Hi there folks. I'm new here, but I would just like to ask some questions. I was hanging out with this girl and her two friends the other night; one male and the other female.

I felt I did well with my target (it was the second time I've even seen her, and I got a kiss close) but I know that to build more comfort, I have to keep her friends interested and they have to like me.

Now, the vibe I'm trying to put off is laid back, not needing much to entertain me, comfortable in my own skin no matter what. I apparently made an alright impression on her male friend, but her female friend was bored with me. I found this out because we were sitting in the food court while her male friend was eating, and her female friend had her face resting on her hand - so I interpreted that as her being bored. So I asked, "Are you bored lady?"

She says, "Yeah."

So I say jokingly, "I'm sorry, am I boring you?" (maybe I should have had a bigger smile when I said it, or not said it all - it being a negative statement)

At first she says, "No." then she says, "...well, kinda sort of."

I didn't know how to react, I could feel my face getting red.

Earlier in the conversation (this is still her friend, not the target) she told me outright that "You probably won't like me once you get to know me."

But I didn't let her bored statement get to me, I just kept trying to tease her about it (which I thought was the right thing to do at the time? With my limited knowledge of PUArtistry)

Also, my target stood up for me more than her friend, she said, "Well you don't bore me." and then "I'm sure once she gets to know you she won't find you boring" then jokingly says, "If not I'll beat her up :]"

So please, tell me...

What did I do wrong here, and how can I keep the conversation more flowing so that I can convey that I'm interesting?

Thanks for reading my post. Nice to meet you all, this is a great community.

What were you talking about?

and also why didnt you isolate the target there was obviously another male aka (afc wing) im sure he wouldnt have minded being alone with the targets friend? and also are you looking for a one night stand, FWB, or a relationship?

good point about isolating since there was another male present..



what you should have did was talk up the friend for a while... im thinking since she was not your target... the target was more attractive...

you probably spent all your time with the target, which led to the other girls boredom... you need to keep them both entertained... getting the friends approval is a big step... and will eventually be more beneficial then u thinking in closing you target...


by the comment the target said, well u dont bore me... u had her..


just dont forget to throw some bones to the ugly girl too... let her think she has a small chance...


it will keep her interested... in tunr keeping your conversation with the target going... giving u time to close...

and two by hitting on the ugly girl... the target might get jealous bc she is splitting time with her ugly friend...


also another way to play this would have been , when ugly said well kinda sorta u are boring me... shows signs that you are going to leave the set...


the target would not have let you or u would have gotten the number here

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To The Wild One: I don't really remember now what I was talking about.

I've noticed something though, I ask way too many questions... and I know that makes it feel like an interview instead of flirting.

Although with this set I really yanked the target's chain to flirt. And it worked great...

I've been working on improvising things to talk about, but it's so hard for me.

I'm the type of person that it takes me awhile to think of things.

But I've been working on it.
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To Yigs: I did sort of isolate. We were walking around the mall and while we were in this store her friends sort of walked off and that's when I kissed her.

I'm actually looking to just play the field, I've had a lot of relationships in the past, and I just want to find a girl that'll make me really happy.

Also, me getting into PUA is all about bettering myself internally and socially.
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To Shurgs: I thought so too, even though the girl doesn't seem like she cared much that I was boring her friend, I know that I need to entertain everyone in the set so that I'm perceived as having a high social value or intuition.

Should I have really pretended I was leaving when she said that?

And what do you mean by that exactly?

Do you mean I should have jokingly said, "Oh, well I could leave if that's what you want." and smile while saying it?

Or should I have been quiet and serious and started to get up and leave?
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Also, can someone recommend to me how I can improve upon my humor skills and improvisation?

I've been reading the eBook "Make Women Laugh"

And it helps identify different types of comedy, which is excellent.

But I need some sort of exercise I can do that will help me think of funny or interesting things to talk about.


Thank you all so much for your replies.