Disclaimer: I know this isn't a Lay Report (and moderators, you can move it if you deem fit) but I just wanted to know something.

So, let me put it out there: I'm 20 years old and still a virgin. And having not had sex, it is impossible to determine how my personality would change (for the better ?) once i do have sex.

Basically, I wanted to know whether your attitude, general confidence, charisma, body language, etc etc etc etc etc change once you've had sex.

When i think about it, there isn't anything else that is separating me from 'truly' being an adult. I drink, i smoke, I've done drugs, i've had my fair share of responsibilities and problems, I've had a job etc etc) but I've never had sex, and hence, I don't truly feel complete.

Evolutionarily, we are hardwired to eat, fight, and fuck, right?. So, in those terms. I'm just living 2/3rd's of my life right now!

So, yea, please help me out with this one guys.
How have you/ and how do you change once you've had sex ?

Thanks a lot boys,
Peace,
Boom

Hey
There are a few ladies here who can probably better answer your questions
they are:

Bonita, Zip, and possibly Killians you should Private message them


From a guys perspective you're change will be that 1. You'll realize what you've been missing out on all these years and 2. You'regoing to want good sex on a consistant basis and there's nothing wrong with that

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thanks man

Also, I'd PM my old wing man Gem. He was in the same exact situation as you and he lost his v-card a couple of months ago. What he told me was that now he sees sex as not as big of a deal. Like what's said in the 40 year old virgin, don't put the pussy on a pedestal.

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I don't think that having sex with one girl is really going to change you. You're going to do it, you'll probably be bad, or at best, mediocre at it, and in the end it will all be chalked up to life experience.

Now, the part where sex DOES change you is when you've had sex with a lot of women--I'd say at least 30. After you've had sex with a lot of women you will start to feel confident around women and that confidence will glow from you when you are around women thus making them more attracted to you. This, of course, is going to create the effect of you getting more sex. And you see, it's just like a big snow ball effect. The more pussy you get the more pussy it gets you.

Now if you're a young guy with not much experience here would be my advice to you about women. And just as a disclaimer, this is NOT the way I did it. I did it the wrong way, so let me tell you the right way.

Don't get in a relationship with the first girl you fuck. Have a lot of superficial relationships with women but don't get serious with any of them. Have sex buddies, one-night stands and stay away from prostitutes and get that pussy with your pick-up skills. Fuck your brains out with as many beautiful women as you can possibly fathom but NEVER, EVER get serious with a girl.

Then, when you are just tired of fucking beautiful women night after night and you feel some kind of emptiness inside; when you feel so isolated from all the great sex you've had; then and ONLY then should you consider having a serious relationship with a woman.

Clozer,

That was the best advice I have ever heard. You should honestly post that in the relationships section and let all the people tied down hear this great thinking. I've never looked at going into a relationship the way you have, but I will from now on. Pure genius my friend.

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This part, at least, is some pretty shitty advice in my honest opinion. I'd feel pretty damn empty after having ONE one night stand, much less fucking a girl (almost) every night. If I want a meaningless orgasm, I'll just jack off but if I want to feel something real, I'd wait till I'm in a relationship. Then again, to each their own.

I so want to be at that stage you mentioned Clozer. Fucking brilliant.

Thats the response i anticipated, that once you've had a lot of sex, your mindset changes. You naturally begin to attract women.

And honestly, I wouldn't mind having one night stands or meaningless sex. Atleast, not at this stage in my life (i.e: college)

Anyway, yea, i need to pm your buddy,Jac , and figure out a way of getting out of this non-sex mindset and into a sex-mindset.

man I dont know, I think sex in a relationship is so much better than like one night stands. But then again the first girl I fucked i was with for 2.5 years!

I was with my first gf for 2.5 years, and then I just came out of a 5 year relationship.
I'm only 22!

Whoa, it feels so good to be out and in the open with the wild things It probably depends on the girl a lot, I can remember my first girlfriend being good fun in the bedroom, but my last ex, geez was she terrible!!

I knew it was bad, but after some great sex on the weekend, I didn't really appreciate what I was missing out on.

One night stands don't have to be fuck and get up and leave btw. I fucked a girl on the weekend, then when I woke up I fucked her again. It was nice sleeping next to someone, but then I dropped her off in the morning and thanked her for the good night, which I can tell you is an even better feeling.

It means that I can continue out on the weekend, chat up some more chicks and not feel guilty about it. One of the real low points was a few months ago when a girl was clearly interested in me, and asked if I had a a girlfriend.... I did at the time, so told her straight up. I guess that was my downfall then and there though - she said "we can still be friends", and I was like "no we can't!" - I guess I'm too honest sometimes lol

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Lol. Some really nice posts here.

Ok, so I guess I should first say something about myself. I first had sex when I was 20 and am also one of those chumps who has only had sex in long-term relationships.

As for the original question I dont think having sex will change you in any significant way. If anything it will teach you that sex is WAY overrated. Not that I dont enjoy sex, its fuckin great, but it is not the fuckin holy grail. Especially guys like you (virgins) tend to see sex as something out of this world. And often you will have friends/others make fun of you because they have fucked and you havent or such shit. You can tell these ppl to just fuck off. Sex is just another nice thing, but trust me, once you start having sex regularly it wont be such a miracle no more.

And I have to say - Clozer's advice is the SINGLE BEST PIECE OF ADVICE I have seen on this forum. Ofc, be safe, you dont want to catch any disease or shit, but other than that enjoy yourself while you can and fuck as much as you can.

Corey - yes, sex in a long-term relationship is much better than a one night stand. But you wont know this until you try it out now, wont you? Trust me, I know what I am talking about. I am in a very serious relationship and I love the girl I am with. But that is the exact reason why I am really pissed off that I didnt fuck around more when I could, because now I cant. What are you suggesting? That Boomshankar should find a girl for a serious relationship and fuck only her for the rest of his life? Or are you suggesting that he should stick with her for a few years and then dump her? Cause thats not very serious then....

Boomshankar, follow Clozer's advice, you will be happy you did... However, avoiding serious relationships is something you might not be able to do.

yo, thanks New

It's not that losing your V-card will make you a better person, but the fact that you are a virgin right now, is affecting your mindset (at least a little) and is most likely keeping you from reaching your full PUA potential.

In Maslow's Needs Triangle theory, sex is one of your Deficit Needs.

A deficit need is something that you only worry about when you don't have it.
In other words "you don't miss the water unless the well is dry."

Sex is a preoccupation for you because you aren't getting any right now. This will hinder you, making you appear needy. And like they say... "The hungry don't get fed."

Well, this is true but only to an extent. With sex, the reason most people worry about getting some is because of how strongly society puts out there the idea of it, and if you're not getting any, you get looked down on for it. If they didn't make sex to be such a big deal, I doubt people would worry about it so much.

Exactly.