| Ok so this is kinda half a lay report, half a call for help to help understand what happened.
I met this girl a couple of weeks ago, started talking then a few days later we went out, and then a few days after that I had her round and we were making a cake (literally... was well tasty). We make the cake, start watching a movie (shit movie, so we make out instead of watching it), and yeah, one thing steadily leads to another and we go to bed. Things go the way they do, she wasn't expecting this and so hadn't shaved, which isn't a big deal but anyway.
It came to a point where I reached for a condom - I had just bought the box that day, and so had to (very uncool) unwrap it, and she started to look a bit concerned. She told me she was a little overwhelmed, and that she hadn't had sex with anyone since her ex boyfriend (recent break up, I guess). So I said ok ok, whatever and we had some like pillow talk - talking shit etc, and we started kissing again, and carried on, and I reached for the condom again, looked over, and asked her - or at least indicated as much - and she wasn't sure still etc.
We didn't have sex, but we spent the night together and had a really good time. Since then, she kinda avoided me, and then when we did meet she gave me some bullshit about how she's not emotionally capable of the pressures of being a girlfriend or anything at the moment, (its the last couple of weeks of university so there is a lot of pressure at the moment).
What do you think went wrong? Did i move it on too fast? What do you think I should do? She obviously likes me, maybe I should just take her out, and see what happens, maybe after university stuff is done?
In any case - I think some anti-slut defences came up along with some emotional issues, so it can be dangerous moving too quick I guess is my lesson I learnt.
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