had a little fun but we just didn't really click like that, I've got that bad boy appeal and she's a silver spoon Jewish american princess only child. she's extremely PC and I'm a little rough around the edges. we just didn't really have that much in common and the attraction wasn't there I guess. But over the next six months or so we grew close on a friendship level.
Now, this seems like the worst LR ever I know but bear with me, it's a different approach and more about never releasing the communication of sexual interest while not letting it get in the way of being friends either.
Over the months that we we're becoming close she had been through some traumatic experiences with her moms health, school and the like. every time we hungout I kept up kino, always always had high kino, toughing the back, the arms hands. This over a little time of her seeing me going through different girls made it less sexual and more so a "Vitamin's just a handsy guy"
Let me recap for a second
1. I kept good kino (this means toughing stays familiar so when/if something happens it's not weird)
2. I'm the strong friend, I'm there for anything she needs any support for problems she may have with family and friends
3. I let her see me with attractive girls (pre-selection)
During that time I also made it very clear to her I would have sex with her. playfully not pressured in anyway but every time we had a "moment" I'd drop a little CnF "you do realize we're gonna fuck right?"
Regardless of being in the friend zone I keep a playful pressure free sexual frame.
okay the night in hand (and by in hand I mean in vagina)
We go out, just the two of us which is a little odd but not that out of the norm, we grab a few drinks, play some darts talk. At this point I have a buddy making a move and I want a first go before me become Eskimo brothers. It's game on, high energy, playful negs (which after knowing someone for a year, your negs become surgical) she's having a hard time with the fact that she's moving in a month for grad school, I'm her safety and her comfort, kino, kino, kino, nothing new there. end of the night we're walking back to her place. Shes asks "do you want to come up for a few glasses of water before you drive home?" (she knows I've have 2 drinks in 3 hours and am fine to drive) "Sure" I say we get up to her place and I play a card I rarely play. I play the "let her in to my vulnerable side" I tell her a story from my child hood and something about my dad's health (vocal tone and body langue where pain and confusion)
recap again
1. I kept good kino (this means toughing stays familiar so when/if something happens it's not weird)
2. I'm the strong friend, I'm there for anything she needs any support for problems she may have with family and friends
3. I let her see me with attractive girls (pre-selection)
4. keep playful unpressured sexual frame
5. re-game on!
6. share a moment (for me it was the vulnerable moment)
I said I should get going, she walks me to the door and opens it,she has that look. I push her back against the door a kiss, good long kiss, I push her back again and reach down with both hands and grab her just below her ass and lift her up. I know that look....she's getting a shot of Vitamin-J tonight
Still holding her with her legs wrapped around me I carry her into the bedroom.
We've all had that girl that we never closed but would still like to at some point, the reason I posted this was because it's a different look at your general interactions and if yer keep the right frame all the time, I don't know that any "friend zone" is a totally lost cause
P.S. we are still good friends today and have not hooked up sense. but I got what I wanted....and lets face it...so did she.
CHAT