Hi guys, this is a continuation of my previous FR which turns out to be a successful night. This is a little long, wanted to be as detail as I can to get some feedback
I’ll start from Monday, a day before Day 2.
I texted her early in the morning , I know she starts work at 930am so I knew I would get a late reply and did not panic
Me (10.13): Hey London. Traffic in Coventry is crazy, need helicopter. How was London, did anything crazy?
She(12.34): Haha you just by a helicopter
London is a very nice city, I’m so jealous
Me (12.35): Let’s move to London. Buy a house with garden, pool and a dog named Henning
She(12.49): I would not mind moving to London
I would shop everyday
Have you had a good weekend?
Me(13.25): My weekend was great. Competition = 45% more awesome
Let’s meet by the bull at bullring at 4.30 tomorrow
She(14.54): It sounds good
I gave her call after awhile, reason being I called her earlier when she was working and turned out miss called on her phone, when she didn’t pick up, I hit myself in the head while saying “What the fuck were you thinking?” Eventually she text me to call her again. Nothing special about the phone call, basically she was trying to figure the location because she wasn’t familiar with Bull Ring. Of course, got a verbal confirmation on Day 2. Happy days!
Day 2
I was late about 15 minutes but I did text her earlier letting her know I was late.
When I got there, saw her smoking and leaning against the pillar. Walked towards her and gave her a hug and went straight to Starbucks. While walking, did a bit of fluff talk. When I got there, I was shocked to find out there weren’t any couch there. We went and got our drinks, and the first thing that came into my mind at that time is to make sure I sit next to her and make do with whatever I have.
Managed to sit near her where physical touching would be possible. Went straight with light Attraction and then went into normal conversation, fluff talk (credit Zenith for reminding me to be human and not gamey every time). Along the way qualify her and then comfort stories. Basically, I want to learn more about her so we talked and share information and get her talking and me keeping my mouth shut and make sure I listen.
I also found out that she was leaving this weekend, and I thought I have another week and half with her not 4 days
I did cold read using the Ring routine which I tweak like…A LOT and made stuff up along the way
About an hour after we decided we go window shopping to look for present for her friends back in Denmark. I was trying to figure out if I should just hold her hand and lead her to Bull Ring or should I just walk side by side with her. I eventually did figure out that walking side by side with her isn’t going to work because she walked way too fast. I find myself trying to catch up with her every now and then. Eventually, we reached a T junction and she was heading the wrong direction and then I reach out with my left arm and put it behind her lower back to guide her back to the right track and I was already having my arm around her shoulder the whole time after. Somehow going for her hands seems odd, so once in awhile I will just let go and walk by ourselves.
It could be just me but by this point, the whole thing seems to die down a little, and to be honest I freaked out a little. We weren’t escalating in our conversation and kino, it was in flat line mode. So, after walking for about 45 minutes and found out she couldn’t get anything here, I suggested we take a walk and told her about this jazz bar that we should visit after, I was overselling the cider which is nothing special to be honest but she never try it before.
I thought taking a walk enjoying the scenery by the canal would be a good idea, at least I thought she would walk a little slower and change the mood a little but no….. she was walking fast. Now this is where it got awkward a little. I saw a small bridge and the sun was just at a nice position where you could enjoy the view. I decided to be a smart ass and did the “almost kiss” routine. I would say it backfired because of my poor delivery and I wasn’t calibrated enough to know that it wasn’t the right time to use it.
She: Sorry, I don’t kiss people I’ve just met
Me: We’re not kissing *trying to keep a cool and a poker face at the same time – not easy
I transition straight to something else coz I didn’t want it to effect the whole evening so I told her that we should head to the jazz bar we were talking about. She agreed and while walking I started conversation just not to have the awkward silence, I started asking about her job, engaging her logical brain really.
When we got there, you just know the mood has change a little, it was a really relaxing bar with great lightings and with the sun still shining outside, you know it’s all good. Got to a nice couch where she could sit next to me and this is where I start to do what I can and not screw this up. I cycled through attraction, qualification and comfort, keeping in mind that I want to find out about her, something that she wouldn’t tell others easily.
Playing the question game is definitely money. Easily pass the time without awkward silence and every question, I try to fit in some story that is true to my life, just so I can DHV a little more. 30 minutes later, I found out that there is an open mic tonight and I thought I was the luckiest person in the world. You see, I’ve been into this bar before ages ago when I first got an instant date, I brought her here as well, same day same time, but no music. Totally change the whole evening making it so much better.
People started to crowd in as well and musicians playing that night sat next to us, and it was only natural to be social and start talking to them and of course because I felt that I needed to pull away from talking to her and building rapport so much, 2 steps forward 1 step back. One of the girls I talk to was really cute, she and her sister and her friends are playing later tonight and I introduce them to my girl and all of a sudden we were like the coolest group in the bar
Just going to list out the stuff that I did, basically played the Question Game; Marry, Fuck or Kill; Strawberry Farm and we played a bit of Thumb Wrestling and she was into it as well. All the games we played is money
Now towards the middle of the evening (about 9ish) I suggested we played another game and she was so eager to play and she said “I love your games, it’s so fun!”
I did all the kino test eg. Putting her hand on my lap and it just stayed there, she did pulled it away to drink and after that straight back to my lap. As we were playing games and maybe along the line of “Let me see your hands”, I found myself seating very close to her, she was in my arms, I was caressing her hands and she did the same, the music was playing and it definitely set the mood.
Because we were so close, it felt natural just to turn my head to her hair and said “You smell so good, I’m trying so hard no to kiss you”. No flinching, no jerking, no response from her and I was pretty sure I was very clear coz I was whispering in her ears. I looked away and enjoy the music. I look back at her again and our eyes met and then I saw that classic sign, she was licking her own lips!!! Bear in mind I’ve never kiss a girl before so I was pretty nervous but at that very moment, I just felt calm and I went in for the kiss, ok the first time I did it was just a peck on the lips, I was still a bit nervous after all but what I found out was when I went in for the kiss, she actually came forward so I was taken aback too. I look away again and then I went in for the second kiss, and we were making out! It was slow at first and then it heated up, our hands start to move. Just caressing her back, her neck, arms. Seriously I’m surprise I can even kiss at all. We were in our little bubble, I mean everyone was enjoying and listening to the music. We were there in our own world, enjoying the music in our own way.
It did lasted quite awhile, and I was pretty lucky that I didn’t come across all this resistance that we learned about through our PU journey. I didn’t push away or anything but I know I have to stop. I’ve read from the Lounge that kissing is one of the top in physical escalation and cannot just overplayed it so I cycle through the escalation. Went back into playful touching, tickling her, thumb wrestling her again, and slowly working my way back to the kiss.
Suggested that we go somewhere else, it just came across my mind that there is clubs and bars at Chinatown that opens late so we went to the bar. Our journey from jazz bar to china town is full of spontaneous kissing on the streets. Eventually we got to the bar in one piece. Now nothing much happen here except we kiss again but this time it got into arousal I would say, we started touching somewhere else, really hot and heavy and I thought “Shit…..!” it’s been said countless of times even in Magic Bullets that no use going too far if we can’t set the logistics right for the lay. Logistics in this case is definitely fuck, she lives with a host family (a single woman) and I live like 20 miles away.
I thought to myself this is it, it was late, she has work and I should drive her back, partly because I wanted to see her again and if pushed to far, I might get into trouble I mean obviously I was calibrated enough to tell. So I told her that I will drive her home and then she said “No, thank you”. The first thing I thought was “FUCK, where did I screw up?” I mean she was saying “No” like she didn’t want to get into your car. I thought she was into me???? I remembered my conversation with Zenith and another friend of mine, telling me to enjoy the company of the girl and I did, I fucking did. So at that point, I’m not pushing anymore, told her that I will walk her to the taxi and say goodbye. Thinking I’ve done my best.
Funny thing happen after that, we talked and found out she didn’t want me to drive because we had a few drinks and she ask me to go back to hers, I was like… “Okay”
The best part of all was were sleeping together and then I just look over my shoulders and seeing a blonde sleeping next to me on my chest, feeling her every breath and her warm, I was just a happy man after that night.
To be honest, this is the funny part, I couldn’t sleep at all, a different bed, having someone else naked sleeping with me was definitely something new. I was trying so hard not to wake her up and I thought to myself I better not cramp now, she was sleeping on my arm the whole night and her legs was on mine.
The next morning we talked and she said that was the best night she’s had for a long time and happy to have met me and also she said I was a good kisser, have no idea where that came from. She’s leaving this Saturday for Denmark and I’m seeing her again tonight for the last time before she goes back for good. This has been an incredible experience in terms of my personal growth and PU. So much work and effort has gone into this. This has been the only cold approach pull that ended up in bed and I hope its not the last. All I can say from this is, it’s worth it. Every laughter, every tears and sweat put into this is worth it.
As much as I hate saying this, luck has definitely played a big role that evening, especially the open mic session but having said that, without proper structure and skillset that I have, I might not even get the girl when clearly all the signs are there and that would deserve a kick in the nuts.
CHAT
