| 3rd new girl in 10 days...2nd in two nights!
The Backstory: An ex-coworker, who used to work with my ex-OLTR as well. I believe she's a little younger than me. Last time I saw her was close to a year ago. We flirted a lot at work and I got her number, but then I got into a relationship and part of the deal was I wouldn't fuck any of her friends.
The Girl: Petite little Filipino girl with a rockin' body and a sexy voice. Very very smart, very wise and mature. Seriously one of the hottest girls I've been with.
The Seduction: She contacted me on Facebook a couple weeks ago asking if I'd "like to get a drink (or more) when I got back into town. I documented our conversation there in the thread "Letting Them Chase and Escalating The Vibe."
She texted me today asking what I was up to tonight, I told her I was seeing some friends around 9 but was open later if she'd like hang out. She said sure, then asked if she should pick up some beer along the way. She came over with beer and I gave her a big hug.
I gave her a brief tour of my house (mini-bounces) and testing compliance the whole time...sit here, come dance with me, open this beer, etc. 100% go. We sat down in my basement and began to share some stories, life experiences, she asked me about Hawaii etc.
I ran some patterns/routines, about connections, about sex, about dating, all the ones that are becoming part of my usual repertoire. Not hypnotic patterns, which I have my own opinions on, but patterns in the sense that I've had this conversation dozens or more times before and it tends to go very well. I also ran a little pattern about doing the things you desire (self-point) with no fear of shame or judgment. I pulled it off well. To those who think it's weird to talk about this stuff and self-point...have a deep conversation with a girl sometime. They all do this unconsciously, watch how they gesture when they speak!
Anyway, I brought her up to my room to show her some recent portraits that a group of artists made of me. They're super cool and she thought they were rad.
I ran a little routine I like to do called The Birthday Song, which is when you figure out what your birthday song is and play it for the other person. The way you do it, is you search for what song topped the Billboard the week and year you were born.
Hers was "Bad Medicine" by Bon Jovi, which is pretty fucking cool! We searched it on YouTube and played their awesomely cheesy 80s hair metal video of it. She sang the chorus, "my love is like bad medicine," and I said "oh really? let's see about that" and moved in to kiss her.
She laughed and turned her cheek, and said "I have to tell you something. I'm actually dating someone...her name is Bethany." !!!
Obviously that was not going to stop me, but I did not attempt to escalate again at that point. I talked with her about dating, about how long they'd been together, if she'd been with guys before (she had, like all "lesbians"). She said something about how kissing someone else was cheating, or something that I wasn't really paying attention to. She broke up with another girl before she started dating the one she was talking about, but dropped hints that she was still fucking guys on the side.
A few minutes later I moved in to kiss her again, and she said "I can't kiss you!" I said "OK, I'll do all the work then...you just sit there and take it." So I turned her head towards me and kissed her. It was really fucking good! She had great lips and knew how to use them. I pulled away and went back to normal conversation (fractionating).
I found a cool drink called Kava in Hawai'i, and got some when I got back to the South. Instant mix, powder. It's a root that makes you smiley and chill. I told her about it and asked if she wanted some (I was making some when she showed up). She said sure.
We went down to my kitchen and I made a glass of it, then taught her how to drink it (hold in your mouth until your tongue gets numb and tingly, then swallow). She dug it but wasn't sure if she felt anything. I asked if she wanted a massage, maybe that would help her loosen up. She laughed and said "definitely, but we're not having sex tonight!"
I used the same line I used last night on the other girl..."Sex? With YOU? Excuse me young lady, but I won't be just another notch on your belt. I'm a feelings man, I have emotions and shit." Just banter and turning the tables a bit. We made out a little bit again and then headed upstairs.
I put some chill music on and told her to dress down to her level of comfort. She called me back into my room with her bra and panties on. Holy fuck, that body! She said "good thing I wore panties, otherwise you could see my whole ass." I pulled her panties down a little to see her ass and said, "what that one? damn, nice!" She laughed and laid down facedown for the massage.
She re-iterated that we were definitely not having sex tonight. I agreed.
I massaged her legs, then pulled her panties down and started massaging her ass. So much for the resistance! Not a word of struggle. Then I took off her bra and massaged her back and neck too.
I told her to flip over, she said "why?" so I just said "yeah put your head over here." She turned over, breasts exposed and kindaaa covering them but not really (I could see her nipples and stuff, she wasn't making much of an effort to hide them). She lay down on her back once she was comfortable (I didn't look at her tits at all, just peripherally). I started massaging her chest and stomach, with her head near my torso and myself facing her feet. This is a pretty romantic AND dominant position, upside-down kisses are super hot (think of that scene from Spiderman.).
I leaned down and started upside-down kissing her, then moved my mouth towards her breasts. She goes "nooo, I know where that leads!" and I said "where?" She says "to sex, and we're definitely not having sex tonight!" "Of course not! No way" I said.
She asks "do you do this massage thing a lot? Is this your move?" I ignored it and just kept turning her on.
I eventually moved on top of her and started kissing her. I moved my mouth towards her breasts and start licking her boobs and sucking on her nipples (again no resistance this time). She was getting pretty turned on.
I took off her panties (they were still on, just lowered) and kissed my way down to her pussy. Fucccck it was so nice! I ate her out for a few minutes and she was moaning and really digging it. I started fingering her too and licking the area around her pussy (girls like this move). I put a condom on and she looks at me and goes "I thought we weren't having sex tonight!" and I said "for sure, we're definitely not having sex tonight."
Then I slid my dick inside her.
It was pretty soft and slow (I had surmised this one wasn't really into kinky stuff, though I may be wrong and she could just be hiding it...who knows), really romantic and nice. We kissed a lot as I slid in and out of her.
I pulled her on top of me, laying down on my back. She said "I feel so guilty!" and I just responded "Sh...it's OK, come here" and that was the last of it.
She rode me for a while, I kept my kinkiness under control and didn't choke her or slap her (though I did spank her a few times). A little dirty talk, she was really into it. I'm not sure if she came but she was definitely enjoying herself.
After I came, we hung out and cuddled and talked and laughed and even danced a little on my porch. This chick is SUPER cool. I asked if she wanted to shower with me, she said no, she would just take one at home. She didn't want to stay over...sweet! You'll get no argument from me on that one, little miss.
We kissed a little and I bid her goodnight. Told her I'd be in town for about a week if she'd like to hang out again. She goes...
"Yeah I think I'd like that...but we're definitely not having sex!"
Takeaways:
--if she contacts you, she wants to fuck. No ifs ands or buts about it, that's the only reason she talked to you in the first place
--her other relationships are completely, 100% irrelevant. If you're Secret Society, she understands that the relationship she has with you exists outside of any of those that either or both of you may be in.
--"we're not having sex tonight" means "I've been putting a lot of thought into having sex with you tonight."
--calibrate well, if she seems uncomfortable with something, stop doing it, distract her with something fun and positive, and then go back in for it later. This builds/restores comfort and makes her realize you're not going to take advantage of her, take the seduction at HER pace. Sometimes that's fucking immediately, sometimes it's a little longer. She wants to fuck you, just know that and keep doing what you're doing, it'll happen when she's ready.
--If you get token resistance, just agree with whatever she's saying. For some reason they seem to like and appreciate this, even though you're just parroting her while completely ignoring the content of her message.
--as always...fuck her good and most of all just BE A COOL DUDE. it goes a really long way, and I only know this because I used to be the exact opposite of cool. Being cool opens every door that being weird closes.
Questions or comments...bring it playas!
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