Okay, it's starting to get annoying now, the last two girls i've been with i have found it difficult to get it up for sex, the foreplay is fine and i wouldn't say it's confidence issues, but my foreskin is very tight, and even when its loose, the psychological effect of knowing how uncomfortable it can be, before going in just blocks my mind.
I think partly it may be because the last two girls i have been with, i haven't found entirely attractive. But its starting to get annoying now.

I wonder if anyone has had the same problem, i had this problem with my last girlfriend but i managed to overcome (literally) however because i like to be a bit rough and go deep, this problem prevents it. Im not sure if its psychological or something physical.

Anyone else have the same problem ?

You know what dude? I had that problem back in Elementary school with the tight foreskin (no I wasn't fucking anyone but my hand back then lol), and I had performance anxiety all through high school and into college, until my only LTR so far helped me overcome it just by being really sweet and understanding.

How many times (not how many girls) have you had sex? The first thing I'd say is that I'd expect your foreskin to loosen the more you have sex. But mine loosened through how much I jacked off lol. How often do you masturbate? Also, I remember, while young, not just masturbating, but playing around with my dick in a non sexual way, pulling apart and stretching the foreskin regularly. Not so hard that it hurts like a bitch, but kind of how when you practice your game you expand your comfort zone one step at a time, you stretch it so you can feel the resistance and it almost hurts but doesn't quite hurt each time. I would do this a certain number of times a day, as often as it's easy and convenient for you to remember. Maybe do it every time you go to the bathroom and have privacy, or make a point to do it at least three times a day.

Now, if any guys think my foreskin loosening experience was just a fluke, and that you'd have to stretch your skin a much higher % of the day to notice an effect, say so, but I think this is enough to be effective, and goes along with my personal experience.

As for the performance anxiety, it's all in the mindset. Basically I started to overcome it when I shifted from thinking "OMG I've gotta stay hard, shit I'm going limp, damn she can't see me with a limp cock or she'll think it's smaller than it really is" to "Let me rock her world, savor every aspect of this incredible experience with her, listen to her body (eg her rate of breathing), and take her higher than she's ever been before, and if my cock goes limp, I'll just tell her to suck it to make me hard again." You see man, getting and keeping you hard is actually her responsibility. Yours is just to give her the time of her life, with whatever combination of cock, fingering, lovemaking, total dominance or anything else that makes her go wild. So what, your cock goes limp? Then go down on her, or if you don't want to (that and sex without a condom are very risky for STDs), finger her while you suck or bite her tits, dig your fingers into her waist, suck her neck and her ear, etc, and she will have a great experience and remember you for it.

Then, after having sex a few times, when she's really comfortable and understanding of you, explain to her your problems, she will work with you on them, and they will get better just because your comfort level has increased. Then, the sexual confidence you gain with her will carry over to other women, and you'll find it easier and easier to do wonders with your cock the first night with a new girl.

Hope that helps.

I will add that I recently asked a cougar I've hooked up with before to teach me how to make her squirt, and she did. It's actually ridiculously simple. All you do is, with an open hand, stick your middle finger in her pussy, and curve it against the part which is toward her front. You will feel ridges towards the entrance, so feel those ridges and then push your finger deeper in, always pressing toward her front, til it feels softer and without ridges. That's her G spot. Then you just keep pushing at her G spot over and over like you're fucking her, except you keep your finger at the same depth, you just push towards the front of her body, and in slight circles so there's some friction. This cougar said it could take anywhere between 5 min and an hour, but I made her squirt in what seemed like two min doing exactly as I described, while biting her tits (some girls are more sensitive and you should just suck and lightly bite), sucking on her neck, ears, deep french kissing her, etc.

Now, it will probably take you longer if it's your first time having sex with the girl, because she won't be as comfortable, and you might not be able to make her squirt at all, but it's sure as hell gonna feel good to her. You'll have best results if you've done masterfully in the comfort stage, and of course you can make her cum faster the longer and more rewarding your relationship is with her. If you try it til your finger feels like it's gonna fall off and she still hasn't squirted, move to something else. Tell her to suck your cock and then go back to fucking her for instance.

Best to you mate.

get a circumcision

lol I write these big ass posts and yours is three words. Well, technically that would work.

yeah thanks for the post man

Well i have had about 6-7 sexual partners, i am 21 years old, and have had one long relationship, which i got out of around 6 months ago. I'm certainly not a beginner, and have had some serious heavy duty compliments on my behalf before when having sex
But as you said it's just the pain i have experienced with it that makes it difficult. If i haven't had sex in a while especially it just adds to the anxiety. Also the last two girls i haven't found that attractive, so it didn't help.

Still I'm going to keep pulling it down, believe it or not girls are pretty understanding if you explain to them, but il get over it, i just need to keep pulling it down. lol

Cheers for the advice.

Don't get circumcised, you lose some sexual sensation in your dick.

In the bath, use soap or shampoo to loosen your foreskin and gradually pull it back slowly until your bellend is fully exposed. The more you stretch it the more comfortable and looser it will feel. If you have problems getting it up, stop jacking it so much. Don't fap for at least 3 days before sex (I prefer to leave it a week to make sure I'm super horny and to ensure I deliver a huge load).

Spot on. You can also use your thumb or your mouth to stimulate her clit at the same time. Made a girl squirt for the first time ever this week and that is EXACTLY what I did.