So recently I started talking to this girl whom I know had a much older boyfriend. We finally me up and I k-closed her. I told her i've never felt this way about a girl and that their was something about her that made me smile. The next week I got with her again and F-closed her. I'm 17 shes 18 the boyfriends 21. (ouch). Somehow he finds out that i've been talking to her and is all suspicious.

Then the worst thing happens. He reads the girls text messages I sent her and the ones she sent me and now he knows exactly what's going on. He tells me never to talk to this girl again or we'll have "Problems". I don't respond. I really want to keep hooking up with this girl and I know that she wants the same thing. The sex was amazing too. What would you guys do in this situation? I don't want this to get physical but I also don't want to come across as a wuss to the girl.

mmm keep rolling with her, tell her she needs to do something about him. He's already lost to you... short of him actually getting physical with you, I wouldn't be too worried about it. If that goes down, make sure you've got friends with you.

I would play the probablities.

Freeze her out. Note freezing out is not a 'I'm never talking to you again' type-thing, it is just a sudden but aloof 'no, it's cool' type of thing.

Just tell her to call you when she's sorted her life out. Frame her current situation with her controlling boyfriend as negative, and low value. Frame yourself as high value. Don't say you'll be 'waiting for her', but subcommunicate it.

You're where the value is at, your life is fun and interesting, and if she wants to be a part of that it's up to her. Let her go until she makes that decision.

THE CHANCES ARE, YOU WILL HOOK UP WITH HER AGAIN at some point in the future. Think logically. And at that point the issue with her boyfriend will have dissipated.

This is one of those where the decision is really subjective. But that is what I would do. Second what the person said above me - if it gets physical, always have friends around. I was once going to fight a guy who cheated on my gf (ironic, eh?), until just an hour before (yes, it was 'scheduled', how very sad), I got tipped off he was carrying a metal crow bar. Imagine the consequences if I went.

i agree with the posts above.. freeze her out in the "nah i don't need the drama honestly... hit me up when you sort that stuff out" sorta way....

there are a lot of girls. and she has a special spot for you. she wont just disappear on you.... so be strong... dont get hung up on her.. shes not exactly pure if she has a bf too remember that.... you may be "special" but u also may not.. so dont lose urself in there..

also be weary of msgs from "her" asking you to meet up somewhere to "talk" could be him...

jealous bf's will do some whacky shit... and unfortunately the girl will usually bend to them...... so be careful

I never understood these bf's tho... i cant relate to their situation (that I know of) but if my girl was banging someone else.. id feel like i wasnt doing something right and work on myself....first thing is id drop her pretty damn fast and not give a FUK about what she was doin anymore... i dont understand what these guys problems are...

Too bad you didnt get her email.

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