Hi guys, I am Sofrito and I want to become a mPUA. Let me give you a little background on myself.

I wouldn't call myself a highly attractive person in terms of looks. I am 5 ft 2/5 ft 3, white, and only about 130 lbs. I will post pics later so you guys can get an idea of what I look like but yea.

I never really made socializing with women a priority prior to now and the reason for this is that I was really into my sport and wanted to perfect that as much as possible(I still am and do). However this has caused me to suffer socially. Now that I am a freshmen in college, I really think it is time that I master this.

I got into the game recently back in september, but I had known about it since the premier of vh1's The Pick Up Artist. Until a year ago I really didn't have any reason to get into the game. A year ago I fell for this girl and she was literally perfect for me- same way of thinking commonality of priorities in life etc... and I really loved her (yes its oneitis I know). However I wasted so much time trying to figure out if she wanted me what I could do to get her etc... and ultimately I failed and got friend zoned (I heard she was into tall black guys but she showed me some IOI's so yea idk which caused me an endless amount of stress and self doubt from not knowing). Since then I have broken off all contact with her. I was inexperienced and this cost me her (If learning game could help me get her I'm willing to do that but I also know the trap of oneitus so I know that if it isnt possible theres no sense dwelling on her.)

There are two reasons I got into game. The first is that so something like that never happens again. I want to be able to attract the women I want every time and make her want me. I dont want to have to question myself or second guess myself about whether or not I can have her/do have her. The second reason is I want to change my lifestyle. I am someone that everyone looks down upon and I don't like this. I want to be the fun sociable guy that everyone like and is invited to all the parties. The guy that every girl likes and wants to sleep with. The guy that is never friend zoned.

So this is where you come in PUA community. I need you to keep me motivated. This is something that I need to do in order to have a better life. My life isnt going to change and get better unless I change first. Its a long and hard road ahead but I know I can do it with your support and help. So please give me advice and words of encouragement along the way. Give me all the help you can.

Just one quick note: I have studied MM, Gunwitch, 60 years of challenge, and Love System and of course Style. However I am leaning toward MM and its spinoffs because the weakest part of my game is the social aspect and these methods are heavy on that, but I also like the sexual tension theory of gunwitch and 60. I just feel like it will be harder to apply those since it forces you to get girls to dominate the convo and I feel like that be hard to do. Ideally Id like for my method to combine the two. The rapid kino escalation of gunwitch/60 with the social aspect of MM. If anyone uses a similar method or could help me better learn either one that would extremely helpful.

So how am I gonna start doing this. I figured the best way to start would be with the stylelife 30 day challenge. I will complete all 30 days of the challenge regardless if I win and update this thread every day and hope for feedback from you guys. After the challenge hopefully you guys will have some advice for what to do next.

So here goes the start of a journey to a better life.

Salut!

Welcome to the community Sofrito!

First things first, pickup is EASY. I know this sounds strange but really, it is easy. You will see it when you have some successes with girls. Next, be careful with these books. None of them will give you the perfect answer and such an amount can easily cause brain overload. Don't misunderstand me, everyone here have read them but the proportion is like 1 book / 15 days of sarging. When you have some practice you will find which method is the one for you.

I would strongly recommend you to start with MM and gain experience.

Wish you luck!

Salut!

Surielx.

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Hey, good look on your jorney. I am relatively new to this too, and i am quite curious about your journey.
Come on, i want to see the 1st day of the challenge, if you don't start it soon you will lose motivation, i was going to start something similar to this but then i didn't even start writing it.
If you are a freshman at college read some of the posts about college here in the forum, they are quite helpfull, i am freshman too, just started college and i can tell you the stuff from these posts, they work great.
Good luck, really looking forward to see your 30 days of challenge i hope you really commit to it.

Hey Guys thanks for the comments. I have started the challenge and completed day 1 which will be posted as soon as I return home. I would have done day 2 today (kinda already did cause I did make eye contact but I want to talk to the extra 5 people so that I can gain experience.) Thank You for the tips and encouragement. Suriel you're rite about the brain overload and the ratio but it interests me a lot (the social psychology aspect among other things so I enjoy reading them) which is why I read a lot of them. I hope you continue posting in my thread. Conguy I challenge you to take the the Stylelife challenge with me. Im not gonna lie it will force you out of your comfort zone but nothing worth having is easy. Ive perused the forums for awhile before joining and yes those threads were extremely helpful.

Hey Sofrito I wanted to wish you good luck man. I'd like
to read your progress so keep at the challenges. I've
also just gotten the book and am going to do the challenges with you!

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Hey Wninja thats great I wish you luck as well

I am going to try and do day 2 today and if I can I will post both days tonite

I was a bit hesitant in accepting your challenge Sofrito, i thought i didn't needed to do it, because i am doing allright now, i have a f-buddy and i am meeting tons of women in my college. but in the subway today i saw an HB10 and i realised i didn't achieve what i really wanted from PU, that was pick up a random HB in the street, and that's why i am decided that i am going to do it.
I want to ask you 2 things:
1-are you going to do it in consecutive days?

2-Do you go out with the purpose of doing the challenge? (i find that hard to do, do you think of a place and just walk in that direction? xD this looks like a stupid question but it really is something that i never do, go out without having someone or somewhere to go to)

Thanks for the motivation

Conguy like I explained in the op I met a girl who I truly loved (oneitis whenever you want to call it) and I failed to get her. Like Michael Jordan said " Its my failure that gave me strength and my pain that motivated me" or something to that effect

I will try to do it in consecutive days, but with college and my sport season starting up it may be hard however if I have a chance to I will take it. My post may be infrequent for a couple of weeks but when break starts I may do a challenge a day. It depends all on what the challenge is and if I can manage to do it that day. I hope that I will be able to do it for 30 consecutive days. However as is I don't think it will be possible for me to do it in 30 days consecutively.

As for HB10's I don't have much AA due to my mindset as an athlete. However with these girls I like to remember what Mystery said "Attracting an 10 isn't harder. Its just different."

As for your second point. Im the same way. For example, I went to the movies with a couple of friends two weeks ago. However their happen to be a pretty girl I didn't kno right next to me. Since it was a big movie and a saw a lot of ppl from my college there to see it. I simply opened with Do you go to so and so college. She said yea and we got to talkin. Didn't number close cause the set got interrupted by her friends showing up, but I ended up seeing her two weeks later when I went to dinner while I was with a friend and she said hi so I guess she remembered me lol.

If youre with friends you could still do it, it might even be easier cause of the social proof you have. However I did the challenge motivated by the fact that I want to up my game so that I can pull the girls I want. I hope if I ever see that girl again that I will have gained the skills I need to pull her but if I dont then I want the skills I need to pull the next girl I want.

The motivation I have is to improve myself.

Here's my report after completing day1 of the style life challenge

Write one or two sentences describing how I believe other people see me?

I believe women don't see me as a serious dating option and at most want me as a friend if anything at all. I don't believe they see me as a social guy and some people find me annoying. Most women don't see me as a serious dating option. Most men try treat me like a bitch because i'm so short they think theres nothing I can do about (women believe this too. Cant convey that I am capable of protecting them). I also rarely fight even though when I do I have proven that I can easily win a fight I kinda wana show this without having to do this tho. I also believe that i'm not very social.. I am only social with people after I get to kno them.

Write one or two sentences about how I would like to be perceived.

I would like to be perceived as a very social and fun guy who people want to hang out with. I want to be the guy every girl wants and every guys respects. I want to be percieved as a very interesting person well rounded fun social person.

List three behavior characteristics you would like to change

1. I would like to change my social shyness a little bit and be able to branch out more.

2. I also would like to improve my sense of humor a bit and learn to not take things so seriously or personally.

3. I also would like to develop my self-confidence to rock solid levels in everything I do. Every time I do somethin theres a little voice in my head saying but what if and even tho I can usually overcome, the self doubt can sabotage me on a subconscious level and I want to eliminate it so that I can be congruent and succeed in whatever I do.

4. List 3 new behavior characteristics you would like to adopt.

1. Rock Solid Self-confidence

2. Enthusiasm to do anything and everything I can. I want to have as many interesting and helpful experiences as I can so I can be interesting

3. Social calibration- I want to know how to respond to certain things and how seriously take them.

Field Test: Operation Small Talk
The Goal: Make Small talk with 5 strangers

1. Chatted with the cab driver on my way to do community service for a course requirement. We chatted about his job, what I am studying, his son and him studying graphic design, why I'm volunteering. The guy was a very cool person even drove me back for less than what it cost to go there.

2. Talked to one of the community service women who was there. We talked about how I came the other day and how I couldn't serve because it was closed and the guy who set it up for me didn't even inform me. Talked about what I was studying too and what course I was doing it for.

3. Talked to the other community service women. We talked about the program, Lebron returning to cleveland and how I couldnt serve the day before. Very chill lady she gave me all the hours I needed for the course so I didnt have to do them . Only had to do an 1hr 30 mins out of 6 .

4. Talked to the store clerk in the deli by my chool. We talked about cliff lee and the yankees, lebron returning to cleveland etc.... Very knowledgeable and nice guy.

5. Went to the gym and chatted with another guy about lebron and some stuff going on at the university.

Kinda wish I talked to more women but mission accomplished. I will try going to the mall for day 2 and talking to at least 3 women around my age.

note to self HB asian in my dorm responds well to negs

Hi guys thought id give you an update since its been awhile. It is finals week so I am trying to get through it as fast as possible. I am still motivated to doing the challenges and starting next week I will be resuming the challenges hoping to make them a daily thing. In addition to the challenges I will try to do a little sarging at night when I can to get more experiance (this kinda scares me cause I'm not the best of dancers and have 0 experiance in clubs). The day 2 update will probably happen next thursday. I am really interested in finding beautiful women and building a much larger social circle so I am committed to doing this. Just thought i'd update. I will be trying to employ MM as surielx suggested hopefully I can pull it off and land some girls. I am really hoping its as easy as Surielx says

Just wanted to let you know the goal that you listed dealing with "rock solid" confidence is one that goes hand and hand with me.

You and I can relate so I am looking forward to your future posts.

thanks seth I really need this rite now had a particularly bad day so yea. I'm gonna go to the mall either today or another day to do day 2 of the challenge. As for tonite I will try to post pics of myself up you guys can help me clean up my image a bit (I am usually a lot more well kept but today im resting after working out so I let myself go a tiny bit and ive letmy hair grow out due to wanting to get a new style maybe some coloring etc...)

http://s1120.photobucket.com/albums/l485/trackstar9120/

there are the pics I promised turn me into a rockstar rate me etc...

Hey guys thought Id give you and update on how I'm doing. Recently a really hot fb and I had to break it off cause she got a bf (she was really hot and I coulda had a relationship wit her but I didnt want her that way which I kinda regret now but thats life). I won't lie it hurt my ego and has caused me to become a bit depressed over the fact. I have also been intensely focused on my training as an athlete and have had very little time to do the challenge. I have gotten up to day 5 I kno I promised reports on the challenge but being busy and mildly depressed over the fact made me forget and for that I'm sorry.

However, now that I am on break from college I have had a lot of time to do a lot of thinking about my life and with the worst year of my life ending (FUCK YOU 2010), I figured it was time to get my act together come up wit some goals and a plan on how to get them. My next couple of posts (which will be broken up so that they are organized and easy for my fellow community members to read) will deal with where I'm at now, what I believe I want, why I want these things, and my plan for how to get them.