So here's the story:

Went with this girl to her dorm, we started making out and shit... and it got to that part. I take down my pants, her panties and go fetch me a condom, put it and search in the dark for her place.

Mind you, I'm still a virgin.

Some time ago, I had this conversation with a guy here in the forum, and he advised me "If this is your first time, make sure you masturbate before you go with her". Sounded good, did it before meeting her. Thing is, this time, there was no such thing as an , errrr, erection. Meaning, even if I did find the spot, I couldn't put it in.

She asks me "Are you a virgin?", I say "No, I just haven't done this in a while", she was like ok and we cuddled. That's it.

Now, any of you guys got any advice for a 19 year old virgin who wants to get this shit out of the way? Like a, hum, written and ilustrated guide? lol

Cheers

how soon did you masterbate before you tried?

Hum about 4 to 5 hours...

btw this is not a lay report. You need to fclose for a lay report

but i generally dont recommend masterbating b4 sex unless you can last a long fucking time.

Also many guys have anxiety on the first time and cant get up. you can counteract this by not jerking off at all until you fclose and/or having lots of foreplay before sex... GET SOME HEAD

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I think the masterbating before was probably good advise, but at 19 your going to be all recharged and ready to premature ejaculate after 4 or 5 hours. I think that's got to be closer to the act to help, but of course that wasn't the problem, this time.
My suggestion for this would be not to take your junk out until it is hard. And like J slay said, more forplay. Don't be in a hurry,
Or make someone your girlfriend first so you can be honest about it being your first time, she will probably get off on being your first and show you what she likes. I'm not saying I could tell a girl it was my first time, but if you could be open with her she could teach you a lot.

Oh mate, you 100% shouldn't be knocking one out before having sex. Totally counterproductive. If you were in a marathon in the afternoon, you wouldn't go practice a 100m sprint a couple hours before would you?
I'd text her, meet her again, go for some drinks (not too many or you'll get "brewers droop") and then relax! Then just let her lead the way, say you find it kinky when a girl leads.

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Wow nice brother, are you the one that i talked in PUA chat?


You could have told her that you needed her assistance in inserting your penis to her vagina, man. (Make sure it's hard lol ) if it's going down low, make sure you wank to make it erect.. But for some experienced men even if it's dark and has not done it in a while, Knows where to find the hole. but yeah, she's not gonna know if your new or what.



Goodluck and keep gaming!



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Don't masturbate until you have sex next. This should give you motivation

If you need to wank before sex do it in the morning that will help with any premature ejac problems. You got to the point of sex so you dont need a full guide of how to have sex just meet up with her again and make sure you have some foreplay before sex. Now call her up and get fucking laid!

What kind of condom was that? I find some/most very uncomfortable that can do bad with my hardness. Altough it has never been to such extent that it wasn't hard enough to get it in...this can also be a problem. Still the major thing I see her is that you probably got a little too stressed up about this. Relax. I know it's hard to accept something like this but "It's just sex". Nothing too crazy or hard. It's a natural thing so don't stress yourself about it. It's all in your genes and balls man, not in your head. So when you're about to have sex use the part of your body that was invented for this instead of your head.

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why masterbute ?
first time I had was, I was so drunk and couldn't come (girl said she come 6 times haha whatever right?) , LOL so was technically I was still virgin after I got LUCKY


ahh good old time. Dont worry , few years later it will be great story to be told friends

You don't need to be ashamed about being a virgin. I had lots of chances before I was 19 (my first time) but it was never right. I didn't want love, just the feeling to be right and be comfortable. I see people on this forum who say "still a virgin at 17/18/19"...let me tell you, I've dated women who are freaks but are virgins and they're 27/28. No biggie, don't let it bother you.

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Hey bro, I had the same problem - trouble getting up. Most of the people who wrote back said they had similiar problems their first time

No worries bro:)

-JC

I'm an older guy and let me tell you, if you have never had sex before it's going to be awkward and confusing because it's your first time. Throwing a condom in the mix will just make things 10 times more difficult. I don't think I could have had sex with a condom the first time because doing it without a condom was hard enough. She was a virgin too so it would have pretty much been impossible.

I know people are all high and mighty on condoms, but let's be totally honest here: condoms and sex don't mix. You think in 100 years condoms will be around? NO. Because if we're being totally honest condoms suck. In 100 years we will be using microbicides or some other advanced form of protection that I can't even conceive of right now. People want to feel pleasure, not a stupid piece of manufactured rubber between them.

Okay, now that I've gotten off my rant, let me continue. If you are worried about diseases, pregnancy and such then I would recommend doing it with a girl you really trust. That way you don't have to worry about diseases, and you can enjoy the experience to its fullest. It will be tempting to come inside of her cause it feels so damn good. Just be careful about that.

If it's your first time you won't last too long, but just give yourself a 15-30 min rest and then just continue, you will last longer!

Oh, and try to have longer foreplay and use condoms, you don't wanna be daddy!