I've known of pickup and have read the game as well as other books in the field on and off for the last four years. Although I feel that I'm decent with girls, I know I can become much better. The whole point of this journal is for a total and complete man transformation. For me, this includes working out at the gym, improving my fashion, improving my work ethic, increasing my income, improving my conversational skills, having incredible inner game, and being able to start conversations effortlessly.

Note that I am in a relationship of over two years that is going very well. There are some things I need to figure out, and I hope all you guys can help me with each facet of my transformation. I'm not horrible at all these things, rather I'm just coasting if you know what I mean, and I want to be my best possible self. I'll keep you guys updated as much as I can, as I've got finals coming up for college. Cheers.

Great stuff, for seeing success with all you plan to improve on, set realistic, concrete goals, WITH DEADLINES.

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Money

So here's some general information about where i'm at. I'm a college student in the US and I'm paying for my education with student loans. Not fun. So, I feel that increasing my income would allow me more freedom to do things and actually buy nice clothes and that sort of thing. To achieve this, I've set up a blog trying to turn a dollar into a million, which sounds ridiculous I know, but I'm already at $75, so it's nice to see some progress. Thanks axtion for the book recommendation. A lot of people have recommended that book so I'm definitely going to read it once on summer vacation.

Girls

Money's important, but to me having fun is much more important. Part of having fun is being able to talk to any girls and create attraction. I'm in a 2 year healthy relationship, but because of distance and me studying abroad next year, this may unfortunately end in the near future. In the meantime, I want to be able to have fun and start hanging out with hot girls more often. I don't believe in cheating so the goal isn't to escalate, more of be the guy friend that the girl can't get. So that's that.

Appearance

After reading through the forum the last couple days heavily I have come to realize that I'm not utilizing one of my greatest assets, my looks. I'm six feet tall with light brown hair that becomes dirty blonde if I surf a lot. The biggest thing is that I'm pretty skinny. Where I go to school there's good looking guys everywhere, so I don't stand out. When I'm back home, there aren't as many attractive guys, and I get a ton of looks, whereas here at school I don't get that instant IOI like I do back home. So, after reading through some of the threads, I've decided to hit the gym more and work on fashion to become a fit person with form fitting clothes. This will increase my appearance as well as boosting my confidence because I won't be as skinny. As far as clothes go, if anyone can recommend some fashion tips I would be very grateful. I've been living the surfer lifestyle, which means I literally spend no time getting myself ready in the morning. I'm decently smart, so it's not like I can't figure out what colors match for an outfit, but I just don't have the clothes to really accentuate my body type. The only two things I know about fashion is that form fitting = good and long sleeves > short sleeves. If anyone could lend a hand that would be great!

Inner Game

So I've come a long way since my relationship began. Before I was always worried and jealous about what my gf did, but now I'm confident and don't worry what she's doing because I know if she's doing something wrong then she's not the girl for me. Keeping this frame of mind has helped me tremendously. Recently, I've been really trying to show my confidence. I feel like I'm confident when I'm around people I know, but when faced in a new situation I tend to stay quiet and shy. I don't want to be loud and annoying, but I do want to maintain my confidence in new situations and speak my mind freely without caring. I'd say I have decent inner game, but there's room for a lot more improvement. Some steps I've taken recently is to never look down when walking. This forces me to keep my eyes up and look at people. Hitting the gym I think will help out my inner game more because I'll be even more comfortable with my body and feel good about myself. Also, even though I've come a long way in my relationship, I switch on and off between being too nice/pleasing and being confident aka being a man.

Improving My Game

So I love to have fun and I truly believe that inner game is the most important thing for game. If I'm in the correct state of mind, my game can be really good and I can close easy. The problem is having that supercharged inner game all the time when I'm meeting new girls. I feel like I need to work on using more Kino. Sometimes I will use it but other times it will be absent when I'm talking to a girl. Another thing that needs improvement is being too pleasing. Sometimes I find myself agreeing with girls, which is fine, but I agree too much! I need to start disagreeing and taking the opposite side just to create interesting situations. I'm the kind of guy that wants everybody happy, which is a strength yet also a weakness. I love natural game, so I'm up for certain routines that I really love but I tend to post the best results when I'm running off natural game. For me, when I open situationally it's really natural and easy, so that's what I want to focus on as far as opening goes. When I'm meeting a new girl without any friends around I tend to worry about what to say and don't lead the conversation enough, so that needs improvement as well. Overall, I have a good game when I'm in the zone, but I feel like I rely on my looks to get me into that zone (Girls come talking to me, which doesn't happen here as much as back home).

Wasted Time

When I have too much free time I've found that I waste the day away by sitting on my computer playing games, reading ebooks, occasionally watching porn, but mostly playing games. I've found that I just waste time away when I don't have anything to do, which is really frustrating to me. I've found out that writing a to do list for the day with scheduled times for everything helps me stay productive and achieve a lot more things in a day.

May 2nd, 2011

So this is my first report on my man transformation. My goal is to be my best self by improving all areas of life. I wrote a to do list for today from last night, and I've discovered that this works really well for me. In the morning I did some hw and wrote an online article to increase my earnings for my one million dollar challenge. I then went to the gym and worked out and played basketball. At the gym I saw one of my classmates and she waved and smiled at me but she was on her phone so I didn't bother opening. I've been reading through some gym openers and basically I've concluded that so far the best way to open is to ask a girl how to do the exercise they're doing. I was at the gym for purely workout purposes so I didn't bother opening anyone, but I always chose a workout machine next to a HB, so it's easier to open if I want to or she has the option to open as well. If you guys have any great gym openers let me know!

I serve on a small student government board for school and I sat next to the only HB7 and talked with her for a while. Found out she was transferring to Boston and that she basically has the next 10 years of her life planned out. Boring! After the conversation I realized that although I was looking in her eyes and listening well, I kept on agreeing with what she was saying, which is a huge no no. I need to correct this bad habit asap.

I had a meeting for work then worked afterward. The only highlights were making everyone at work laugh with one of my comments as well as one of the girls I was refereeing kept on trying to talk to me. She wasn't that great, only a HB 6, and I wasn't feeling very good, so I kinda just ignored her ha.

Even though it may be uneventful as far as field reports go, I was able to do a lot of things today that I feel moved me one step in the right direction. I'm super excited about making progress and I hope I'll have support from everyone.

Tomorrow's Plans

-Wake up early and hit the gym again.
-Going to see Fast Five with one of my guy friends at 11. Looks pretty ridiculous so it should be a good laugh.
-Class from 4-830 :/ there's a fun blonde HB 7 in my spanish class so I want to try and have fun with her tomorrow and build some more attraction and rapport

Goals:
Open one new girl tomorrow
Work on my shot for bball and strengthen my abs and arms
Study for class

May 3, 2011

So today was pretty uneventful, besides watching the incredibly ridiculous but fun movie Fast Five. I hit the gym this morning and was pretty sore from yesterday but I completed my whole workout, which is a plus. As far as increasing my income, I finally received my adsense publisher id, which took forever. I also received a comment and the most amount of views on my blog about turning one dollar into a million. My goal today was to meet a new woman, but I failed to achieve this. Today was very busy and I tend to open when I actually have a reason to, which didn't occur today. Nonetheless, I shouldn't use excuses and tomorrow my goal is again to meet a new woman. In my class tonight I did some push pull/cocky funny with blond HB 7. It was a good class and I got the comment "you're such an ass" while there was a big smile on her face

Tomorrow's Plans:

Unfortunately it's another busy day. Surfing in the morning instead of the gym and study for a test at 4. However, my goal is to meet someone new. Looking forward towards Thursday it's Cinco de Mayo, or Cinco de drinko. I'm a fan of drinking alcohol even though I know it's not good for calibrating game. I always try to drink less than everyone I'm with and am always understanding and thinking about social cues even when I'm drunk. So at least that's a plus. I need to meet a new girl tomorrow and then Thursday I should have a better field report. Cheers.

So the last couple days I've been doing a lot for classes but have had time to go out and have fun. I talked to a lot of girls but was also pretty drunk.

Girl 1
Me: Hey blue dress
Her: (Looks over at me)
Me: What's your name again? (I've met her twice before but I didn't remember her name)
Her: HB, yeah I'm never here as much as my friends, and whats your name?
Me: Hey I'm TMT. So are you roommates with your friends?
Her: Yeah blah blah blah

We talked a little bit about last time she was at my mate's place then I said to my buddy hey lets make some margaritas!

Pros:
I left her first
I was confident
I made her laugh a little bit

Cons:
I didn't talk to her very long
She left after I talked to her so I couldn't talk again

Girl 2

I met this HB a couple weekends back and she was at my mate's house and wasn't drinking. I was already drunk and we played some pong together. She was receptive to my touch but she seems like the girl who would be like that with anyone. Sometimes when her and her friend was taking I would pay attention to her friend. Any ideas on how to game a girl like this?

Girl 3

One of my roommates is having his friend from his hometown visit. When I was introduced I said hello but acted disinterested and didn't pay much attention to them. Since then, I've been doing my own thing but then when there's the opportunity I'll talk to her and make her laugh. Shes been giving me lots of iois so thats good.

That's a little status update on the social life. I'll try and get more conversations detailed out for you guys in the future.

Add learn to ballroom/swing/salsa/wedding/solo dance to the list! Find the ballroom dancing club at your college, it might offer free weekly lessons, or take a dance class at the college gym or a nearby dance studio (just stay away from private lessons, they are a waste of money)
keep a list of things that you HAVE DONE. a list of things to do will demoralise you, but a list of things you have done like showered and checked email and stuff. looking over things that you have already done will energize you.

i noticed you drink a lot, which imho, you've got to conquer your fears while sober, because if you do buzzed up, it does not count

Hey thanks for the advice, I recently looked into it and yeah they have weekly dance lessons at my college so that's definitely something I need to do next semester.
Another good idea. I personally work well if I have a plan, but a list of things I have done I feel will definitely help me seeing all the things I have done. A note on the drinking, for me drinking depends on where I am and who I'm with, if I'm at a large venue or party I usually don't drink, whereas if I'm with most of my friends I'll usually drink. I'm not afraid of talking and meeting new people, rather I genuinely enjoy drinking with my mates once a week. Granted, I would definitely be more aware and progress faster if I didn't drink, but with that being said, this transformation is suppose to beneficial and fun, so I want to keep it fun rather than it being a job.

Ignoring = Gold

So over this past weekend I've been going from one thing to the next whether it was taking a final, surfing, or going out at night. Recently, I've discovered that ignoring a girl is golden. I've read the Mystery Method and how you should ignore a girl when you first meet and I tried to do it before but was going about it the wrong way.

In the past I would try to be really energetic and fun and initiate the conversation with an HB and really pay attention to her and try to talk to her a lot. I would still try and tease her and such, but it just really didn't work too well. This weekend I shook things up and decided to try to implement ignoring.

When I was out this weekend I was with my mates, which makes meeting new HBs a lot easier imo. Basically, I would focus on having a good time with my mates, while being aware who and where the HBs were. Usually one of my mates knew the HB so he or she would introduce us to her, and when so I would talk to whoever I'm talking to before and not really pay attention and just say "oh hi" and go back to talking. After a little bit of talking and making the whole group laugh I would eventually find the HB either trying to talk to me or getting close proximity (IOIs).

I would talk to the HB for a while, but then I would ignore her for a little bit and once again she would get closer to me or try to enter my conversation. I've deemed that less is more when I'm meeting someone for the first time. Patience and just having a good time will ultimately lead her being interested in me.

I want to try incorporating more push and pull along with ignoring, that way I can reward a girl for good behavior and ignore her or leave her for bad behavior. More to come on this technique once I get it refined.