So met this girl a couple weeks ago at a bar. Text back and forth and spoke on the phone a few times. She lives about 45 mins away. So we agreed to go out last nite.

I told her I had an empty house and might be throwin a party. She can come and spend the nite as long as she isnt a psycho killer. she jokes that she is but wants to spend the nite. I went and picked her up. brought her back to my pad. Spoke for like 10 mins then decided to eat. So during dinner she hinting she wanted to be 1v1 2nite no parties or anything (i know of another party).

So back to my place we started to watch "the great debate" or someshit with denzel washington. horrible movie which was perfect haha. about 5 mins in i went in for the kiss. built a lot of tension. pulling back from kisses and makin her chase. about 10-15 mins into it i started moving forward by her breathing. she started to breath hard id go for tits pull back. then go at her again and once shes breathin hard i went lower.

So anways 20-30 mins into th emovie i had her naked on the couch picked her up and took her upstairs to my room. Boned for like an hour and i couldnt bust but she did. So i said its cool i can wait till the morning. morning rolls around and i bust *yippeeee* then about an hour later she starts makin out with me in bed fingerin her self. so i went for round 3 . . . and couldnt bust again.

1/3 for busting. 2 hours of boning. a good nite indeed haha except i had this other chick calling me and textin me through the nite and i couldnt answer haha so i had to make a nice lie this morning to cover haha.

When it rains it pours. im starting to heat up.

Dude, good story. Sometimes, ya just can't cum, it's normal. Don't sweat it.

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I've had sex three times in my life

First: 1.5 hrs and no bust

Second:45 mins and no bust

Third: 3 hours and no bust


So naturally went to read about it. Got to be anxiety. Been trying some relaxation methods. Ive read as well that if you jack off but stop before busting, then when you go have sex, its easier to bust.

End of the day got to try to forget about it and overcome the hurdle.
good luck

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i know how a girl feels now ive never had this problem before. i just ended like a 6 month drought the other nite too. i htought id wanna bust left and right. i tried thinkin of a porno. pamela anderson at her peak. anything, but nothing worked

Dude, I know, it's frustrating. Anxiety will NOT help it. Just chill the F out. Your body will respond appropriately when it's ready.

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I have a similar problem, although I think I know the cause. Condoms. Boy do I hate condoms, but would never have sex without them coz they practically save your life. I can't feel jack with a condom during sex, so no figure I was going for 2.5 hours my first time without being close to coming

That might be the problem for me too. I feel I could keep going forever and I don't cum. The girl likes it but it kinda sucks for me.

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"men who say it cannot be done should not interrupt men doing it"

Yeh man i've been there myself, you feel like a right tool bangin away and not blurtin, usually that happens when i've been drinken, the next morning is usually the best ... 3 minute job looooool!!!

1) Stop trying to put on a performance- You're there to enjoy the experience. You're not making a porno dammit.
2) Breathe- this will completely change the way you have sex.
3) Don't focus on ejaculating- it will cause you more anxiety.
4) Focus on your body- not other women or your thoughts.

David

hey as long u get her off

True but ive been told my some of my close girl friends that when guys don't get off during sex they feel VERY shitty about themselves.

I have the same problem as well and condoms play a huge role in not being able to feel anything. Also, i had sex last weekend and it was actually torture haha, wasn't attracted to her at all but went over there anyways(stupid alcohol) and couldn't bust for 2 hours.

Not bustin happens to everyone especially if its a condom+alcohol combo. Medic is right for sure, just relax.