I joined the community a little over three years ago and left quickly. It wasn't that I didn't value or believe in the material but rather that I wanted to do it my way. I believe in developing yourself into the best man that you can be. Not just for you but for the women in the world.

To that end I spent three years developing my work (I'm an artist), improving my dress sense and pushing myself into challenging environments. I can honestly say that a 10 day Vippassana meditation course is one of the best things things you can possibly do to get to know yourself at a the core level and destroy insecurity. I also decided to befriend people who are much better at this than I am so I could and can use their advice. Personally I think it helps if they are women, builds excellent pre-selection.
I continued to read information and in the last few months I have started to see the fruit that several years of failure has brought. Here are a few lay and field reports in the hope that I can share what I have found and get feedback on where to improve.

The Scene: Party celebration the end of semester.

The party comprised of people across three year levels at my university. There was a girl who I had made out with earlier in the year but had hardly spoken to since then, let's call her "o". I wasn;t sure if O was still interested and took the approach that I would talk to everyone I could and be sociable. This would increase my chances with the other beautiful and interesting women but also show O that I wasn't desperate and clamoring after her.

I wear a pendant as part of my attire. It was sent to me by my uncle who lives overseas and depicts Thor's hammer Mjolnir. If commented on I can transition to family, travel or heritage and has been very useful to me. Plus I think it looks nice.

Entered interaction with mixed 5 set including O. Had a good conversation about art, uni and student life. After a pause O pointed at my neck and said
"I like your necklace".

This was my Satori moment of enlightenment where tall the Pua material started to make sense. Here was the thought process that followed her words.

- She's interested
-She doesn't have any friend here that will drag her away
-There is no other guy here that will compete
-I'll escalate physically over the next hour (thank you Di Carlo escalation ladder)
-Take her outside to the balcony for more intimate chat
-take her outside for a walk
-I know where she lives, head in that direction
-get some drinks/food to prepare on the way
-get to her place, comfort, seduction, full escalation
-Do I have a condom? Yes
-Are all the logistics sorted? Yes
ergo. I'm getting laid tonight/

This took what felt like the blink of an eye. I allowed myself to relax and sat next to her. we talked about tattoos nd what to get if you wanted one. I had a permanent marker and put it in her hand asking her to design something on my arm.
Building more Kino I drew on her.
Number closed 5 minutes later by putting my phone in her hand.

Sensing a lull in the group conversation I said
"Lets's get some fresh air."
I did this after receiving a number of IOI's and ensuring that I made eye contact at all possible times PARTICULARLY WHILE SPEAKING.
This is something of immense importance. Psychologically eye contact deepens whatever you are feeling. Build attraction, put her in that state then make eye contact and it will heighten her attraction. Also it's easy to make eye contact while listening but harder when you are speaking, give it a go and post any reactions, I'd love to hear how it works for others.

Balcony: Spent 5 minutes standing behind her with my hands on her sides engaged in banter about an artist. I don't believe in fluff talk, there is small talk and there is conversation. Conversation is fun and should be had at every available opportunity.
Demonstrating leadership I took her hand and faced her directly . 30 cm between us making strong eye contact again and talking slowly and calmly that we should move inside.

Sat down in a spare studio, the party was in the university building, in a cubby house that a student had made. Had fun role playing as misbehaving kids having a mock fight. There were childrens books lying around so I pretended to be an old man who would read her a story. Had her sit up against me as I read in strange accented voices to make her laugh. Finished a few pages then put the book down and looked at her. I believe that If you make eye contact with someone for an uninterrupted 3 seconds you can go for the kiss if you have built some attraction. I looked into her eyes and played with her hair. After 5 seconds drew her in with a hand for a kiss.

After a short make out I took her hand in mine continued eye contact and suggested me leave. We got our things and I led her towards a public video artwork that I knew from past conversation was 100m from her apartment.

On the walk there continued a fun playful conversation that I let her dictate before pointing out the virtues of Gin and tonic.

I've found it easier to be indirect about asking a woman home or asking her to take you to hers than to just say it up front. I knew when she commented on my necklace that she wanted to sleep with me but that she wanted to go through all the motions of seduction. To aid my efforts I used the pretext of making G&T's even though we both knew what was going to happen.

After looking at public art and picking up all the ingredients we got to her apartment and fixed some drinks. I cannot speak highly enough of Vin DiCarlo's escalation ladder which I had followed diligently over the course of the night. After pouring drinks all the communication that followed was non verbal and the escalation "ramp" worked a charm leading to a satisfying close.

In the morning I stayed for a chat and cup of tea to reassure her that I did want to see her again. We are still in an open (very open) relationship.

The points I took from the night were:

-Be patient. If you know she is interested slow down and have fun with it, rushing ahead betrays insecurity which is a turn off.

-Make eye contact. Do it well, do it often

-Touch her. Don't be afraid to escalate or show your ability to lead through touch

-Sort your logistics in advance and be aware of pitfalls do you can deal with them

-Relax and stay calm. Own the frame, there is plenty of good information on this, read it and practice it every chance you get.


I hope this may be of some use. Cheers,


Sculptor

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"Consistency is the last refuge of the unimaginative" - Oscar Wilde