If you want to see who i am, check out my intro in the intro section. I tried to post a link, but i am not allowed and it erased this entire lay report so, retyping.

The night started with me hanging out with my best friend X, she is a very cute and wildly popular girl that i am securely locked into friend zone with. Aside from the occasional little things, thats where i want to be as she is an amazing network to the hottest girls in town, as well she is great social proof, and not a terrible wing.

We started with a few happy hour drinks then an hour or so at the hookah bar. Just shooting the shit as always and loosening up for the night ahead. Our plan is to fill our car with 4 other girls and head to the next city over for a good drink special/club scene.

Well leaving my house i am told to bring my big ass van as there are too many people to fit in the car. I think this is good news, more girls. Alas, no. Upon arriving i see +2 dudes and 5 girls, 3/5 isnt bad though, still good proof if i lead them and own it. This is a little tough because X is much like an alpha guy, likes to lead the group etc, but it works out.

Anyway, my intent is to go out and have fun. drink a bit as i had a driver for the return trip, dance a bit, and just have fun laying mac down on some strangers.

So at the club, X and i leave pretty much the entire group behind when we park, as they were kind of annoying. So we create an us-vs world situation by just taking off, hearing calls for us from the others, we both made sure to not indicate that we even knew they were there, until we got to the club doors.

Inside the club it was the typical meet up with all the friends, introduce to all Xs friends etc. I broke off to go talk to one of the girls that came up with us who was under 21 and forced to be on a different level, on her own. I really just felt bad because she was obviously bored as shit. So i was talking to her, as i have known her a little through her older sister that i had designs on, but never capitalized on and just went a different way. Well a few min in we were talking about some illicit substances when her sister came by. I suppose i should mention that these two were raised by very religious parents, ie a preacher's daughter deal. Well the sis came by and wanted the attention, so she took my arm and we went upstairs to drink some more.

After hanging with that group and hitting on Xs friends casually, especially one that was a hard 10 and knows it, those cat and mouse games are fun, its especially fun to see the moment they click over from just counting you as one of the thousand randoms to someone whose opinion matters.

Anyway, i hear from older sis (call her Y) that younger sis (Z) is on the top floor where there is kareokee. Y makes no moves to join her, so i slip away.


When i arrive at the top, i come up behind the seating and find she is there with a smooth looking dude laced fingers with her and all. So i think that this might be a boyfriend on the dl, from his body language, but was not sure nor was i entirely phased for whatever reason. So i walked in front of them and sat down across from her at their table, barely acknowledging the guy. I motioned for her to lean in, and met her a little of the way, though not projecting that i am trying to lean in, if that makes sense. We continued the talk we were interrupted in before and she was very responsive. It was essentially small talk as i had no idea of who the guy was and was still figuring how to play it.

At this point he leans in and speaks in her ear, by her response he asked if i was some random creep, she exclaimed quite the opposite, a little more than i expected to be sure. This gave me the idea that he was not entirely familiar too. We had a brief introduction and, while he was looking away, i made questioning eyes and motioned towards the guy. She mouthed help me or save me, something like that, but her eyes told the story...get me the fuck away from this guy.

So i made a phony excuse to go find our friends together, and took the opportunity to mover her around the venue, as i hear that is a good thing. Well we did this for a while, she sang some kareokee, very seductive i might add, and coming back from a song, i had planned on saying
"that was... very hot. Come here so i am not thinking about this all night" and making her come in for a kiss. I did some baby step things to try to not psych myself out, but i didnt adapt to how thing went and i missed the line/kiss.

Here we go outside, and bam sister Y is here. She has some guy that came with us all drunk and hanging on her, as drunkards do, and you could see the sis Z was a bit awkward by this.

So i casually said, "ok, lets make them feel awkward now". with a half grin on my face. And leaned slightly in.

ALMOST BLEW IT

I laughed and said something like JK, as i do too often, just as she was leaning in. She looked down and actually said, i was game for that. Trying to recover, i said something like, i was too. and leaned in for real. Got the kiss behind sister y. This should have been a stopping point. I should have been blown out when i said JK, but i had too much attraction built up i suppose and it worked out.

Where did the attraction come from? well i think it was mostly the flirting i was doing while escorting her around. I am very flirty with my hands and i am very comfortable touching strangers and with a level of comfort and casual attitude that they generally always like it.

Well moving on, she said she didnt want her sis to see us kiss or know, so i respected that for the time. I noticed she was watching her sis like a hawk and every chance she saw she would look at me and lean in for another. The sis finally left and after a little more kissing, she tried to step things back a little (but not really) by trying to make small talk, and actually calling it small talk haha. well that lasted only a few minutes, with me subtly triggering her with gentle strokes here and there, before it came that the van we came in has a bed in the back, and thats all we can think about.

I didn't want to miss any time, so i took her hand, stood her up, and said let's go.

we didnt even hold hands or have much contact while leaving, partially due to unknown location of sis Y. Well i kept the buying temp up as best i could without being a display, and we made it to the van. Bed down window shades half up half down, and the public setting made it pretty intense.

After all was done, and after a few moments of "oh shit, look how many missed calls we have", and yes there were a ton, she told me the public thing really did it for her, and that she would be up for slammin in a janitorial closet or the like, i ofc agreed and even said a theater, albeit high risk, would be huge.



So this isn't to brag, this is hopefully to help. Not that i did anything amazing, but that sometimes things can just work if you put the effort in and stay strong. 90% of everything is just the bullshit, being able to bullshit even yourself to believe that you are this smooth. If you dont have it, fake it till you make it. Just smile and talk.

Here are some of the things i did right, i believe.

Body language, i was very conscious of being tall and walking confidently, as well not leaning in or opening too much too early.
Dialog, mostly good, but no real solid dhv, just casual charm and happy attitude. I did work in where i am from, a high glam town, and that i had done a lot of traveling in my time. I worked earlier that my dad had new cars, which is why i ended up with his old van, so depicting family success i suppose.
I didn't spend too much time with my target girl, nor did i give her full attention while with her, not in a rude way, but just in a way that let her know there are more things than her catching my attention.
i saved her from the creep, but really that was just chance, you should be observant to see who needs saving, as girls get in this situation pretty often.
I escalated physically and verbally more aggressively.
I planted the idea of us being together when stealing her from the guy, by giving her a scenario if it happened again we would say we were lovers, which planted the seed in her head that we could be.

Things i know i did wrong:
I almost blew the kiss part
I didn't recognize the guy as a person of non interest fast enough
I tried to talk myself out of progressing
i chickened out my planned kiss
i was a little too light on the transition from kissing to walking out, could have hit a wall there
I was a ittle too time locked with the sis Z but she was alone and it's really isn't nice to leave even friends alone like that, either way it was a risk to spend that much time i think.



Now for the questions

I would like to keep this girl as a casual sex partner, and i feel that she is on the same page. She texted this morning, and it escalated nicely. So i feel she is still there.

What pitfalls or common problems are there too look for in transitioning to a fuck buddy?

Should i become low availability?

Are there some good resources that i can read on this part?

Most of my lays are drunken one night and lost, or girlfriends, i am trying to make this new by continuing it without the relationship. Any advice is helpful.

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