| Diwali Party at uni. There were quite a lot of HBs, the lighting was a bit too dim and the music not lough enough (the room's sound projection could have been better.)
Before the party began I sprayed the front part of my hair red and wore clip-on earrings. This was totally incongruent with how I am at university, but I thought hey this is a party, so what the heck!
I was thinking that HBs might comment on my hair or the earrings but none of them did. Only, my friends were shocked that I sprayed my hair red and wore earrings ( I was quick to dismiss them, and told them that they were clip-ons)
I never night game and this was the closest thing to it so it was a new experience.
My goals were not very many. Simply to have a good time and practice massively increase my social proof during the event.
In order to ensure massive social proof pooahs normally go and create it during the event, I chose the easier way out I called in a lot of friends from outside my uni. Low brow I know, but I wanted to start somewhere.
I arrived at the event early and assisted the organizers with some organizing. This is something that I think is essential for social-proofing, getting to know the PICs ( unfortunately, I didn't use my knowing them to my advantage, as I spent most of the time with the friends I already had in the venue and those that I called in from other unis).
I met some of my friends from uni there and talked shit with them for a bit. They're HBs but I couldn't keep a good conversation. I kinda sucked. I ejected early.
When the event was about to begin I went to collect my friends from the bus stop. It was a bit of a mess finding them, but I did. They had 3 hot chicks with them, all the better for me to increase my preselection. I talked to them a bit, ignored them and talked to the guys. Arrived at the venue, waited for them all to register, it took longer for the HBs to register but I hesitated entering the venue w/o them walking right behind me.
Immediately, I introduced my friends to other people, bringing value to themselves and others. I moved onto introducing the HBs from outside my uni to other HBs. In the group of HBs from my uni, one of them commented that I was doing a great job aligning people. My target,HBTarget, from my uni was in that group, but it seemed to me that she was a bit disgusted by the girls either that or she was jealous as I am certain she is attracted to me. Anyhow, I just merged sets and ejected (probably not the best idea as they might've dismantled or felt weird after I left). Should've stayed longer to introduce them to each other and get the momentum up!
Ejected from the venue was feeling the pressure of walking around too much and talking quite a bit. Exhausted and not even 1 hour had passed. Outside the venue I fluffed with another friend I invited, he was waiting for someone.
Then I jetted off to pick up some more friends, 2 HBs and 1 guy. 1 HB and the guy were in a relationship. While the other Hb tagged along but I wasn't that into her, she's going to help me get some preselection.
When I arrive at the venue with them, I believe the people at the register already think I have massive social proof as I'm always bringing in new people and whenever I'm near the door I always meet someone I already know.
Get my friends registered, then I notice a few of the HBs that I've studied with in high school were looking at me in shock as I was a nerd in high school. Now it seemed that I had dyed my hair red and had piercings. There was a chick who is easily an 8 on my book that looked at me funny, like she had the shy girl + wow, "who is this guy?" look, whereas previously she would've simply ignored me haha. I ignored her as I was too busy to give a shit (bad idea, could've used her for social proof+preselection).
When I saw them in my periphery looking at me, my friends(2 Hbs + 1 guy) pulled out a camera. I told the guy to take a group photo of us(me + HBs) that's what he did. Then I acted like a celeb and asked the guy to take a pic with me, told him to move, told the other girl to take a pic with me, told her to move asked another girl to take another pic with me. All the while, seeming totally cool and nonchalant. Loved the fact that the flashed were going off and that must've attracted attention although I didn't bother to take a look at who was looking.
The performances were starting, but I approached a very very cute girl who was on exchange from the States at the party who was with a friend who is also on exchange. There were 5 of us in a group then as I introduced my friends from another uni to them. At first it was awkward as I was talking to this HB, HBGreenSari, over my exchange friend, as my friend was talking to my friends from another uni over me. But then I moved my friend aside and talked HBGreenSari, she was "hahah, that's better" or something of the like.
I liked HBGreenSari quite a bit, it seemed that she was more interested in me then the performance. We fluffed then I moved her aside since the performance was quite noisy(mini-Bounce #1). Did some palm reading, locked in against a pillar, but it was a bit awkward. So I moved to another side of the pillar, still locked in, and asked her to move in front of me (mini-bounce #2). Then I asked if she had played the cube before, she said no, told her to come sit with me further away from the performance, not many people there and I did her cube. She was IOIing me like crazy, something I noticed when I don't give a shit about IOIs, and just have a fun vibe the IOIs start increasing massively.
I few things about her cube that I teased her with was her horse was black. I told her that I didn't think that she'd like bad boys, and that I didn't know she was a bad girl herself. She giggles, denies this and laughs. Anyhow, for the 3 characteristics about the horse I anchor them to me. But I wanted to move on to my friends, so I number closed and went. Although it seemed that she didn't want to go back to the performance. She is shit cute, perhaps I'll ask her for a day 2. Play her off with HBTarget as I had promised to show her some place else this week. Use the jealousy plotline to increase HBTarget's attraction towards me. HBGreenSari is an Americanized Indian (stereotypically hard to close due to their upbringing, something that a friend of mine has proven to be untrue on multiple occasions) and she's on exchange (which means she's not staying here for long, full-closing material but since she's leaving soon not good for an LTR). HBTarget is not as attractive but I adore her personality.
Left again to pick up a friend of mine from the bus stop, at this point 2 other of my friends have arrived from another uni.
Got him came back, and then a friend approached me, 'Hey where were you man, I didn't see you around" Shit I think to myself, I've been busy bringing friends to the venue that I didn't social proof enough/ it didn't seem like I was there most of the time.
I bantered around for a bit then we queued up for food, here was where my social proof got massive IMO albeit in the line only. I was with 6 guys, in the line, talking shit and having fun. 2 HBs that I knew of cut into the line, I knew them also shot the shit with them and teased them for cutting in line. A guy touched me on the shoulder, I teased him as it had become natural at my stage to make some witty remark, unfortunately guys that you don't know don't lighten up to witty remarks and I had to befriend him as I felt bad that he seemed scared that I told him "don't touch me I charge for every touch" I don't know why I said that to a guy, maybe I just wanted to lighten up the SPAM haha.
Suddenly a guy that I helped show to the venue that I didn't know asks me for something and mentions that I helped him out, which I thought was a massive DHV. Anyhow, one of the HBs, HBMascara, places her hand on my shoulder firmly as we're in line asking me to get her a plate. Gamed her later whilst she was applying henna to my arm, suddenly the lights turned on when I was about to get her number her friend saw and she mentioned she would just give me her Facebook Undecided Btw, my friend phone closed her friend.
Dance, dance, dance. Kino a little with some girls I knew, a friend of mine was acting weird trying to hit on the girls I'm with by bumping hips with them and then with me, I was weirded out so I asked them to go out with me to the balcony where people smoked. There I met another chick, HBKorean, I knew what her name was as she was in my Mandarin class, but I feigned that I didn't know. She said "It's XXX, we're in the same class and you don't know my name!!" (The class has only 30 students).I said "Do you know my name?'' which she did and I said that wasn't my name. Which was really weird IMO but I didn't know how to reply to her indignation Lips sealed.
Met HBKorean again in the venue when I was gaming HBMascara, she was hovering around my area. I asked her whether she had a henna tattoo, she said yes and showed me hers, I took her arm and had a closer look, I commented that it looked like a pile of shit. She giggled.
Then she went off nearby and sat down and did henna on her own arm.
Met another HB, HBhomegirl, didn't want to game her but get to know her as she's from my home country. But I inadvertently gamed her with my banter anyways like "Oh you can't speak that language, OMG I can't even talk to you anymore!" Just for shits and giggles and she ate it up. My friend later commented that she liked me, even though I never intend to materialize this attraction at any point.
It seems that the more I don't give a shit about attracting HBs and be myself the more attraction is generated in a short space of time. Wicked!
I wanted to game HBTarget, but I didn't know how to begin as I'd placed her on a pedestal already...btw, when I did see her she said hi but nothing much and she sat on a chair as she said she was very tired. there wasn't a chair next to her but I sat on the ground as I was tired and really wanted to talk to her then. But this might've looked really bad and try hard or that I was gutsy sitting on the ground btw I asked her to move to a place with 2 seater sofas, she thought about and then said no as she said she was already very tired. This shook my frame and I ejected...
Lessons + issues
1) In order to gain massive social proof one cannot stick to their friends no matter how many there may be. This is because if others don't know you exist even if you interact with many people they won't notice. Get on their radar and then go around talking to friend.
2) Talk to organizers and use them to introduce you to new people. They are there to assist in making the event a success and the attendees happy. Utilize this to get them to introduce oneself to others.
3) Even though I bounced HBGreenSari a couple of times, I really wanted to K-close but I dare not due to some previously held beliefs about the culture. + since the uni is my social circle I'd have to becareful of it tarnishing my reputation if I'm seen snogging a chick in the event. I could've bounced her outside the venue but I dunno how much investment that requires Embarrassed
4) I really want HBTarget to be in an LTR with me as I'm sure it would be great fun, but I dare not go direct on her as I'm not sure if she's still attracted to me since she refused to sit somewhere else with me. This thought might be BS, she could've been genuinely exhausted.
5) I spent too much time with my previously known friends, this was a social event I should've spent more time expanding my social circle!
Thoughts greatly appreciated!
TheApostle
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