| Here's a little tid-bit for you guys. I read a lot of posts about how to get a girl who is flirty but LMR and wishy washy to come around. I just pulled this off again and this time I saved some notes to post, with commentary for the newbies.
The quick n dirty back story is this HB8 started at my company a year ago as a temp, I stayed away from her as I was already hooking up with another HB9 in her department and didn't want it to blow up (gotta keep co-worker hookups on the DL. Don't shit where you eat my friends). So while everyone in the place was flirting and introducing I would just walk by and ignore. I also overheard her talking about living with a boyfriend.
Obviously after a little while of that and the various punters giving up I broke the ice with a few snotty comments to a conversation with her and her supervisor as I was passing by. I'm higher up on the food chain that most people in that department so I can be casual with the management. This was an initial display of Alpha for those who aren't sure why I'm mentioning it.
Eventually after a few passing comments and snide remarks she started saying hello and good morning to me. I never initiated. Then one day she sent me an email that she was having an issue with her computer (I run the IT dept.) So I go over and it was a retarded request that she clearly created, and not craftily. By this time also the HB9 had moved on so I figured it was time to replace my daily distraction. So when I got back to my desk I sent her an email back that just said "use my cell, they log everything in email" This was me acknowledging her interest and affirming our interaction on a personal level while showing I'm in control. She txt me shortly after with some bullshit like "hi" that I ignored.
Few days later on my way in she said hello and made some weird comment about how she was feeling very peppy that morning. I waited as I knew it was coming, and sure enough she sent another txt "I'm bored!".
I wish I saved the original txt convo to post but I got a new phone recently and the old archive is long gone. But essentially after 2-3 back and forth I just ballz'd out and sent "i'm kinda bored too, let's find a closet somewhere and solve this." Short, sweet, to the point, alpha and ballzy. She laughed and flirted back and shortly after we started sexting and carried that on for a few weeks.
After several attempts to get her to meet me for a rendezvous, each with her going on about how she'd like to but her boyfriend and bla bla bla, she finally made a move on me passing by the copier. She grabbed my side. It was simple but the message was clear "I want physical contact with you". This was a signal to keep at it as she was slowly breaking down her defenses.
Few days later I invited her to lunch(notice how these steps happened days/weeks in between. If you try to hyper escalate in this type of situation you'll just find yourself in the HR office with a sexual harassment suit in your file. Have to bump it in intervals). She agreed, but then blew me off. I half figured on it, so when it happened I just froze her out for a while. Didn't pass by her desk in the morning, didn't make eye contact with her when in the general area and whenever I passed by her desk I moved quickly as though I was in a hurry to take care of something or started a conversation with someone else nearby and quickly moved to them past her area but where she could still hear everything.
Eventually she txt'd me again feeling out the waters with "you've been too busy to say hi to me?" or something similar. This was the signal that it was working and she was getting frustrated. I ignored her txt for about 3 hours, then "yeah, shits been nutty". that was it. I ignored her response which was some bullshit like "well, come say hi sometime"
After a few more days she showed up at my office "just to say hi" that's when I knew it was time to turn the game back on. I sent her a dirty txt "so you, me and a dark closet". sexting ensued. This push pull went on for about 3 months. Slowly escalating kino when we would pass each other. Starting with poking sides, then patting her ass, then grabbing her boob, then a quick rub down her crotch, all with a devilish grin - making sure no one was around, then walking away just as I ramped it up.
Sexting escalated, kino escalated, and then when the opportunity struck I worked my usual MO of convincing her to meet me in the conference room (which I have back access too) when her boss was out and the place was quiet. As they all do, she reluctantly did. Groping, kissing and pushing the line as much as possible in the 3-5 minutes before we had to bolt out of there under the radar.
At this point I thought I had her in the bag, but not quite yet. Things got quiet for a bit and I let them. I let the situation cool off and didn't turn into a hornball needy retard. I knew she would have a period of guilt with messing around on her boyfriend, and I knew that if I pushed her she would freak and it would blow up. So patience is king here. I kept any txt's professional and basic interaction clean and simple except with the continued devilish grin. That was to let her know I was ready whenever she decided she was.
Turns out there was one more round of LMR. After some time and things started to escalate slowly again I invited her out to lunch. I went down to meet her in the parking lot where she was sitting in her car smoking a cig and as I was about to approach her another employee walked up and started talking to her. So I didn't react, just calmly got in my car, started it (which was directly across from here where she could see me) and sent her a txt "are you coming??". After about 2 minutes she was still talking to the guy and didn't check her phone so I said fuck it and left.
I was admittedly irritated, but I kept my cool, got my lunch and strategized. I had to freeze her out completely. I had to let her know I wasn't going to put up with games or be her toy. So when I came back from lunch she was still smoking and talking to the guy (quick lunch just down the street), I parked right in front of her and purposely did not make eye contact. I got out of my car and walked back into work without so much as acknowledging her presence.
She sent me txt about "i'm sorry, that guy totally surpised me bla bla bla" I just responded "I don't believe you are sincere". And then ignored her txts for the rest of the day and the following day. She obviously blew up my phone like crazy about how I had it all wrong, yadda yadda, bullshit.
After a full day ignoring her she sent me another txt the following morning here is the exact transcript:
her: "so did you want to go to lunch today or are you still ignoring me?"
me: "I brought my lunch" (truth)
her: "ok so no... u don't wanna hang around with me then?"
me: "Possibly. What I don't want is to feel like I'm just a toy for your amusement. I don't put up with ppl who play games"
her: "I don't view you that way at all. I view you as my friend"
me: "That's the problem. I'm neither. 'Friends' don't grope each other, nor blow each other off." (yes blow was intentionally used)
her: "How would you define it?"
me: "That's up to you. But what I'm not is a chump who will put up with that kind of BS."
her: "Ok gotcha."
few txts later we agreed to do lunch again. I told her on the way out I needed to grab something from my house on lunch, she was welcome to join. She followed. When we got there I just said "come on in, it will take me a minute".
Then I got my shit (actually needed to), pointed out a few renovations I had going on and other pointless shit. Then just turned to her grabbed her and started kissing. Needless to say it was a fun lunch hour. Despite her saying we should stop and all that, I just kept pushing until hard stops - there weren't any. When time was up, it ended with promise of frequent repeat performances.
A great visual of this is the Bond movie Casino Royal, where he goes to the fancy hotel with Vespar and randomly wanders around then says "I can't find the stationary, help me find it" and the next scene they are getting out of bed together - that's pretty much the way to do it at that point.
So lets recap the steps:
1, ignore.
2, casual meaningless small chat.
3, demonstrate alpha qualities, don't focus on her
4, push pull for a while and escalate sexual tension and kino
5, test compliance. Don't give up on a failed test - freeze as punishment
6, let them come back to you
7, on their kino signal its game on
8, make a ballzy attempt. Again don't give up on failure - freeze as punishment
9, if ballzy attempt works, don't hesitate - escalate.
10, in the heat of the moment, press forward until a hard stop - let it cool.
11 - for those who don't know what comes after: Simple, business as usual with the same MO as above. Calm, cool, large and in charge. Don't turn into a soppy needy hornball and start blowing up her phone and roaching at her desk. Just play it cool and calm. The fire will continue to burn hot, even if it smolders in between blazes as long as you methodically fan the flames.
Hope this helps.
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