So I meet this woman at a friends birthday barhop. I start to do the cube on her but its too noisy. She seems to want to stay in touch so I get her number.
She invites me to a bbq the next day. I attend but I don't put any effort into furthering the relationship. I don't game her, pretty much just relax and talk to the other guests but no gaming of any kind. I am really not in the mood.
I leave and think what the heck? I text her right away "if you want to trade massages and make out sometime let me know".
No answer until the next day. "That sounds HOT".
She initiates a number of texts and even invites me to another event which I can't attend. I tell her let's just hang at your place. Doesn't seem ready for that. I figure she just needs to feel more respected. So I invite her to a party. At the party end she is like "you ready for that massage real soon?" I am like "anytime".
So next day she texts me like crazy. About the night before and this guy who overdosed at my house (she wasn't there when it happened), yada yada.
This girl wants it right? So I say I might be available later tonight. She responds with "maybe later this week". I am thinking you have no idea what the fuck you want do you girl?
So I tell her the truth about me. I text "by the way I am polyamorous". Because I don't take this shit seriously (dating) and am trying to have multiple girls going at once. And johhny soporno is right that women are under a lot of pressure to find the one. Being poly takes off some of that pressure.
She texts lets be friends then
I text back yes friendship is part of it but I like to avoid the whole fucking or friends paradigm.
I can't wait to see what computation spits out of her brain from that one....
She responds : I think true friendship is missing in my life but then the quote goes a friend is a gift you give yourself. I would like to be polyamorous but not sure how to. I still want someone but the older I get i realize u don't get all needs met by one person. I think I believe in soul mates and still fantasize of marriage but fearful of commitment.
I'm thinking:
Holy shit!!! did I really get her to say all that? ??? powerful shit....
I talk about how I get bored and don't grow when I am stuck with one person.
She responds with aren't all men wired that way?
I say LOL lets talk in person or on the phone about this more sometime....
CHAT