Ok, first of all I feel like an idiot for not searching hard enough to find this website and the books it talks about
years ago.
So, I wanted to get enough information before I did my first opener as a PUA. I plan on moving slowly so I can unlearn my bad habits. But I’m not really patient, so…
I walk into a specialty store to buy a card for a friend (whose husband is dieing from cancer) and a HB7 walks by and asks if I can find anything.
Me (Alpha Male Tone): No, I’m just looking.
HB7: Ok, just let me know if you need anything.
Me (Alpha Male Tone): Ok, thanks.
After looking at some things I walk over to the HB7 and her coworker who are standing by the cash registers chatting and ask where the cards are at. She points them out and continues to talk with her coworker. While I’m looking at the cards I overhear the HB7 say that she and her boyfriend go tanning, and that’s why she is so tan. After chatting for a few minutes the HB7 and the coworker separate and start wandering the store doing who knows what. After I get my card I go up the cash registers and in an Alpha Male Tone tell the HB7 who is standing 10 feet away with her back turned to me.
Me (Alpha Male Tone): I’m ready now.
HB7: Ok
She turn and walks toward the registers
Me (Alpha Male Tone): Which one do you want me on?
HB7 (Pointing to a register): This one.
She rings me up and as I’m swiping my card my patience runs out, my mind goes to the drug dealer opener and…
Me (In a quavering non Alpha Male Tone looking at the card key pad): Do you mind if I ask you a personal question?
My Brain: A personal question? You fucking idiot. It’s “Can I ask your opinion on something?” And project your voice.
HB7 (with a smile): Sure.
Me (Non Alpha Male Tone looking at the card key pad and now improvising): My friend, his girlfriend says I look like a Columbia drug lord in this outfit. What do you think?
HB7 (laughing and then smiling but doest look directly at my eyes) : No. Not at all. I thought you looked hot when you walked in.
Me (A little laugh then): Thanks. Appreciate that.
And then I walked out.
Sorry this is so detailed but I hate the blah blah blah post where you are left trying to figure out wtf they were talking about.
I guess the major reason that I’m writing this is that THIS STUFF DOES WORK. The line was easy. Sure there are some things I could improve on like I didn’t make eye contact with her when I asked. Which I think is why she didn’t make eye contact when she answered. And an “outfit” is something a San Francisco male hairdresser wears. But overall I thought it went well.
And yes I know I could have gone into another routine and then try and close, but I’m trying to unlearn bad habits so I’m just going to work on opening for a while.
I’m going to the mall this Sunday to try another opener on mutiple sets. Wish me luck!
Oh, and for all the new guys like me, get a small notebook to write you interactions down. You’d be surprised how quickly you forget the details. Of course my head is filled with malted barely and hops, so you might not have that much of a problem!
CHAT