OK, I cannot describe it in full detail so I'll go with the most important points and couple of assumptions. I needed this as I come after a very bad separation and my game has weakened a lot(as you're about to see). It's couple of weeks I am trying to remember my skills and get some new ones also so I think it's a good sign of progress.
* Very weird and exotic looking chick, dancer, a 6 and a 9 at the same time(according to my tastes at least). What I mean is that the facial features were so extreme and the general structure of her face so unnatural that I was changing my opinion on it every few seconds. Generally very good though.
* Met her in a pizza place where I went to meet a friend of mine and go to a party together. He was already talking to her when I got in, we were mutual friends with the guys that were working there and when we left she followed.
* 1st mistake- bad team game. My friend refuses to follow certain rules such as determining who is going after the chick and who is supporting him and he plays a very chaotic game. I cannot follow, my style is different, more mild and indirect and only on girls I find interesting- like a sniper. He goes straightforward in a very intense manner on any girl he sees in front of him- he's the machine gun. He won't always support in front of chicks( he's not bad just doesn't know that he should do it).
* Another girl than my friend invited came to the party so I told him to finally choose targets. I asked him to leave me with the dancer and get the other one he called which I didn't like at all- he accepted. Sweet of him as to be fair, she was his pick from the pizza place.
* After some teasing, couple negs and light kino, I make my move. Looking at her playing with her hair, going for the kiss. FAIL. She pulled away and I was a bit surprised because she was looking in my eyes and smiling for quite a few seconds before I did it. She said "I did not expect that. I'm sorry" and I responded "what are you sorry about exactly?" with a smile in the face. This relaxed her and she stayed close to me and we started talking.
* I told her "let's go out, take some air". She followed. Started talking on really heavy and serious philosophical and "metaphysical" stuff. I didn't care anymore to get her so I was talking about whatever I wanted to.
* As I was talking I kept teasing for fun every here and there not to make the conversation too heavy for her, she kept looking me in the eyes and smiling. She also gave another serious IOI, I paused at some point and she re-initiated the conversation. I noticed(I generally don't- a part of the game is to be an observer and a listener and this is one of my many weaknesses in general).
* I noticed she was now cold. I suggested we go again inside. She said "after this conversation, I cannot go inside anymore. Let's go away from here". "OK, are you hungry? Let's go to X place (right next to my apartment
) and have a snack". "OK, let's go". From the moment she said that she wanted to go away with me, I knew she was mine.
* Took a taxi, both of us almost totally silent all the way. One time I caressed her forehead to see how she was doing because she was slightly drunk and the car ride was making her dizzy, she accepted it.
* Told her "let's go to my apartment first for five minutes- there's a surprise for you there and you can also go to the toilet(the surprise was to take her in my studio, I am an artist and she had expressed interest to see my work+ visit a toilet ). "no, let's take the snack, I'm hungry" "toilet is more urgent.... hey, wait a minute, (smile)are you afraid??" "no, I feel secure close to you and I trust you- I just want to eat" "good for you, let's get your snack".
* Very impressed with my studio. We sit together on the couch and talk about it. I see she intensely looks at my mouth as I talk so I kiss her- success.
* More talk, started cuddling after. She is afraid. We sit on the couch, we clear things out. She says she is in an open relationship with a guy(I don't go with girls that have a boyfriend but in my book open relationship is no relationship so I did it) and I told her about my case and that I don't have anything to offer to her on a steady basis and that it is a question for me the situation with her guy but finally no, I can do this. I also said something that seemed to have a very strong impact on her : "nothing will happen in this house that you don't want 100%. I'm not interested in forcing you on anything." "I know, I feel it and I like it a lot". Few seconds after that foreplay had begun.
* Did it 3 times, 2 at night and one in the morning. Bad sex, no chemistry but she seemed to enjoy it far more than I did. She initiated the other two times. Third time not so bad, but let's say that I had far better sex with other ladies.
* From saying "hi" to the pizza place until foreplay about 4 hrs, maybe a bit more.
* Kept her phone no, maybe a FWB case is to be built here. I am afraid though because she seems to like me a lot and I'm not so eager myself- I'd rather stay free, there's more things on the way the following days and I want no trouble and of course not to hurt anyone.
My main conclusion, it pays to be persistent and it pays to be indifferent. I didn't exactly notice what turned her from rejecting me at the beginning to sleep finally in my place but I would bet that it was the fact that I didn't take the first rejection heavily and I even teased her on it and then didn't mind to stick with her and talk with a smile as if nothing happened. More experienced guys, you may see something else, if yes please let us know.
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