| Out of all the girls I've slept with, their most common occupation has been barista. I sleep with a lot of baristas. And ever since I got into pickup, it seems that I pull from house parties more than any other venue. That's just my specialty.
Saturday night, I went to a house party and there was a barista there. Go figure.
I was running around trying to figure out what to do that night. I didn't want to drink because I didn't want to spend any money. Then I found out that a friend of a friend was having an eviction party. Her roommate was getting evicted and she wasn't on the lease, so she was going too. What do you do in New Orleans when you're about to get evicted? The same thing you do whenever anything bad is about to happen: party!
I grabbed a bottle of vodka that I've had laying around since New Years, bought a bottle of cherry Gatorade to mix it with, and headed Uptown. The party itself was nothing special, to put it mildly. There were five girls there: two twos and three ones (that's on my zero-to-three scale). One of the twos was a real, live, honest-to-God Mormon. She was doing the whole not-drinking thing and everything. It was trippy. The other two was the girlfriend of one of the guys there.
Then there were three ones, one of which was the barista that I ended up sleeping with. Being a barista, she was social circle. I had also already made out with her like a year ago, but she LMR'd before the clothes even came off.
Anyway, back to the party: there were maybe ten people there. One dude was DJing on his computer and everyone else was sitting around the living room drinking and talking. People weren't broken up into sets; this was a round-table kind of party, with everyone just talking to the whole group at once. One big 10set. That means there's no room for tactics; it's all vibing.
If you haven't read the second link in my sig, please do. It'll teach you how to be a cool guy. If someone else says something you think is cool, don't try to one-up them. Instead, add emphasis to it. Feel free to agree with people. Give people props when they talk about cool stuff they've done. Keep the party vibe positive and fun. Don't be a douche. Respond positively to others' "DHVs" and they'll do the same for you.
To that end, I was offering to get people drinks whenever I went to get one of my own (including keeping the DJ's rum on the rocks fresh so he could keep the tunes bumping without having to get up to get drinks... this isn't supplication, it's just courtesy), giving positive feedback to people who were keeping the crowd entertained with cool stories, and doing fun, goofy stuff of my own, like providing voice overs for the dog.
Okay, explanation: we gave the dog some beer early on in the night, and it was stumbling around a little bit and being a friendly drunk dog. It even went up to the Mormon girl while she was sitting on the floor and started licking her face and stuff. And put one of its front paws on her tit as it did so. I decided that the dog was a drunk dude in a bar groping on some chick in an attempt to pull her.
Me: "Hey, hey, look... I know I'm a dog and you're a human and everything, and I know we've just met, but I feel this connection with you that I've never felt with a girl before, and I really like you and stuff. Blah blah etc."
Someone mentioned that the dog had just gotten farther with the Mormon girl than any human being ever had. It was funny because it was true.
Eventually, the party broke up and the barista and a friend of hers invited me back to their place to keep drinking. They're both social circle, so this was no big deal. Nothing special continued to happen.
Then the barista told me I could spend the night, and asked me if I'd be willing to cuddle her.
Time-out. I was a semi-natural before I got into pickup, and I'm convinced that the reason why that was the case was because my endgame is pretty damn good and always has been, despite the rest of my game not being all that strong until recently. Platonic cuddling has led to sex on several occasions for me. There have been extraordinarily frustrating times when it hasn't, but by and large, cuddling -> sex. If you're going to learn something from this LR, this is it: breath kino.
Step 1: Cuddle. Just get comfortable.
Step 2: Wait and breathe. Just relax. Slow and deepen your breaths. You should basically be pretending to be asleep.
Step 3: Turn your head so that you're exhaling onto the girl's neck and/or ears. If she digs it, do it for about half an hour.
Step 4: "Wake up" and make out.
Step 5: Sex.
If you talk, you're doing it wrong.
And that's that. I wasn't expecting to sleep with anyone until the cuddling request came. Then I knew that it was going to happen. I wasn't even "gaming" anyone the entire night. It was vibing, logistics, and endgame. That's it. No tactics, no swirly-whirly nonsense, no gambits, no routines.
I wasn't even trying.
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