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Sunday, July 17th, 2011
My first field report...
Last night was a night of learning, failure, mixed emotions and decisions. Here's the story:
I had agreed to go out with a girl I just met about one month ago for the second time. The first time we went out she backed down when I went to a kiss close. After a long and unusual goodbye (we stayed outside her home because she didn't want to go inside BEFORE I left, and I don't back down when it comes to being a gentleman, so we stayed outside for about 45 minutes until she gave up), we stayed in touch through FB for a few days. We went through a bad period where I stopped talking to her as she became more and more insisting about her "boyfriend", topic that got to my nerves and I told her that I had enough of it. She doesn't actually have a boyfriend, it's just a guy that sleeps with her while she thinks she's in love. I became upset as she insisted that she didn't want to kiss with me because of that, and I replied that she appeared to be stuck in a really crappy relationship with him, and that I was on my way to become her best male friend.
I cannot bear to be labeled such because I had been called like that before, and grew sicker and sicker of fixing girls just to have them being enjoyed by some douche bag, just for you to know why I was upset.
I stopped FB texting to her for a few days (this episode happened about a week ago) until she started to message me, and finally I replied, explaining to her why I didn't want to keep in touch, but she was so insistent that I agreed to go out again yesterday. She told me that she would go out with two friends (all girls) to my favorite bar and invited me.
The night started when we met past 8, she told me her friends would catch up with us about 9:30, and I told her that a friend would come by as well at 10. After that we bagan with small talk, and just once we actually spoke about why I decided to step back on her until we reached a point on which she would "asure" me that do anything she could to make things work between us. The night went on, my friend arrived earlier than expected, then her friends arrived, and we actually had a good time. One of her friends was a 24 YO accounting student which turned out to be a singer, guitar player, scout, salsa teacher, and many other things that I don't even remember, as well as flirty.
We all played pool from about midnight to close to 2 am, while flirty accountant went back and forth from the band stage to the pool table, and the target was playing with us at the same time that she (target) was chatting to her other friend (shy overweight girl) who was just too insecure to do anything by herself, even ordering a drink. My friend was talking to the owner and the band singer (we are friends of them) so I was busy talking to them and playing pool.
So far you might notice that I don't actually run that much of routines, chick crack or whatever technology we come across mostly because I haven't got actual canned material. I'm thinking about developing my own "kit", an assembly of several routines and techniques, so let me know your suggestions. The one thing I really use, and most times not even consciously is applying Mystery's 6 of the 5 characteristics of the alpha male, specially being the social center of the room or at least on my group, as well as smiling all the time, but this one comes easy so it doesn't really count as technique (I am a very positive person).
About 3 am I asked for the check because I was exhausted from the previous night which ended at 4:30, and when it was time to leave I walked to the girls as they were talking to the singer, and told them if they were going to leave with us so that we could drop them at their homes (for real), and the target told me that they would stay there, so my friend and I walked out of the bar empty handed.
While my friend and I were walking towards my car we were discussing the events of the night: how we had fun with the accountant and the target, and what could have changed the outcome of the night. The downside was that my friend told me he didn't really mind about what happened (he used to be a player but grew tired of it), while I told him that I was seeking for more adventure, as I didn´t really have a chance when I was younger due to my upbringing. After that and some more discussion of the events we came to the conclusion that this night the target actually burned down her bridges to me as she chose to stay at the bar. A footnote there: the singer is not good looking, on his mid thirties, and dresses like crap, he doesn't sing that well, he is actually quite frustrated about not moving on in life, he is a friend of mine, and a friend of the target as well.
On Sunday the target started sending me texts about last night, and I told her I was upset about how she left me and my friend pretty much dumped for the other guy, even as I told her we would drive them home, and she said that she had already told the singer much earlier that she would stay with him, and that was it.
Before we come to conclusions I must tell you what I noticed that night on IOIs:
• When she first met me I was wearing a tiny beard on my chin, and I had grown my beard since then, and she made me a compliment about it, and even reached from the other side of the stool to rub it.
• When her friends arrived she sat on my sde of the stool.
• While she texted me today she said that she wanted to change the goodnight kiss we had the previous time we went out to something different (when we went out she actually backed down when I leaned in to kiss close).
• When I asked her about what she didn't like about our first night out she told me that nothing was wrong, and she would have kissed me if it wasn't because she doesn't kiss on the first date.
Well, that's about it in the last night out, let me know what you think about it. I'll post my own conclusions tomorrow and we can compare your own with mine, and discuss them.
Merry sarging!!
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