| Not usually. Let me give you the benefit of my age and experience as a lover and as a doc (yes, I am a doc).
Most guys think they need their dicks to fill up completely the gals vagina, and be long enough to smash up against the cervix (the bottom of the uterus at the end of the vagina). For smaller gals or asian chicks thats not a problem if you have a more or less average penis size.
But I'm older and have had sex with women who have had kids. Their vaginas are often massive, dilated, and nothing short of a good sized salami would fill them. But I've given these women rocking orgasms too, and am of average size. So what's the deal?
The deal is to be a good lover and to know about women's physical arousal. If you're a good lover and seek to please her, you're half way there. And, guys, you have to be able to hold you're erection a long time. If you cum, that's okay, just get it back and go back to work. Some women just take a ridiculously long time to cum, especially with a new person. Sometimes they just can't with a new person.
Don't take it personally. Anyway, you have your erection, your an attentive lover, now, what do you do with your penis that may be lost in a very warm, wet, and spacious vagina? Make sure it rubs up against the TOP (that is, nearest the front) of the vagina. That's where her clit is.
You do NOT have to be hung like a rhino to thrust/rub against her clit, near the top of her labia (lips). The clit is unbelievablely sensitive, more sensitive than a guys penis. Some girls get off just squeezing their legs together if they're in the right mood. It's that easy.
That being said, a small minority of women just want or seem to need a huge dick to get off, and there's nothing you can do about that. I'd say that's pretty unusual though. Just as some guys like huge breasts or razor thin women. That's more a matter of taste.
So, be an attentive lover, keep up your erection, be patient, and rub up against her clit (throw in some massive pelvic thrusting of course), and she'll usually orgasm during sex. If not, oral sex always works. Remember, the clit is unbelievably sensitive, just take your time. And, sorry Gene Simmons, the size of your tongue does not matter...lol.
In a way, the high sensitivity and arousal of a woman's clit is her weak spot. Just as you may be a slave to your penis, she's a slave to her clit. More later.
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