Just a quick summary here to keep active in these forums (This is catch-up from 2011 to today since I've just recently joined the forums):

In the last half year of 2012, I've made a ton of progress after breaking up with my fiancee in late 2011 after 5 years together. I still can't believe I let an asian 5'11"/HB9.5 slip through my fingers and I was destroyed mentally after that. Neediness, AFCness and Oneitis started to develop within me as it ended.

I did however manage to f-close a rebound relationship HB7.5 almost immediately after that in January from an assistant that was working for me in my industry. It was just a normal chat in the car, then led to tickling -> biting -> k-close -> f-close. It was in the car, and I was somewhat unmovable being 6'2, so she accomodated since she was 5'2 She was quite narcissictic after I started seeing her, so that rebound relationship ended fast after 2 months.

The next person a month or so after that, I developed oneitis for and read all of her social cues wrong. I was completely uncalibrated with her and even when she showed signs of just wanting to be friends, I kept texting and pursuing her against my better judgement. I must have chased her for weeks. Never got anywhere with her and my confidence started to go. That's what happens when you aren't seeing lots and lots of HBs simultaneously!

Fortunately, a few weeks later I started with some Online Dating on POF/eHarmony. I created a profile, spent hours wording and tweaking my profile's photos and the about me section and started messaging HBs. I wasn't expecting much, because of all of the negativity with guys saying they message thousands of girls over the years with no responses or flakes that go nowhere on POF's discussion groups. However, my experiences were quite the opposite.

After about 20 messages messaging HBs in my search criteria (HB7-HB9) over 2 weeks, I had gone on dates with 3 HBs. One on 2 dates, but found we didn't have chemistry and two on a coffee date where the 20 mins felt like hours because she was so boring. She must have found me boring as well, but never did I think it was my problem, just a lack of chemistry. This was having the intended effect, as my confidence started to return. Over time, I established a list of very unique coffee, dinner and dessert places around town where I would take my dates. As I dated more, I started to get out to more and more places, and get a ton of opportunities to talk to different HB ratings from 7s to 9s and that was enough to give me the boost I needed to get over my AFCness. Even one of the store owners at my local dating setup places stopped me one day when I was having coffee by myself and asked me where I was sourcing all of these HBs from

I was getting a good return rate on my messages. I found taking a few minutes to find a hook in an HB's profile reaps many rewards crafting your message, including not telling them how much you make or how I had to fend of jungle cats in the amazon last weekend I don't know many techniques in the PUA world, so most of this is whatever natural game I can muster up. I consider myself average 7/10, but uncharacteriscally tall for my descent which does help I imagine.

Then it got really interesting this month.

The next few messages and I had gotten a dinner date with an HB7. We did some shopping and had dinner, and I read all of her cues spot on. She was giving off constant IOIs, especially her gaze when talking to me. I started to stand in her personal space, used casual arm brushes and then moved to casually holding her shoulder to stop her from crossing the street when a fast car was trying to make a right turn. Soon enough, I had my arm around her waist. After dinner, I told her to check out some antique pieces I had around my loft and that gave her enough plausible deniability. Once inside, I ramped up the kino immediately and it became a k-close 1 min after we stepped in the door and turned into an f-close and I am still seeing her on and off. She did eventually see those antique pieces... the 3rd or 4th time she was over

At the same time, I had messaged another HB7.5 and we did a coffee date off eHarmony. Coming off from my success with the previous HB7, I also engaged her the same way and by the second date, after a night of clubbing, she was at my place for the f-close. I made sure I didn't give her too much alcohol at the club, to avoid any buyer's remorse the next day. I too am still seeing her on and off.

Lastly, very recently (as in a few days). I messaged and setup a festival date with an HB8. The first date was very slow, but the conversation was engaging. Unlike the other two I f-closed, this one was a very traditional and conservative asian, so I couldn't kino the same way. If I tried the arm on the back approach through doors, that would have creeped her out on a first date. The second date was at a music lounge, but she got comfortable and moved within my personal space and started to play with her hair and even told me to smell it at some point. Soon enough, I had my arm around her, teasing and touching her. I am planning a road trip date with her shortly, so I expect that I will soon be f-closing her as well.

There has also been some developing opportunities with HB8s and 8.5s as well on the dating sites that I have lined up to see in the week/weeks. I think the year will get interesting if I stay this path. So far all of these last three have told me the same thing. After 1-2 dates in conversation, they tell me: "I feel like I've known you much longer than the 1 or 2 dates we've been on." So I guess when I start touching or holding their waist, etc. they don't feel threatened.

The hardest part now, is that I am actually looking for someone for a long term relationship, so I'm not sure what I should do. If I f-close more and more, what is the best approach to do with the queue of the people you've f-closed in the beginning but no longer want to see without hurting people's feelings. Is that even possible?