Hey Guys,

I'm BS and I am what you call an AFC. I've been reading up on the forums and some other ebooks and I'm convinced that pick up can help me.
I recently got out of a long term relationship. Well, I guess "got out of" is far from the truth. I was dumped pretty hard. It messed me up a fair amount but I'm definitely coming out the other end better for it. Looking back now I can see that I wasn't happy, I was failing in my life goals and had an unhealthy self hatred. My girlfriend was great, gorgeous, smart and kind and she's the reason I got through that period in my life. Long, boring but important story short I'm a very different person now and am ready to take another crack at my dreams.

I've been in university for several years now, and I'm back again for my last year. It's going to be my best year yet. I want to use this thread to keep track of my progress and to get invaluable feedback from you guys. I also want to be held accountable in some way and to be forced to do something. Hopefully posting on this forum will light a bit of a flame under my ass and get me going.
My goal for now is not to become a Pick Up Artist per se. I just want to get to a point where I can attract, and get to know any girl I want so I can nab a real gooder . I'm pretty good-looking and for the most part I have a social and inviting personality. Until now I've never really actively tried to get women. So far they've all come to me and I picked the best one. That would be my ex to whom I lost my virginity. Now that I'm single again I want better than a passive love life. I want to take action and get exactly what I want.

Hope you guys can help me out, I'm not hopeless but I know I'm going to need a lot of encouragement and a lot of advice to get there. So anything you can say to help me out will be appreciated.

So with my arrival at University I suddenly found myself with new roommates and a lot of people to get to know. The last couple weeks I've just been social - meeting new people and making new friends. And boy have I done a lot of drinking lately. I haven't been sick in years and now I've got an annoying scratchy throat that won't go away. I know it's because I've been going to keggers and drinking copious amounts of cheap beer. Being drunk is fun and its fantastic for meeting guys. You don't even have to make sense, just talk to another drunk guy and you will form a bond that lasts through the ages, but I doubt it helps to attract women.
The females I've met are always friendly and open towards me, but I suspect this is just how it is at parties in your social circle . One girl I met at a kegger I could tell really liked me. She came over to me to say hello and was always near me. I talked to her a bit on and off throughout the night and at one point I had some mints in my hand. I held out my hand and asked if she and a buddy of mine wanted to hit some E. My buddy said "Yeah thanks man", took it and let out a "Oh yeah baby! Thats some good shit!" She was absolutely horrified it was hilarious. I let it go for quite a while and she knocked the other mints out of my hand. Later I teased her saying she costed me 240 dollars worth of E. It was some good bantering fun.

I went out to a really hoping club one night, lots of drunk first-years and I mean LOTS. Filled 5 school buses full of drunks and dumped them at this one club. I couldn't get into one of the buses so one of my buddies pulled me through the side window of the bus and I crawled in. Pretty epic start to that night.
At the club I mostly was just social and talked to people I knew there and met some new people. At one point me and a buddy were going around to every group of girls we saw saying it's my birthday and I should get a dance. It was just drunken antics and it worked a couple times. At one point I had two girls grinding on me. One on each leg, that was pretty cool. They were obviously sort of into me but I wasn't sure what to do. I'm not even sure what to do when one chick is grinding up on me much less two!
At another point I was trying to get a drink and was leaning over the counter when a girl shoved her way next to me and tried to get one first. I wouldn't have it. I said playfully, "Oh no you don't!" and I moved back in front of her. She laughed and tried again, we had a bit of a shove match. "OMG! You girls think you can do anything you want!" She said something like "I can and I do!" Anyways we had some banter and she did get the drink before me but she had to fight for it at least. Her boyfriend showed up too so I didn't want to piss him off, she was getting drinks for him.

In the last couple weeks I've learned that I get drunk and I should probably stay as sober as possible. I am a social guy naturally and I make friends and open girls pretty easily but I don't have a game plan and don't progress toward getting further in an interaction. Any advice on how to start developing a routine? Some favorite openers etc? I'll decide on a couple routines to use next time I go out but I'd love to hear from you guys, what works for you etc...
Also, when partying in your social circle does the usual structure apply?

Im at uni aswell and am in the same situation as you!

Sweet Fangorn, always good to be reminded there are other people out there in your situation.

I was sick the last week. Yesterday night was my first night out with game on my mind. I went to hang out with some old friends. Again social circle . I had some material and some routines to play but overall I took some advice and didn't use them much on girls in my circle. To avoid it being revealed that I cycle material.
There was this one girl, I'd say HB9 maybe, in any case she was the hottest one in the place. Everyone was oggling over her. I just kept it cool. Teased her a bit. We played some drinking games with other people and I teased her mercilessly. Got to the point she said I was so mean. But I set a frame of fun and that I was just joking around. She eventually started with the kino herself. Through out the night she was being harassed by other guys. Guys I knew and was friends with, and some guys I knew slightly outside of my circle of friends. But she always came back to me. And I always acted as such, like she was always after me. I did use material on some other girls and it didn't go far, on her I was just playful, teased her, and was social.
Toward the end of the night when the venue died down I went and sat right next to her. Before hand I was always across/away from her, never needy etc.... This time however I stepped it up.
I put my hand on her thigh. I got really, really close. She was teasing me telling me I had to finish my drink. I said why? I have no reason...give me a reason. This worked because of my frame the whole night, busting on her about drinking games and such. She was begging for my attention at this point and I finally gave it to her.
She said something about a line on the cup. I agreed and drank that far. Then she pushed further and I said no, I'm going to need a little something for the rest. She said not here in front of her friends.
I said alright.
Slammed that beer and took her outside.

Now everything was fantastic up until a little later. When I forgot her name. THIS I can imagine is a rookie mistake but I never actually asked her for her name. I heard it before, only because I heard she was the hottest chick in this place but it didn't stick. I was makin out with her in her room and she couldn't believe what was happening. I kept reassuring her that I actually liked her and felt a connection. Which I did, to be honest I couldn't believe what was happening either. I felt like I did everything right! She kept saying she didn't believe me but went along with the escalations.

At one point I felt like she didn't have nearly enough comfort with me to do anything further. It was blatantly obvious. So I figured maybe I would spend some time getting to know her and build some rapport and some comfort until next time. Then somehow! NAMES were brought up. She didn't get mine 100% but she was close. I had NNNOOOOO clue. NO clue what so ever, just a total brain fart. She got up and left. Straight up. I guess she figured everything I said was a total lie and I was only there to get in her pants. That is not true and if you know me, you would know I was genuinely interested in getting to know her and dating her. Sex was actually very very secondary. I am using game to find the one. That is my goal, not to get poon. :S

Anyways, I left her a note in her room saying we both didn't know each others names. I for some reason thought I knew yours just because of the connection we had etc.. And I said something like If you still feel something give me a call and left my number.
Now I'm back home and just IRATE! Is there anyway I can recover from this or is this girl no longer an option? Any advice you guys can give me? I want to fix it somehow since she is indeed in the middle of my circle. I've definitely learned that social circle game is way way more risky. Help me out if you can I would really appreciate any ideas!

BJ720