I think I wrote the last post in the wrong place, so I moved it here. I never would have believed the game would change me so much. I know I read about it in the book "The Game", but I guess I assumed it would never happen to me. However, I've seen all the tell tell signs. The game is actually starting to consume me. This shit is addictive. The more you do it, the better it feels and the more you want to do it. It changes you too. I used to be a really nice guy. Hence why I didn't pick up women. Well after my x broke up with me I was determined to change. I am far from a master by any means, but I am starting to do quite well. I decided since my x played head games with me, i'd do it back. By using boyfriend destroyer I actually managed to break her up with 2 boyfriends. Then I started using the game on her. I basically negged the hell out of her and made her think I no longer wanted her. This drove her crazy. Then I showed more interest to her friends than her. The next part is when I realized how much I have changed. She got ahold of me on the phone. She sounded like she had been crying. Then she confessed how she still loved me and still wants to be with me. It made me feel like real shit. I actually enjoyed the karma that came back to her. That had been me a year ago. This is where I ask for the community's help. I wouldn't mind going back with her, but that destroys everything I have worked for. This shows I am still an AFC. And if I take her back she will realize this and most likely do it again. However, if I don't it crushes her and I basically have thrown out my sense of morals all together. I would have basically did all of this for sheer entertainment. Any suggestions?

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Its not the words you speak, but the conviction of your actions. And with this said know that I am the prize.

Please heed this advise; don't confuse the Game with real life and real emotion.

You are not just another AFC if you go back to your girl. The game should have taught you something most oversee. You ARE are great person, you DO have value to offer women, and you WON'T be stepped on or ignored anymore.

Those are life lessons that the Game has taught all of us (some just don't see it). If you go back with your girlfriend, you should now recognise all of her shit tests and you won't allow her to effect you the way she did before. Now the two of you can actually build on common ground and have mutual respect for each other.

The Game has taught me many great things, some bad too. But overall, I am glad that I've read the book, joined this forum, and learned the techniques because ultimitely it has helped men balance the universe, because these DAMN WOMEN have just become too freakin' full of themselves!!

~Stoli~

i agree. even if she did hurt you in the past, she really couldn't help it because that was how she felt. there's too many life questions to ask yourself when thinking about what you overall want to do in life.

i mean i dont even think mystery, ross jefferies, jugglar, and other gurus really know what they want anymore. i believe they ended up changing their personality so much that it's confusing, since they can get almost any women on earth.

the thing i would ask myself is how much does she really mean to you? you can build a relationship with anyone if you're good enough, that's what sarging and learning the game helps you with. AFCs are too needy and don't really know what's going on in other people's minds. so when it comes to women now we understand the unconcious behaviors and attiudes. we're more aware of what's really going on in a conversation and where the balance of power is shifting. you can tell when a person is losing interest, therefore all you need to do is neg a little and make them qualify. along with staying mysterious, having your own life and basically being alpha/confident.

you can make the realtionship work now if that's what you want, you may only feel affectionate towards her because you're comfortable with her since you guys have known each other a long time. what makes you REALLY attracted to her? her looks, her personality? is she going somewhere in life, are you going somewhere in life because of her? does she make you a better person?

there are millions and millions of women you'll be missing out on by having oneitis, you may also find yourself cheating on her when someone "better" comes along. but no one is truly better, perhaps only more suitable for you. you'll never know until you meet more and more girls.

if you had 10 beautiful girls lined up wanting to be your girlfriend, you'd consider every single one, the only reason people settle down is because they don't have any other options... or because they truly found someone they feel like they're "in love" with.

lol sorry for the rambling. hmmm, stoli is right now. you're probably no longer an afc, so you can make the relationship work now and you will be on mutual grounds? actually i would say you need to stay alpha though, so YOU need to take control and be the leader. the second you give her power she'll lose interest and perhaps hurt you again.

what i've found as a rAFC- upcoming PUA is that you can still get hurt when wing's take your target, disregarding your feelings (because you've put trust into them) or when a women you think is sprung on you leaves you first and acts as if SHE doesn't need YOU (because you put your trust into your game and yourself and you feel like you've failed).

hope that helps? either way good luck

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by Casual (Age 20, Upcoming PUA)

Why was this posted in two forums...?

Anyway, I responded to this in your other post.

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Jason D at The Game . Net

sorry about the double post. I thought it was more appropriate in this section. This helps a lot. I guess I just needed things straightened out. I'm not at all ready to settle down. I can't say I have full blown oneitis anymore, but I did have a minor relapse due to my own actions. I intentionally made her want to get with me again. I asked for it. Now that I've refocused I've decided the game is the path for me. And on that note is there anyone around ohio that would like to go out sarging?

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Its not the words you speak, but the conviction of your actions. And with this said know that I am the prize.