Went to the club for a friend's B-Day two nights ago, it was Christmas night and the place was jam packed. We had a table close to the entrance and everybody that came in or went to the restroom was passing under our eyes. I stopped a blond HB8 with a Rihanna hair-style and pierced tongue that I thought was giving me eye contact, turned out she mistook me for a friend of a friend. I laughed about it and segued into some fluff talk about Christmas presents and teased her for being a "good girl gone bad" (in reference to her hair style). Long story short, there was some stiff competition around, but I ignored them and went ahead with the sarge. I got her number and later that night went with my friends to an after-hours place.

I texted her about how cool the after-hours place was and she dropped by twenty minutes later. We had drinks and within five minutes were making out. I told her half an hour later that I want to leave and she's welcomed to join me. She said no, and I left alone, not giving much thought to the outcome. We exchanged some texts back and forth, her asking me to join her for burgers at Mac Donalds and me asking her to drop by my place for a night cap. Nothing came of it, and we called it a night.

Next day, she texted me and after some fluff talk I asked her to come over to my place for coffee. I figured I had nothing to lose, as I wasn't interested in more than a ONS. She said no, let's meet in a coffee shop. We spent two hours in the coffee shop during which we touched on the topic of casual sex and ONSs. She called me a player and I unapologetically said yes, that's what I do, after which I used my response from a post on MPUA Forum as a routine to establish my identity to her as a guy for ONS purposes only, framing its use as a topic I discussed with a friend earlier that day.

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We continued the conversation with her opening up about sexual experiences and fantasies, which I credit to me appearing as a non-judgemental guy. When coffee date was over, I drove to her place and she asked me if I would care for a glass of wine. Two bottles of red later I f-closed her and then went home... Overall time spent together until f-close was about seven hours...

Lessons learned summary:

- go for the make-out as early as possible
- do not give up after initial rejection; after two failed attempts to get her to my place she asked me to go to her place
- sexualise the conversation early on if you are going for the ONS
- own your identity as a player, don't make up excuses for who you are