| Lay Report
Very, very strange night
Hung out at home till midnight playing with my roomies. I decided to go out at like 1am.
Right off the bat I got opened by a few girls because of my shirt. One of my fav. shirts is a black shirt that says NEW YORK FUCKING CITY on it. I always get opened on it, it's a really cool shirt. The first girl that opened me with it grabbed me and pulled me into her group. I got the feeling that she wanted me to start juggling like a fucking clown or something and entertain them. I told them I had to go.
A few mins later, I was about to walk into the bathroom when a really cute girl grabbed me again...
her="OMG R U FROM NYC???
me="I have to piss, I'll tell u when I get out"
She was with all her friends when she first engaged me. I took my sweet ass time in the bathroom, and when I came out she had ditched her friends and was waiting there all alone for me. Guess my shirt had a strong impact on her. We bantered, played, and had a fun time for a couple minutes. She was really cute, but I didn't really care if I got anywhere with her, I was just vibing. So I tried to push her limits.
She was bragging about how her grandparents were born in Italy or something...like I give a fuck, she thought she was some hardcore New Yorker. I started making fun of her telling her yeah my grandparents came here from Italy too, first thing I did was take them to Fazoli's. Yeah my grandpa has a tribal Italian flag tattoo and plucks his eyebrows, he could totally kick your grandpa's ass. (pet peeve of mine when people brag about where their family is from, no one gives a shit, we're all in America now)
I was actually ripping on this girl hardcore, but I was playful and had a smirk, so it was cool. The more she talked shit, the more I called her out on it.
I then asked her if she knew how to dance, not some lame ass New York shit, but real Chicago style. She asked me to show her how, and I just grabbed her hand and pulled her to the dance floor. What I wasn't expecting...."I can't, I have to get back to my friends." Wow...didn't expect that. Regardless, I didn't feel like playing any more games and dealing with her texts, so I just said, "whenever you want to show me how cool you are, get a hold of me." I walked away, she grabbed me, said she didn't have my #, I gave it to her, and walked away. Whatever.
As I'm getting in my car, she texts me asking what I'm doing, invites me to another bar with her friends...yada yada, I get there, all her friends are "mysteriously gone." Anyway, I escalated and ended up going home with her.
Two huge things tonight that got me the end result
-One, my shirt. Fuck the shirt, but you get the basic idea. I stood out and I didn't really care. I wear cool accessories and shit too, but I love wearing shirts like that. Standing out not only gets you noticed and gives a girl a reason to approach, but it really shows a girl that you don't give a fuck. You're totally in your own reality. Huge attraction switch. I remember when I would first wear shirts that would swear on them, or say outrageous shit, I would feel self conscious. Now I almost have to watch it, because I'll wear shit like that and suddenly find myself reading in the Border's kids book section next to a family. But it's nice to really not care about that small shit anymore.
-The next part, which is much much much more fucking important. Shit, I barely knew this girl before I parted ways with her. The attraction was there from the start. Normally I would have qualified a lot earlier, but I was really just having fun with her. She was attracted from the get go. What's that mean? DONT fucking sit there and banter all this stupid bullshit at her. So many guys over-do it. I actually expected her to get pissed off at me and leave, I didn't care. Maybe my frame was good, who knows. I know a lot of guys, especially those who lack a lot of in field experience, will do this. When a girl is attracted, don't fucking pull out all this shit you read in some e-book. Just flow with it. Give her a small qualification, then build comfort. Let her know that the attraction she feels for you is perfectly ok to have. Play fun little games with her, and give her subtle feelings that you two have known each other for a lot longer than you actually have...almost have an instant date in the venue that you are in. I've done this and it literally makes the girl think in her own head that you two have been dating for a while, when you just met. When she showed you that she was attracted to you, she gave you the opportunity to take advantage of it. She dropped her shields, you're in.
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