I have been in an LTR with a girl for about 2 months. Bare in mind she is a virgin, and she is only 16 (dont worry, im 17). Anyway, when i finger her after a while she says that it is "starting to hurt" and so i stop. She seems to be enjoying it, but i dont think she has actually orgasmed. Any advice? (i know about the g spot, but even so)

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After awhile it starts hurting, meaning she has probably already gotten off, and now your just trying too much. You don't have to finger her past her enjoyment of it. Use lubrication.

Get her to give you a blowjob so you're even.

yes do that

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Make sure you're using both clit and inside of vagina. The vital thing for both parts is that they are wet and lubricated. I personally prefer not to use lube, just make sure both parts are sufficiently wet.

In order to do that, she has to be aroused. Chances are you aren't arousing her enough through foreplay, aggression, romance etc. There are times when she will just run out of wetness though (although this is like 90% due to her not being aroused enough), in this case just spit on her or your hands. Better still what I do is get her to lick your fingers, this will arouse you both can keep things good.

Also when fingering the clit and you run out of wetness go back in the vagina (if you are doing one at a time, which is not usually the best way) and get some more juice.

If you are doing her clit and it's not getting her seriously turned on (she should be shaking), then you're not doing it right. Try different motions, most girls for me prefer a circular motion. Be very gentle with the clit, but you can move the whole organ quite wide when doing the circular thing. That's how a lot of girls wank.

Hope this helps.

i had this happen with a girl. i started in a circular motion slowly and then i sped it up some then slow, her hips were raised and she was definitely enjoying it. then all of a sudden i sped it up really quickly, she was on the verge of erupting, but she literally grabbed my arm and pulled it away really quickly. she was like it feels good, but it hurts.

As a Lady - of sorts... I'll give you the honest simple answer on the
"it hurts" comment

Reasons for "it hurts" if you're outside of her
1. She's done. Even if she didnt cum she could be done with the actions - and knows if she says "it hurts" you'll kiss her and rub her back and make her feel safe and loved again - instead of keep trying to make her cum.

2. Sometimes, wet friction can actually be very irritating - imagine the feeling of wet jeans when you have to run, walk, or move for a while - it chaffes. It hurts - same thing.

3. You've over stimulated an area, and she didnt climax, and now it feels like pins and needles, numbness - icky, and hurts

If you're inside and she says it hurts -
KEEP IN MIND, fingering alows you MUCH more pressure than fucking, if you're fingering her you have all the strength and leverage of your arms that is much more powerful than the pressure you can apply thrusting with your hips. You also have alot more dexterity when fingering - you can over stimulate one area, some of the stuff inside there is not meant to be touched - you can make a girl pee if you touch some of the things in there too much!!

Also, the inside of the vagina is very thin and sensitive to tearing, if you're rubbing dry or too hard, you can tear the inside of her the same way a wet eraser rubs through a piece of paper. That not only makes your love session end with the quickness, but she wont be able to have sex with you for a few days after that either.

If you want to be a good lover and NOT hear the "it hurts" - you need to do what Rafiel is talking about

Moving from the clit, to the OUTSIDE of the opening of her vagina - to keep the wetness moving around, it also keeps you from staying in one area too long. Go inside her, with ONE FINGER - I like to use my middle finger, its not as strong and allows you to apply the right amount of pressure without OVER doing it. Then come out and slowly rub up her clit and then in circles, and then back down to the outside, rubbing in SLOW LIGHT CIRCLES the outside of the opening to her vagina. and on and on and on....

If you're still struggling -
Ask her to touch herself - most girls are into that, touch her while she's touching herself and pay attention to her motions.

BEST WAY to learn what she likes... without having to ask

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