I figured the title would be enough to draw attention to my post.

Guys, I'm suffering terribly this week.

Over the weekend, I approached over 30+ women. My intent was to get over approach anxiety. I learned so much in 2.5 days. Honestly I can't wait to share. I never got a phone number, nor a date. I didn't care. My approach anxiety is GONE.

I honestly believe I can get any woman.

I proved it to myself too. 2 nights ago I was working from the mall and in walks an HB9 and we hit it off. Her guy friend who was younger than both of us had tremendous confidence and I give him props fr trying to hook up with a woman 6 years older than him. I was 6 years older than her and had the upper hand because of our community. I think if he knew about us, he'd be dangerous.... none the less, I won over his trust and his mistake was that he left. I think he felt out alphaed(sp?).

whatever... so she had to leave and we exchanged numbers. I never ran game that solid in my entire life. I know the confidence level boost that I had from the weekend was the reason.

She texts me about an hour later and we decide to go running together. She comes back to my place and i take a shower, then she takes one. She gave me an opportunity to make a move on her and i intentionally didnt bite. i cooked dinner instead and made her wait.

we sat on the couch and i made her wait while i massaged her achy legs and arms.

finally i picked her up and we made out a bit.

she tells me "bed, now."

she was so fucking hot, i cant tell you.

then my penis decides to retreat. i could not fucking get it up. FINALLY after 10 minutes of trying, i finally get there. she was so sweet about the whole thing. so were doin ok, then my penis quits again. for 2 hours this on again off again shit happens. i got her so close to cumming 4 distinct times and i couldnt get her over the edge. even i was so fucking livid by the end of the night. i didnt let her know tho. At least, I didnt want her to know.

I did my honest to God best to hold my frame.

i told her that she was prob the finest girl id ever been with and that i was super super nervous. and it was the truth. i told her this has never happened to me. I really tried to get past it, but eventually i just got up and left the room. i came back and laid next to her apologizing. she asked me if i wanted to finish and i told her 'no. You didnt finish. I'm not selfish and I wont do that if i cant get you to finish.'

i held her for a bit and took her home.

when we got in the car, she seemed down and it was awkward and i thought 'whatever happens, be strong, be alpha, dont break your frame.'

i asked her to tell me about her fam and she did. I made her laugh a little more. she asked me if i was ok.

i told her that "this hadn't happened before and i have a lot going on. I also told her that i had an amazing evening with her and i wouldn't change a damned thing. it was all worth it. if i had to do it over, i wouldn't. i had a blast. i will get through this and this is only going to make me so much stronger than i already am. im not worried."

i went home and called my friends right away scared shitless. I made a doctors apt first thing the next morning. i just got back from the doc and she said that im too stressed out and thta my habits of being alone, over worked, and broke have finally caught up to me. she said my body is physically reacting to the stress.

i never had this problem with my last g/f. im really worried about this.

i like this chick. i want to continue seeing her, but she doesn't seem to be responding to my texts. i think i blew a one night stand that couldn't been a wonderful 'friends with benefits' situation. I have to trust my game, but damn, I cant believe this happened. ESPECIALLY 3 nights before my first LAIR meet.... wtf?

please help.

Forget about her man, if you could get one HB9 with your current game, imagine how many hb9's you can get when your game goes on.

Dont get One-itis over an ED situation,

-Sil3nt

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It happens man, don't worry.

My super awesome backup plan is to simply go down on them. Make em cum and they won't care whether or not you fucked them.

Great oral is the most appreciated act by women. If I get too drunk I can't get it up, I just disguise it and go into some sexy wrestling/foreplay, if it still doesn't happen I just eat them out.

Either way, quitting is the worst thing to do. It makes a guy look like a real loser - I mean there's no reason you can't still give HER a good time with your tongue right? I guarantee that if you give great oral, she'll keep coming back.

my tip: draw the alphabet on her clit with your tongue while holding the clitoral head up slightly. This has NEVER failed me. But make sure she's REALLY horny first!

AGAIN: NEVER JUST GIVE UP! An alpha accepts the situation and adapts. Your goal in the bedroom should ALWAYS be to PLEASE her in the best way possible.

I agree you should forget about her. If she is not answering your calls most possibly she is laughing with her friends about her experience.

The truth is if you have kept secret that you were nervous and that there was a problem things wouldn't have been this way. You shouldn't even have left her to suspect such a thing.

The best move was to just say goodnight and tell her that you will called her another day.

And I have to disagree that an Alpha doesn't give up.

An alpha would have not put her on a pedestal and couldn't care less if he had dropped the opportunity to have sex with her. He can have sex with HB9s all the time. What would have been that special about her and that night??

Nothing has to be special about the girl per se, but IMO it's plain poor form to just leave a girl hanging, when with little effort she could have had a good time.

It's rude and unnecessarily selfish, which is not apart of being an alpha.

This actually happened to me for the frist/only time with my ex long term.
and this is after being very experienced with lots of 9's and a few 10's.

its really really important that 1 she doesnt make you feel bad about it... and if shes sweet (most girls are) then just say "gimme a few mins.. " (if its not happening after going down on them and also make use of your fingers too....


the best way to get over it is to not think about it or worry about it.. start watching a movie again... spoon her... rub her ass and thighs...... good method to kick start it to is to give her a back massage on the bed while shes on her stomach naked... start ath the shoulders, back grab the tits every so often, move down her back, kissing it and get to her ass, masage her ass then the back of her thighs, get your hands and thumbs in close to her pusssy while your massaging that area.... you should be naked to one knee on each side of her like shes mounted..... this will probably get u hard.. make sure its dim, some background noise, music or movie and jsut focus on the massage and it'll turn you on....... i did this and recovered that night with my ex.... thank god... i only made her cum twice which is usually really low for me... but i was amped about it after that situation..

i wasn't stressed... her and i talked for about a week after meeting before she came over. talked a lot.. i really liked her already.......and wanted to make sure i did my best which i know would make her wanna come back.....

too much pressure on myself...but i was actually doing fine until i went down on her and she immediately said "i hate that... doesnt feel good to me" which KILLED it for me,.. this is the main reason.... cuz im AMAZING at it.... after a few weeks together she LOVED and now LOVES it.... she just never had it good before.....

she knows im experienced and later asked.. so what do you think happened?

i just said, really its just cuz we talked so much before meeting, most girls i don't connect with so well so fast.. you were different, i really liked you so i was thinking about us way too much.


she thought that was sweet... long term gf til she snapped the fuk out on me for seeing another girl.. eek.. hotter girls are more jealous and insecure... ugh.

hey man dw, u dont have ED.

this happins to all ov us at some stage.

its because ur nervous and worried and the more u think about it the worse it becomes. the reason u dont get this problem with ur girlfriend for example is becasue ur comfortable with her, ur relaxed and enjoy the moment soo much more.

Focus on what turns u on. foreplay longer, if ur a tit guy focus on her tits, if u enjoy kissing, kiss longer. far out even if ur a foot guy then rub her feet. its about being comfortable and enjoying the other person.

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This used to happen to me all the time. Every time an HB made me nervous, I became impotent. So I did something about it.

I went out and bought Cialis, Levitra and Viagra from online pharmacies. Now if I'm ever not feeling up to it, I pop one in and wait about 30 minutes. I even bring it with me when I'm going out, just in case.

If I'm nervous, dehydrated, drunk, ate too much, tired, etc... I can't get it up. I don't know why I'm so sensitive, it's always been that way. What hurts the most is being so mentally horny and not having your body respond. So I use something to help out.

Of course, it doesn't happen often, but sometimes it's necessary. I probably have to take a pill once every 6 weeks or so. Although, sometimes, if I want to impress an HB, I'll take one and fuck her all night.

However, once I have f-closed the HB, I'll never need it again for the same HB. It's just about securing my confidence and getting to the point where I feel completely comfortable with her. It's weird, I know, but at least I get laid in the end so that's all that really matters.

Corvettester