Time to lay: approx. 8 hours
After one month of keyboard jockeying, and three months of sarging, I finally got my first lay since I joined the community! Woohoo!
I met this woman at a club two weeks back, you can read about her in my 2 field reports "Blue Balls Hurt" and "Keep Flying". To be short, she is 12 years older than me and she thought I was 21 (I'm not). I did some text and phone game with her to build a lot of comfort with her. However, it took me a lot of work and effort to get this lay. I hope something like this never happens again!
LAY REPORT
She texted me on the 25th around 9PM asking me when I could come over. Two hours later I called her, ran some more comfort stories, and then I told her I would come over the next night and that she would cook for me. She agreed, great! Just me and her that night, I must pull....
I arrive at her place around 8. She explicitly told me not to come earlier because she has to put her kid in bed, and she didn't want the kid to see me. I understand. I get there, with my box of chocolate, and I'm really surprised.... I see two of her friends at her place. I thought it was just going to be the two of us! That immediatly broke my state.
I walk into her place and her friend immediatly asked me for my ID.
HbFriend: Lemme see your ID.
SS: Huh? You want to see my ID?
HbFriend: Yeah, lemme see your ID.
SS: Okay, here you go.
That even broke more state more, if that was even possible! They thought I was 21, I always dodged and reframed the age queston, but somehow still wanted verification. I found out later that they checked my Facebook profile, where I don't reveal my age, and they checked all my party pictures and noticed I was not wearing a wristband. That's some serious CSI shit right there!
At this point, I'm thinking: "I thought I was gonna get laid tonight, but I guess not. I need to get out of here."
We all had dinner together, and my AFC-self rose above. I was quiet and there were some awkward silences when we ate. Everytime the music stopped, Cougar immediatly payed attention to it. Cougar and her friends were also shitting me the whole time, I couldn't take it. They were making remarks about "Ooohh I never lie", "Yeah you can't do that, you're too young" and things like that. It really affected me and I wanted to get out of there, nothing was going to happen that night.
After diner, we went outside for a smoke and there were even more silences. We could hear the crickets once a while and I didn't position myself next to Cougar at all. I wasn't feeling it and she could obviously see that. We go back in and watch a movie. I sit next to cougar, but like 1 foot apart from her with my body language closed off towards her; my legs crossed away from her, intensely watching TV, ignore her when she looks over, and my hands in front me. Then she starts to lean against me with her head and I reward her by grabbing her arm and stroking her forearms.
Out of nowhere, she starts to breath heavy. Like, I never saw that before. She was getting turned on when I was stroking her forearms. It was a great realization at that moment. Then I withdrew my hand and threw her hand away, consciously.
Cougar: Why......!
SS: [pretending to look surprised] What?
Cougar: I want to be touched.
[grab her arm again]
(A lot female psychology in the works here, I love you Savoy)
I guess this was a reward-punish technique or kino push/pull and it worked. I never did something like this before, so I'm going to add this to my arsenal and field test it more. So at this point, "Hmm, maybe I can still pull it off." We go outside again for a smoke and again her friend is shitting me with the whole age thing and lying. My state broke again. At this point, I'm saying that I'm about to leave. Cougar wanted me to stay for a bit longer and then I isolate her so I can have some real talk with her. If I would go without a lay, I might as well go out with a bang and pull out every trick out there to get some magic going on. I remember Niceguy of Casanova Crew and Anachronism (thanks buds) telling me to dismiss the whole age thing and make her feel comfortable around me.
SS: Look, I don't care what others think of age differences. What matters is that I like you and you like me. We like being around each other and you feel the same way, right?
Cougar: Yeah, but you are just really to young for me, like....
SS: Hushhhhh, you talk to much. Come here.
I pull her face to me and we makeout. This was really balsy on my part, because I thought I could blow myself out with this move and I wasn't feeling it that moment. But from that moment on, the momentum was on my side. I start running some same comfort stories (she has heard some of them before, but couldn't remember them since she was drunk last time) and I start coming up with new ones on the fly. I connect with her on different levels and my attraction towards her grows even more. While talking, I keep stroking her forearms but also her inner thighs. I know the latter is a sensitive spot (look up Erogenous Zones for more info) but the forearms did their work too. She is getting aroused and this was for me the first time to see a woman getting aroused while not having sex yet. Eye opener for me, I love the erogenous zones now
My state came back up, and I started being more dominant and aggressive. We kissed a lot and I start pulling her hair roots, sucking her neck, kissing and she breathes heavy again.
Cougar: I want to fuck you right now.
SS: Sko!
We go back in, I sit on the couch but she and her friend go back outside again for a little talk. Now that could have killed her state talking to her friend and I was afraid of that too. But then they came back in and started going upstairs. Both came back down and Cougar changed in her PJs and sat next to me on the couch.
Cougar: Lets go upstairs and lay down.
SS: Sko!
Cougar (to friends): We're gonna lay down for a bit and I'm gonna show him my decorations.
Haha yeah right! So we went upstairs, no LMR, I'm giving her a lot of pleasure, she gave me 2 blowjobs, and I thrusted like a wildman. It was great.
After the sex, I debriefed with her and I found out a lot of cool stuff. Some questions I asked and her response.
SS: What did you think of me when you first met me, before I even talked to you?
Cougar: I thought you were sexy and confident.
SS: When did you know that we would have sex?
Cougar: I didn't know, but I have thought about it a lot.
Also we were talking about 'sharing each other', hinting towards a threesome. She told me once before at the club that she wanted a threesome, and I'm totally down for that! Maybe something for the next few times.
At this point, we were clear on our 'relationship' status. We're just gonna be friends with benefits. Well, no one ever explicitly said that but we both assumed it. I made sure that she knew that I was going to be around so that she wouldn't have any remorse the next day. We just texted each other and everything seems to be fine. Nice....
Credit
Some people definitly need some credit for my game so far. The Magic Nuggets crew definitly is a great group of people and support group. I love you guys! Robotlove, I love you too. You helped me so much with my daygame and especially phone game, I owe you one. Gvision, your game is so tight it's sick, and you always have good advice. El Topo, your custom routine stack rocks and our talk on the phone helped a lot. I feel really good about gaming because I'm just showcasing my best self and that is what game is all about. Casanova Crew, you guys are awesome! Keep up the good work you guys are doing infield and on the boards. Also, I noticed that I understand women much better now and why routines work. Thanks to Savoy's talk on female psychology I understand better what game really is and how women 'work'. It definitly helped out my game.
CHAT
